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From Despair to Hope: A Lifeline for the Suicidal and Broken

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“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…” ~ Matthew 11:28

In a world burdened by struggles, confusion, and despair, many find themselves in battles that feel overwhelming and unwinnable. Suicidal thoughts, depression, and feelings of worthlessness are weapons used by the enemy to isolate and weaken us. I know because I have been there. The Bible reminds us in Ephesians 6:12 that our struggle is not merely against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of darkness.

People are being tormented by the enemy, Satan, through various means, including addictions, mental illness, and painful life circumstances. The enemy whispers lies of hopelessness, worthlessness, and fear into the hearts of the vulnerable. Yet even in these dark times, there is hope—hope found in the unfailing love of our Creator and the healing power of Jesus Christ.

Understanding the Struggle

Suicidal thoughts are often rooted in deep pain caused by life’s challenges—loss, trauma, addiction, or mental illness. Drugs and alcohol, while often used to numb the pain, can open doors to spiritual oppression, intensifying feelings of despair. Mental health conditions may leave individuals feeling trapped, and overwhelming life circumstances can make escape seem impossible.

It is vital to understand that these struggles are not signs of weakness or failure. Instead, they are symptoms of a larger spiritual and emotional battle. Suicidal thoughts are not who you are; they are part of the fight you are facing.

Hope in the Midst of Despair

Every life matters, and we are deeply loved by our Heavenly Father. God’s Word assures us of His love:

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

God created each of us with purpose and value. He cares for us deeply, from the womb to the tomb, and longs to bring healing and restoration to our lives—mind, body, and soul.

The Gift of Salvation

When Jesus came to earth, He brought hope and freedom. He came to save us from sin and its consequences, offering eternal life to all who believe in Him. Sin, which separates us from God, takes many forms—sexual immorality, addictions, lying, unforgiveness, and more. While these sins weigh us down, Jesus offers forgiveness and redemption.

Through His death on the cross and resurrection, Jesus conquered sin and death. His sacrifice allows us to be restored to God, no matter how broken we feel. Romans 10:9 says, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” This invitation is for everyone, regardless of background or past mistakes.

Breaking the Chains of Hopelessness

The enemy thrives on lies, isolating us with thoughts of worthlessness and despair. To break free, we must replace these lies with God’s truth:

• Lie: “I am worthless.”

Truth: “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).

• Lie: “No one cares about me.”

Truth: “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).

• Lie: “There’s no hope for me.”

Truth: “For nothing will be impossible with God” (Luke 1:37).

Practical and Spiritual Steps Toward Healing

1. Seek God’s Deliverance and Healing

• Turn to Him in Prayer: Confess your struggles to God and ask Him to heal your heart and mind.

• Pray for Freedom from Oppression: Whether your struggles stem from addictions or spiritual attacks, ask God to break the chains.

• Invite the Holy Spirit to Fill You: The Holy Spirit strengthens and comforts us in ways no one else can.

2. Surround Yourself with a Supportive Community

Isolation is one of the enemy’s most powerful tools. Connect with a local church, prayer group, or supportive friends who can encourage you and walk alongside you in your healing journey.

3. Spend Time in God’s Word

The Bible is full of promises and encouragement for those who are hurting. Meditate on passages like these:

• “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).

• “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).

4. Seek Professional Help

• Mental Health Support: Therapy and medical care are essential tools in addressing depression and mental illness. God often works through professionals to bring healing.

• Faith-Based Recovery: If addiction plays a role in your struggles, consider joining a recovery group that focuses on both spiritual and practical growth.

Take One Day at a Time

Healing is a journey, not an instant transformation. Focus on trusting God each day and allowing Him to guide you step by step.

Finding Purpose in Pain

God can take the most painful experiences and use them for good. Your journey, as difficult as it may be, can become a testimony of hope for others. When you allow God to bring healing, your story can inspire and encourage those who feel lost and alone.

An Invitation to New Life

If you’re battling suicidal thoughts, Jesus invites you to come to Him as you are. He loves you unconditionally and offers rest for your weary soul. Lay your burdens at His feet, and trust that He will provide peace and strength to overcome.

As Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers… will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

You Are Not Alone

If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please know that you are not alone. God sees your pain and loves you deeply. Reach out to a trusted person, counselor, or crisis hotline for immediate help. Healing and restoration are possible through Him.

No matter how dark life may feel right now, God has a purpose and a plan for you. He stands ready to embrace you with open arms and lead you into a future filled with hope and healing. Choose life today. Choose Jesus.

A list of organizations that provide support in the USA and UK:

Christian Organizations Offering Support and Resources (USA) 🇺🇸

  1. Focus on the Family
    www.focusonthefamily.com
    Offers counseling, resources, and guidance for individuals and families facing challenges.
  2. Celebrate Recovery
    www.celebraterecovery.com
    A Christ-centered 12-step recovery program for those struggling with addiction, pain, or trauma.
  3. National Association for Christian Recovery (NACR)
    www.nacr.org
    Provides resources for those in recovery and seeking healing through faith.
  4. The Hope Line
    www.thehopeline.com
    Offers free Christian counseling and support for those struggling with depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts.
  5. American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
    www.aacc.net
    Helps connect individuals with licensed Christian counselors for mental health and spiritual support.
  6. Billy Graham Evangelistic Association (BGEA) Prayer Line
    www.billygraham.org | Call: 1-877-247-2426
    Offers prayer and spiritual guidance for anyone in need.
  7. Teen Challenge USA
    www.teenchallengeusa.org
    Faith-based recovery programs for teens and adults struggling with life-controlling issues.
  8. Faithful Counseling
    www.faithfulcounseling.com
    A platform for online therapy with licensed Christian counselors.
  9. GriefShare
    www.griefshare.org
    A support group and resource network for those grieving the loss of a loved one.

Christian Organizations Offering Support and Resources (UK) 🇬🇧

  1. Premier Lifeline (Christian Helpline)
    www.premierlifeline.org.uk | Call: 0300 111 0101
    A confidential Christian helpline offering support and prayer.
  2. Mind and Soul Foundation
    www.mindandsoulfoundation.org
    Provides resources and support at the intersection of faith and mental health.
  3. Christian Counseling UK
    www.counsellinguk.org
    Connects individuals with Christian counselors across the UK.
  4. Hope UK
    www.hopeuk.org
    A Christian organization providing education and support around addiction and substance abuse.
  5. The Samaritans (Christian Volunteers Available)
    www.samaritans.org | Call: 116 123
    Offers 24/7 support for anyone in emotional distress, with Christian volunteers available upon request.
  6. CAP (Christians Against Poverty)
    www.capuk.org
    Provides free debt counseling and support for those in financial difficulty.
  7. Youth for Christ (YFC UK)
    www.yfc.co.uk
    Offers resources and support for young people, with a focus on faith and hope.
  8. Christian Helplines Association (CHA)
    www.christianhelplines.org.uk
    A network of Christian helplines offering prayer and emotional support.
  9. Alcoholics Victorious UK
    www.alcoholicsvictorious.co.uk
    A Christian-based support network for individuals overcoming addiction.
  10. Churches Together in England (CTE)
    www.cte.org.uk
    A nationwide resource to help connect individuals with local churches and support groups.

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** Lori McPherson’s Testimony / By Photo by Marcos Fernandes de Matos at Pexels

Trusting God’s Plan for You

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In life, some may walk, and others may run, but remember—the same Creator gave both the tortoise and the horse time to reach Noah’s ark. It’s not about the speed or pace of your journey but rather the perseverance to stay the course, trusting in God’s timing. Life can be rough and full of challenges, but if you rely on His guidance, you will reach your destination.

When Jesus encountered Peter, he was an ordinary fisherman—not a religious scholar, a leader, or a figure of faith. Peter was impulsive, hot-tempered, and unrefined, known for using rough language and even denying Jesus at a crucial moment. Yet, Jesus still called Peter, saying, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men” (Matthew 4:19). Jesus didn’t focus on Peter’s weaknesses; He saw beyond them to Peter’s potential to become a history-maker. God doesn’t see us through the lens of our flaws or failures but with eyes of love and purpose, calling each of us to leave behind our past and step into His divine plan.

Consider Joseph’s journey in the Bible. His father, Jacob, saw him as a beloved son, but his brothers only saw a dreamer and plotted against him. To travelers, Joseph was merely a slave; to Potiphar, a loyal servant; and to Potiphar’s wife, a man she could try to seduce and manipulate. Even in prison, Joseph was labeled a prisoner. But through God’s eyes, Joseph was something far more: he was a leader, a future Prime Minister of Egypt in the making. His story reminds us that, while others’ judgments can feel limiting, God’s vision surpasses them all. He sees the purpose, promise, and potential within each of us. Don’t let others’ labels define you—God sees a masterpiece being shaped within you.

Throughout the Bible, God calls people from humble, flawed, or broken circumstances and transforms them for His purpose. David was a shepherd boy, unseen and overlooked, yet chosen by God to be king. Esther, an orphan, was elevated to queen and used her influence to save her people. Even those you might overlook today, like a gardener or a maid, may be destined for greatness, seen by God with unique purpose. God’s grace isn’t limited by background, social standing, or appearances; He sees beyond our pasts to the hearts and potential within us.

God’s transformative power touches lives from all backgrounds and walks of life. Abraham was elderly, yet he became the father of nations. David was young, yet anointed as king. Esther was a woman in a male-dominated society, yet she rose to royalty. Paul was once a violent persecutor of Christians, yet he became a pillar of the church. Moses stuttered and doubted himself, yet God chose him to lead His people to freedom. Zacchaeus was short and despised as a tax collector, yet Jesus chose to visit his home. Mary Magdalene was once a prostitute, known for a sinful life, yet she became a devoted follower of Jesus and a symbol of redemption. These lives show that God’s power can redeem anyone, turning brokenness into testimony and struggles into stories of faith.

Our God is a God of transformation. He has never made a promise He couldn’t keep. He has never encountered a person He couldn’t help, a prayer He wouldn’t answer, or a sinner He wouldn’t forgive. This is the God we serve—unchanging, ever-present, and all-powerful. No matter what stage of life you find yourself in, rest in the knowledge that God sees the best in you. His love is without limits, His grace is sufficient, and His plans for you are always for good. As you walk through life, remember: it doesn’t matter how people see you; it only matters how God sees you.

Prayer

“Father, thank You that You look beyond my flaws and see a masterpiece in the making. I trust that You’re working in my life, transforming weaknesses into strengths, brokenness into purpose, and my journey into testimony. Help me to see myself as You see me, full of potential and purpose. I am grateful that Your grace is sufficient for every step of my journey. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

Take heart, and trust in His plan. Share His love with others, lift each other up, and be reminded every day that God’s grace covers all. Embrace the journey, lean into His grace, and know you are loved, chosen, and called. Be encouraged—God’s grace covers all.

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** Photo by Pixabay at Pexels

Guidance for Women Facing Abuse in the Home: Finding Hope and Healing – Part 5

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Dear sister, if you find yourself facing abuse in your home—whether physical, emotional or verbal —know that you are not alone. The path you are walking may feel overwhelming and isolating, with your heart burdened by shame, fear, or a sense of failure. These emotions can feel especially heavy when your desire to honor God and uphold the sanctity of marriage seems to conflict with your need for safety and peace. You may feel as though seeking help is a betrayal of your faith or your marriage vows. But let me assure you of this powerful truth: You are deeply loved by God, and your safety matters deeply to Him.

Abuse is never part of God’s plan for your life. You were created to be cherished, respected, and loved. No woman should ever feel trapped in a situation where she or her children are in harm’s way. The weight of shame that you may feel is not from God—shame is a tool the enemy uses to isolate, manipulate, and keep you from seeking the help and healing that are available to you. Today, I want to remind you of God’s unfailing love, His justice, and His desire for you to find peace, safety, and healing.

This article is for those of you who have a support system and those who feel isolated or without help. Whether you have trusted family, friends, or church leaders, or if you feel completely alone, there is always hope and help available to you. You are not alone in this journey, and God has promised to guide and protect you.

1. God’s Heart for You: Safety and Justice

God is deeply concerned about those who are suffering, especially those who are oppressed and vulnerable. Psalm 82:3-4 says, “Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and oppressed.” He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and His heart breaks with yours as you face abuse.

Marriage is meant to reflect God’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:25-29), and love is selfless, kind, and protective. Abuse distorts this beautiful design. God desires restoration, healing, and wholeness for you—not suffering or harm. You do not have to stay in a place of danger to prove your faithfulness or commitment to marriage. God calls us to protect the life He has entrusted to us, which includes ensuring our physical and emotional well-being.

If you or your children are in immediate danger, your first priority is to seek safety. Leaving the situation temporarily or permanently is not a sign of failure, but an act of love and self-care. God’s heart for you is to be safe, healthy, and protected.

2. Physical Safety: God Cares About Your Protection

If you are facing abuse, remember that God values your safety. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, and it’s our responsibility to protect them. If you are in physical danger, taking steps to get to safety is not just a necessity, it is a reflection of your worth in God’s eyes.

Start by creating a safety plan:

• Emergency Bag: Pack essential items such as identification, cash, important documents, medications, and a change of clothes.

• Safe Places: Identify safe places like a trusted friend’s house, a shelter, or even a public space where you can go if necessary.

• Emergency Contacts: Memorize a domestic abuse hotline or the phone numbers of people you trust who can help.

These steps are not about abandoning your marriage—they are about protecting your life, which is precious to God. You deserve to be safe, to be loved, and to live in peace.

3. Shame Has No Place in Christ

The shame that abuse leaves behind can feel all-consuming. It may whisper lies like, “You must have done something wrong,” or “You are a failure as a wife and mother.” But these lies are not from God. You are not to blame for the abuse you are experiencing. Shame keeps you isolated and paralyzed, but God’s truth breaks those chains.

Romans 8:1 reminds us that, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” You are not defined by what has happened to you, but by God’s great love for you. The Bible assures us that God sees your pain and invites you to find rest in Him. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” His love is unconditional, and He will never abandon you.

4. Biblical Perspectives on Abuse and Separation

For many Christian women, the thought of leaving feels impossible, especially when they are committed to honoring their marriage vows. But it’s important to understand that the Bible does not require you to remain in a dangerous or abusive situation. In fact, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 speaks of separation as an option when peace and safety are at risk. Separation for safety’s sake is not a failure; it is an act of wisdom and care for yourself and your family.

Separation is not a repudiation of your marriage—it is an opportunity for safety, healing, and, if possible, reconciliation. However, it is important to remember that genuine repentance and transformation must come from the abuser for true healing to occur.

God desires for marriages to be healed, but that healing cannot happen without accountability, safety, and change on the part of the abuser.

5. Reaching Out for Help

• If You Have Support: If you have trusted friends, family, or church leaders, reach out to them. Your church may have counseling services or women’s ministries that can offer guidance and help. Connecting with a Christian counselor who understands the complexities of abuse can also provide a safe space to heal.

• If You Have Been Isolated: If your abuser has intentionally isolated you from your support system, it may feel impossible to reach out. But please know that help is available.

• Hotlines and Shelters: Domestic abuse hotlines provide confidential support, legal advice, and information about safe shelters.

• In the U.S.: National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788)

• In the U.K.: Refuge Helpline (0808 2000 247)

• Technology: If it’s unsafe to make calls, some hotlines offer chat or email support. Be sure to use an incognito browser or a trusted device if necessary.

It might feel daunting, but take one step at a time. God will provide the right resources and people to help you navigate this difficult time.

6. Caring for Your Children

If you have children, their safety and emotional well-being are a top priority. Abuse can deeply affect children, even if they are not the direct targets. Proverbs 31:8-9 calls us to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves. Protecting your children is both a biblical and a practical responsibility.

Here are some ways to care for them in this challenging time:

• Provide Stability: Create an environment that feels safe and secure for them, even if it’s temporary.

• Reassure Them: Speak to them about God’s love and remind them that the abuse is not their fault.

• Seek Support: Reach out to professionals who can help address the emotional needs of your children.

God has entrusted your children to your care, and He will equip you with the strength and wisdom to protect and guide them through this difficult time.

7. Legal Protection and Support

Abuse is never acceptable, and it’s important to know that there are legal protections available to you. Romans 13:1-4 reminds us that governing authorities are servants of God, tasked with upholding justice. Reporting abuse and seeking legal protection is not only acceptable—it is necessary to ensure your safety and that of your children.

• Restraining Orders: A restraining order can legally prevent the abuser from coming near you or contacting you.

• Reporting Abuse: Report abuse to authorities so that they can investigate and take appropriate action.

Seeking legal protection does not mean you are abandoning your marriage—it is a step toward justice, safety, and the protection that God desires for you.

8. Trusting God Through the Pain

When you feel alone or uncertain, know that God is with you. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and will guide you as you seek His wisdom (James 1:5). He understands your pain and promises to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Pray for clarity and strength. Trust that God sees your suffering and will bring justice in His time. He will never leave you or forsake you.

9. Hope for the Future

Healing takes time, and the road ahead may seem uncertain, but with God, there is always hope. Isaiah 61:3 reminds us that God can bring beauty from ashes. No matter where you are in your journey, God’s love for you remains unwavering. Whether your path leads to reconciliation or long-term separation, God is with you, and He will work all things together for your good.

A Final Word

Sister, please hear this: You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are a beloved daughter of the King, created in His image and worthy of love, respect, and protection. Seeking help is not a betrayal of your faith—it is a step toward safety, healing, and honoring the God who loves you.

Take even the smallest step today—whether it’s reaching out to a trusted friend, contacting a hotline, or praying for strength. God is with you every step of the way, surrounding you with His grace, justice, and love. You are seen. You are cherished. And there is hope.

You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are deeply loved by the King of Kings. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is an act of courage and faith. By doing so, you are stepping into the truth that God desires you to be safe, whole, and restored.

Please note: More support networks and their contact details can be found in this article: Single Mothers Beware: Not Every Man is a Father

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*** Photo by Chalo Garcia at Pexels

When God’s Truth Gets Compromised

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Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, And clever in their own sight! ~ Isaiah 5:20-24

The connection between rejecting God’s revealed truth and the widespread moral and spiritual failures within the Church is profound. This issue goes beyond cases of abuse or leadership compromise; it strikes at the heart of how the Church perceives and proclaims the authority of God.

The Importance of God’s Design for Marriage

Marriage is not merely a social construct; it is a sacred institution established by God to symbolize the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:31–32). This covenant reflects God’s character, His faithfulness, and His love for humanity. When leaders reject or distort God’s design for marriage, they are not only undermining biblical teaching—they are denying the authority of the Creator Himself.

When a leader aligns with ideologies that contradict God’s revealed pattern for life and sexuality, they are no longer serving the God they are ordained to represent. By accepting cultural redefinitions of marriage and affirming practices contrary to Scripture, they openly reject God’s authority over creation and dismiss His character as good, wise, and loving.

The Assumption:

• If God’s design for marriage is no longer ‘good,’ then God Himself cannot be good, but that is a lie. Psalm 145:9 states, “The Lord is good to all, and his mercy is over all that he has made.”

• If God’s definition of marriage is labeled ‘offensive’ or ‘homophobic,’ then God is cast as a dictator rather than a loving Creator, but that is a lie. John 3:16 states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

• If God’s Word is dismissed as irrelevant in modern society, the Church does not lose its foundation or witness, as this claim is a lie. The gates of hell will not prevail against the true Church, which is not confined to manmade denominations but is the community of faithful believers (Matthew 16:18). Scripture, such as Hebrews 4:12, affirms that God’s Word is alive, active, and transformative, reaching the depths of human nature and exposing truth.

When Church leaders publicly reject the biblical definition of marriage, they reject Christ Himself. This is not a small error; it is a profound act of betrayal. Leadership in the Church requires not just personal faith but a commitment to defend and proclaim the truth of God’s Word, no matter the cultural pressures.

The Connection to Abuse and Cover-Ups

This rejection of God’s authority is deeply connected to the Church’s failure to address abuse. The same leaders who abandon biblical teaching on marriage and sexuality are often the ones who prioritize institutional reputation over justice and truth. Both failures stem from a desire to appease societal trends or maintain power rather than honor God and protect His flock.

The many abuse cases demonstrates the disastrous consequences of this approach. When leaders fail to bring sin into the light, they betray victims, misrepresent Christ, and erode trust in the Church. The attempt to cover up abuse is not merely a failure of human judgment—it is a rejection of the gospel’s call to repentance, justice, and restoration.

Cultural Capitulation Harms the Gospel

The broader cultural capitulation to ideologies around marriage, gender, and sexuality has only deepened the Church’s crisis. By aligning itself with these movements, the Church sends a message that God’s Word is outdated or incorrect. This not only leads Christians astray but gives secular ideologies the power to infiltrate and reshape the Church’s teaching.

For instance, under compromised leadership:

• Children are taught unbiblical ideologies in schools, often endorsed by Church policies.

• Faithful Christians are ostracized for upholding Scripture, losing jobs and reputations.

• Sinful behaviors are affirmed, leaving many under the false impression that they are in right standing with God.

These failures have eternal consequences. Scripture warns that those who live unrepentantly in sin will not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9). Leaders who affirm sin or fail to call for repentance are complicit in leading others away from salvation.

Rejecting Christ Through Compromise

The rejection of God’s design for marriage is not a mere doctrinal misstep; it is a rejection of Christ Himself. The Archbishop of Canterbury, and leaders like him, disqualify themselves from spiritual leadership by their blatant denial of foundational truths.

The Bible makes clear that leaders will be judged more strictly by God because their actions and words influence others, they have a big responsibility. They’re supposed to guide others toward God and live as good examples. If they lead people the wrong way, they’re held accountable for that (James 3:1). Matthew 7:15–20 warns us to watch out for leaders who seem good on the outside but don’t actually live in a way that honors God. Jesus says you can tell who they really are by their “fruit.”

If a leader’s actions show compromise, dishonesty and cause spiritual harm, they’re not following Jesus faithfully. In fact, they’re going against Him, no matter what they claim. This kind of behavior is “anti-Christ,” opposing what Jesus stands for. When the fruit of leadership is compromise, deceit and confusion, it is evidence of a failure to remain faithful to Christ.

In short: Leaders have a heavy responsibility to lead well. If their actions don’t match their words and they cause harm instead of helping, again, it shows they aren’t being faithful to Christ. That’s why we need to be careful and pay attention to what kind of “fruit” their leadership produces.

This is not a minor issue. Leaders who reject biblical truth about marriage, sexuality, or holiness cannot effectively shepherd God’s people. They have aligned themselves with a worldview that is “at enmity with God” (James 4:4).

A Call to Repentance and Reform

The solution to these intertwined issues—abuse cover-ups and doctrinal compromise—lies in repentance and a return to biblical faithfulness. The Church must:

1. Appoint leaders who are born-again, Spirit-filled, and uncompromising in their commitment to Scripture.

2. Hold leaders accountable to God’s standards, not human traditions or cultural pressures.

3. Confront sin openly and pursue justice for victims, trusting in God’s power to restore and heal.

The Church must reject the temptation to conform to societal ideologies and instead boldly proclaim the truth of the gospel. As Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:31–32).

True freedom—freedom from sin, deception, and spiritual harm—comes only through faithfulness to Christ. Leaders who reject this truth and lead others astray bring judgment upon themselves and harm the Church’s witness.

Let us pray for a revival of truth and faithfulness within the Church. May God raise up leaders who will honor His Word, protect His people, and restore the Church’s commitment to the gospel. Only through His grace can the Church be cleansed and renewed.

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***Based on CEO Andrea Williams article at Christian Concern / Photo by Lil Artsy at Pexels

When He Wants Sex Before Marriage – Part 1

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” ~ Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

This is part 1 of a 5 part series. One of the significant struggles for many single Christian women today is dealing with sexual temptation, especially in relationships. In a world that bombards us with messages about sex, it can be incredibly difficult to stand firm in biblical principles. Maybe you’ve been in a situation where your boyfriend has pressured you for sex, or you’ve felt overwhelmed by your own desires. The chemistry between you is undeniable, and the longing for intimacy is natural—but what should guide your decisions: your feelings or God’s Word?

As Christian women, we are called to live according to God’s standards, not the world’s. While culture changes and continues to blur the lines around sexual purity, God remains the same: yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). His Word is the foundation for how we are to live, and this includes our relationships, and no child of God lives in open rebellion.

Dating vs. Courting: God’s Design

Before we discuss sexual pressure, it’s essential to understand that God’s plan for relationships is different from the world’s. Christian women are called not to date casually but to enter into relationships with intentionality—what we call courting. The Bible teaches us that we are to pursue relationships with fellow believers who share our faith. “Do not be unequally bound with non believers. For what partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). If you are dating someone who doesn’t follow Christ, the pressures to compromise your faith will be much greater.

When we court, we seek to glorify God in our relationships. This means we’re not driven by the desires of the flesh but by the desire to honor Him. Courting, unlike the worldly concept of dating, is not about casual romance or sexual exploration; it’s about seeking a godly partner with the ultimate goal of marriage.

God’s Word is clear about abstaining from sexual immorality. As followers of Christ, we must strive to live according to His commands. “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, NIV).

Common Excuses: The World’s Lies

In relationships, some men—even Christian men—may attempt to rationalize why sex before marriage is acceptable. But these arguments are grounded in the world’s way of thinking, not God’s. Let’s examine two common excuses you might hear:

1. “God Understands”

Some men may say, “God understands our struggles,” implying that His grace will cover their desire for premarital sex. Yes, God is merciful and forgiving, but His Word does not change based on our circumstances or struggles. While God understands our temptations, He also provides a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). We are called to resist temptation and remain holy, as He is holy (1 Peter 1:16). God’s standard for purity has not changed, and His grace is meant to empower us to overcome sin, not justify it.

2. “We’re Going to Get Married Anyway”

Another argument you might hear is that sex before marriage is acceptable because you’re planning to get married. The logic is that since you’re committed to each other, you can test your sexual compatibility. But this thinking is rooted in worldly values, not biblical truth. Marriage is a covenant made before God, and sex is a sacred gift that belongs within the confines of that covenant. Engaging in premarital sex is not a test of compatibility—it’s disobedience to God’s Word. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure” (Hebrews 13:4, NIV).

God’s Call to Purity

Sex before marriage is still fornication, no matter how society tries to redefine or excuse it. God’s command to flee from sexual immorality is as relevant today as it was when Paul wrote to the early churches. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NKJV), Paul reminds us: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

We cannot afford to compromise on sexual purity. The world may tell us that times have changed and that everyone is doing it, but as believers, we are not called to follow the world. Romans 12:2 (NIV) tells us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” God’s Word is eternal and unchanging. His design for sex within marriage was established from the beginning, and we are called to honor that.

What to Do When He Wants Sex

If the man you’re courting pressures you to have sex, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. Remember Joseph in Genesis 39—he literally ran from temptation. You may not need to run physically, but you need to create distance emotionally and mentally. Establish boundaries to protect yourself from compromising your purity.

Before you act, have an honest conversation with him. Make it clear that you are committed to honoring God’s standards, and if he truly loves you, he will respect your boundaries. If he continues to push for sex or tries to manipulate you into thinking it’s not a big deal, it may be time to end the relationship. A man who truly seeks God will also seek to honor you by protecting your purity.

Love Isn’t Manipulation

True love, as defined by Scripture, is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). It’s not manipulative or coercive. If a man is using love as an excuse to pressure you into sex, then that love is counterfeit. Real love respects boundaries, honors God, and seeks the best for the other person. Love does not force someone to go against their convictions.

Letting Go When Necessary

Letting go of a relationship is hard, especially when you’ve invested time, energy, and emotions. But no relationship is worth compromising your walk with God. Continuing in sin for the sake of keeping a relationship intact is a sign of misplaced priorities. Trust that God knows what’s best for you, and He will provide the right person in His time.

For the Woman Already Engaging in Premarital Sex

If you’re already having sex in your relationship, it’s not too late to change course. God’s mercy is always available to those who repent. Stop, set new boundaries, and ask God for the strength to remain pure moving forward. Acts 3:19 (NIV) encourages us: “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” It may be difficult, but God will bless your obedience. His forgiveness and grace are always available to those who turn back to Him.

You’re Not Alone

The journey toward sexual purity in a relationship is not easy, but you’re not alone. God is faithful, and He will give you the strength to stand firm. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can encourage and hold you accountable. Pray for wisdom and strength as you navigate your relationships, always keeping in mind that God’s ways are higher than the world’s ways.

There is hope, healing, and freedom in Christ, and together, we can walk this path of purity for God’s glory.

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