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Trying to Control People Is A Lack of Faith

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Key Quotes

“Our work is not manipulation and control, it’s prayer and trusting the Lord, and only to act because He’s leading us, not because we are trying to ‘fix’ somebody in our own power.”

“To be filled with the Holy Spirit is to have the Christian life that we are striving so much for just to “flow from us” in every area – having the clarity, the right word, the wisdom, boldness, peace, strength – every need just “flowing”.  We have to seek the Lord with all our heart above everything else, and seek to be filled with the Holy Spirit – everyday, because every day has new needs.”

“One of the best things we can do for our own peace is to lift expectations off everyone else, looking to God alone.”

“Trying to control other people like this is like trying to force open a flower before it is ready to bloom.  God’s way and His timing is better.”

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INTRODUCTION

I remember one time someone I knew was taking some very careless actions toward his own health, including disregarding doctor advice and refusing some important treatment. His wife was trying to convince him to change his mind, but he was resistant and set on following his own way, even though it was not good for him.

She was carrying a big weight of worry because he wouldn’t listen and she couldn’t convince him. But someone encouraged her with these words, “Don’t carry the guilt for this or his health, since he made his choice and is refusing, you are not responsible – you tried what you could. We are only called to peace. Now just pray, and leave it in God’s hands. That’s your job now, to pray.”

Later she said that this was the word that helped carry her through that situation.

And I was reminded that we have such burdens for others… and that means we want to help them, but we will find that we cannot control them. We can’t control others, but we can choose to lean on God, and pray, and place our trust for the others we are burdened for in His hands.

I see this attitude in Jesus and Paul and the apostles – they exhorted people, but after a certain point they left it to the Holy Spirit to do the work which they could not do in the flesh (John 16:12, Eph 1:15-18).

Jesus said to His disciples, “I have many more things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth…” (John 16:12-13)

Paul said to the Ephesians, “I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened” (Ephesians 1:18)

The example I gave was regarding physical matters.  But regarding spiritual matters, see how clearly Paul, and even Jesus didn’t think they could manipulate people and do a work in the hearts of others with their efforts and words apart from the Holy Spirit’s work.

Question: Why couldn’t Jesus and Paul just tell the disciples what they needed to hear?  Why couldn’t they just explain it to them?

It’s because it’s a matter of LIFE in the heart, not INFORMATION in the mind. Spiritual life is inward, a matter of the will – dying to self, and gaining life in Jesus. Not a matter of “knowing more.”  That’s why, for many, no matter how much truth is explained to them, they either don’t believe it or don’t care. Can you speak such great words that you can convince a dead person to get up and walk?! God has to do something that we can never do: give life; bring a change of heart to a person first.

In the parable of the sower the same seed was sown all over, but only on the good soil did it grow and endure (Mark 4:8).  So much frustration can be avoided for the “sower” when we see that we cannot do the work.  God Himself has to prepare a person’s heart (the soil) before any word can do any good.

Sometimes the work God does in a heart is through the breaking of a deep trial, sometimes through failure, sometimes through a revelation in some way, or witnessing the goodness of God and His love and kindness, or through the testimony of someone else’s life.  Sometimes it’s a long work (like God did in Nebuchadnezzar to break him for 7 years), and sometimes just in a moment (like the thief on the cross).  But either way – God has to do a work in the heart. It cannot be us.  In the beginning – the Spirit was there, and God spoke, and then light and life came (Genesis 1:2-25).  Where was man in all that?  Nowhere!

So do we do nothing?  No! We pray and TRUST GOD. And be patient.  Our work is not manipulation and control, it’s prayer and trusting the Lord, and only to act because He’s leading us, not because we are trying to ‘fix’ somebody in our own power.

How many problems come because we try to compel and force people? Forcing them to change how we think they should, in the way we think. But Jesus was so trusting in the Father.  He said that He preached to those who have “ears to hear” (Matthew 11:15). I believe Jesus emphasized that because He wasn’t trying in His own power (as a man) to do the work that He knew the Holy Spirit Himself had to do in the heart.

Hudson Taylor said: “I’ve learned to move man by prayer alone”.

We exhort people when needed, and urge people we care for, and plead with them – with love. But if they won’t receive it – we have to leave it in God’s hands rather than push and fight and control. God has called us to peace: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men” (Romans 12:18)

A QUESTION

But I’ve found this question comes: “But what if I’m supposed to be doing something or saying something God wants me to do for their good? What if I’m missing something, or neglecting something?” And I’m frantic that I’m not doing things right – that they may miss out because I haven’t “done enough” to exhort them.

Here’s what the Lord has helped me with regarding this (I’ve struggled with this question a lot, personally):

The more we seek to be filled with the Holy Spirit and to put Him first and follow the Lord wholeheartedly – whatever I should speak or do for the sake of another one just flows out naturally, without any of the fretting and worrying “what should I do to move them?” “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness [in your own personal life] and the rest will be added to you.”

We often talk in the church of the necessity of being filled with the Holy Spirit, and it’s sometimes easy to feel like it’s some abstract, far off truth that we don’t understand and so we can’t imagine how it could change anything. This is so far from the truth! To be filled with the Holy Spirit is to have the Christian life that we are striving so much for just to “flow from us” in every area – having the clarity, the right word, the wisdom, boldness, peace, strength – every need just “flowing”.  We have to seek the Lord with all our heart above everything else, and seek to be filled with the Holy Spirit – everyday, because every day has new needs.

The alternative is to labor in our own efforts, for our own will. A lot of what we think is good for someone, how do we even know what is good for them?!  Constant badgering people is a form of trying to control them, nagging, complaining and arguing is a form of trying to control them, lashing in anger, giving a condescending look of disapproval and judgment, even sharing a Bible verse with the wrong spirit (condemnation, guilt, and threatening – rather than love) can be a form of trying to control them!

And all of this is the sin of unbelief on our part because we are trying to take situations into our own hands with others in our own way, rather than trusting God.

PERSONAL SITUATION – JUST TRUST GOD

One time I was talking to someone about the fear I had that another person would do something or cause something that would be very difficult.  I was wondering, “What more should I do besides pray?”  I asked a question to someone I trusted, “But what if this person does this?”  And they said to me, “You need to TRUST the Lord.”  It was so simple… but it was like my eyes were opened in 1 second – I saw that all of my thoughts and plans about all I needed to do and say, and fears of ‘What if’ were: a lack of faith.  It was plain and simple unbelief.

LOVE

One of the best things we can do for our own peace is to lift expectations off everyone else, looking to God alone.

We can’t decide how they act or treat us, but we can by God’s grace decide to love them and treat them right. Not even just for their sake but more importantly for the glory of God –

“…if anyone suffers as a Christian, he is not to be ashamed, but is to glorify God in this name.” (‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭4‬:‭16‬)

We are living before His face alone, our business is mainly that He will get glory from our own life… placing no expectations that others have to change at all, but maintaining a hope for others that in God’s time, He will do the work.  For those within the boundary of our authority (e.g. our children), we do have to labor to correct and guide them.  But we have to follow the Spirit regarding what to say and how to interact… without being frantic and ‘exasperating’ them (Col 3:21), or ‘Lording it over’ them (1 Pet 5:3).  This is not controlling people, this is a labor of love for their eternal good in Jesus.

MAYBE IT’S THE LORD’S WILL

Someone we know may be in sin or out of the Lord’s will. It may be affecting us, or others. Perhaps they won’t listen to anyone, and in that case we have to leave it.  But from our point of view, regarding ourselves and any affect it has on us, we have to consider: “Maybe it’s the Lord’s will to allow this.”

Shimei threw rocks at David.  David essentially said, “Maybe it’s the Lord’s will… so I will not fight” (2 Samuel 16:10).

For Shimei – definitely he was in sin. But for David – it was God’s will for him to endure that faithfully.  God didn’t cause all the mess, but He allowed it, and David accepted it because of His faith – “God must be allowing this for a reason.  Maybe it’s for me, that I need this.”

CONCLUSION

Whatever I write here I’m also working to encourage myself with God’s promises and His Word: Regarding the people we are burdened for (or burdened by!), we have to trust God.  We do what we can from our part, but our hope completely has to lean on His ability, and not in our own endless efforts to force other people.

Trying to control other people like this is like trying to force open a flower before it is ready to bloom.  God’s way and His timing is better.

And regarding the meantime, it’s a slavery to live life muddling through in discouragement and fear, concerning ourselves with what everyone else is doing or may do, feeling that we can never be happy in the Lord unless this other person changes.  God wants us free from that.  Seek the Lord to be delivered from that slavery!

One of the greatest lessons we can learn in this life before we leave this earth is that there is a fulfillment, joy and satisfaction in God and Christ alone, apart from anything else and anybody else (Psalm 73:25, Php 3:8) which is there for us to gain before Heaven.

Leave it to the Lord, and especially in His timing. Live before God’s face alone in humility, carrying your own cross and humbly accepting every person that He decides should be in your life, along with all the difficulties that may come through them, and patiently bearing the burdens you have for them (Eph 4:2).

Be patient.  Place it in God’s hands and rest.

Even when you feel that you can do nothing (like you are ‘asleep’ in the situation), remember that God is still working:

“It is vain for you to rise up early, To retire late, To eat the bread of painful labors; For He gives to His beloved even in his sleep.” Psalms‬ ‭127‬:‭2‬

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**By Bobby MacDonald © Copyright – Bobby MacDonald. No changes whatsoever are to be made to the content of the article without written permission from the author at NCCF Church our website: http://nccf.church
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The Sovereign Majesty of God in a World of Darkness

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We are living in a time where darkness is not only increasing, it is being normalized, justified, and even celebrated. Evil is no longer always hidden in the shadows; it is often presented openly, repackaged as truth, and embraced by many. What Scripture warned about is unfolding before our eyes: good being called evil, and evil being called good. There are systems, institutions, and individuals who exalt themselves, who seek control, who redefine morality, and who attempt to take the place that belongs to God alone.

There are wolves in sheep’s clothing, those who outwardly appear righteous, compassionate, or trustworthy, yet inwardly are driven by pride, deception, and self-interest. There are agendas that operate both in plain sight and behind closed doors. There is manipulation of truth, distortion of reality, and a growing boldness in rebellion against what is holy and right. Many things that once would have been recognized clearly as wrong are now defended, protected, and even celebrated, while those who stand for truth are often ridiculed, silenced, or opposed.

Behind all of this, Scripture reveals a deeper reality: this is not merely human behaviour, it is spiritual warfare. Satan, described as the deceiver of the whole world, works through lies, through hardened hearts, and through minds that have been darkened. The Bible speaks of consciences that become seared, of people who suppress the truth, and of a world that increasingly follows its own sinful desires. This is why the darkness feels so deep, it is not just external, but spiritual at its root, influencing thought, culture, and direction. And yet, in the midst of all this chaos, corruption, and rebellion, there is a truth that stands firm, unshaken, and eternal: God is still on the throne.

“Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalm 46:10)

This is a declaration of absolute authority. God is not reacting to events as they unfold. He is not surprised, overwhelmed, or challenged. He is sovereign over all things—past, present, and future—and He declares the end from the beginning. Regardless of how far humanity drifts into rebellion, His name will be exalted in all the earth. To “be still” is not merely to be quiet, it is to cease striving, to stop placing ultimate trust in human systems, to stop fearing what man can do, and to recognize the reality that God alone reigns. It is a call to re-center our perspective in a world that constantly pulls us away from truth.

God Still Rules Over All

It may appear, on the surface, that men control the world, that governments determine the future, that powerful individuals shape history, and that decisions made behind closed doors dictate the direction of nations. But Scripture pulls back the curtain and reveals what is truly happening beneath the surface.

“The king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases.” (Proverbs 21:1)

This imagery is deliberate and profound. A watercourse does not ultimately decide its own direction, it flows according to the channels that have been carved out for it. In the same way, the hearts of kings, presidents, rulers, and authorities are directed by God. Even when they believe they are acting independently, they are moving within boundaries that God has established. Even those in the highest positions of power are not beyond God’s reach. Their decisions, their rise, and their fall all exist under His sovereign will. What appears to be unchecked authority is, in truth, governed authority, authority that is permitted, limited, and accountable.

“He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others.” (Daniel 2:21)

This verse strips away the illusion of permanence from human power. Governments rise, flourish, and fall. Empires dominate for a time and then collapse. Leaders come into power and are removed, sometimes unexpectedly, sometimes gradually, but always under God’s authority. No government stands forever. No system escapes His control. No ruler ultimately writes their own destiny. What looks like strength is temporary. What looks like control is limited. What looks like permanence is fleeting.

This is why even Nebuchadnezzar, the great king of Babylon, who once glorified himself and took pride in his achievements was humbled by God. At the height of his power, he believed his kingdom was the result of his own greatness. But God brought him low, stripped him of his reason, and allowed him to experience the consequences of his pride until he finally lifted his eyes to heaven. And when his understanding returned, his confession stands as one of the most powerful acknowledgments of God’s sovereignty in all of Scripture:

“His dominion is an eternal dominion… He does as he pleases with the powers of heaven and the peoples of the earth. No one can hold back his hand or say to him: ‘What have you done?’” (Daniel 4:34–35)

This is the end of all human pride. Every proud ruler, every corrupt system, every person who exalts themselves and seeks to take the place of God will one day face this same truth: God cannot be challenged. God cannot be overthrown. God cannot be questioned.

The Reality Behind the Darkness

The darkness we see in the world is not random. It is not merely the result of flawed human systems, it is the outworking of spiritual rebellion that has existed since the beginning. Scripture tells us that Satan blinds minds, deceives nations, and works through those who are willing to follow their own sinful desires. This is why there are those who promote lies as truth, who celebrate what is destructive, and who oppose what is good while presenting themselves as righteous and enlightened.

Jesus warned clearly:

“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.” (Matthew 7:15)

These wolves are not always obvious. They may appear kind, articulate, intelligent, and persuasive. They may gain influence, build platforms, and attract large followings. But their message subtly leads people away from truth and toward deception. There is darkness operating both in plain sight and under disguise. There are forces that seek to reshape morality, redefine truth, and draw people away from God. But none of this escapes God’s awareness or control.

“The Lord has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all.” (Psalm 103:19)

Even the works of darkness exist within limits. They are not ultimate. They are not eternal. They are permitted for a time, but they will be judged.

The Illusion of Human Power

In a world obsessed with achievement, recognition, influence, and outward success, people are constantly striving for things that ultimately cannot save them. Entire lives are spent chasing status, wealth, appearance, validation, and control, yet these things, no matter how impressive they may seem, cannot address the deepest need of the human soul. Jesus confronts this illusion directly with a question that cuts through every layer of human ambition:

“What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, yet lose his soul?” (Mark 8:36)

This is not just a rhetorical question, it is a warning. A person may accumulate everything the world values: riches, fame, power, physical strength, beauty, knowledge, and still lose what is most valuable and irreplaceable. The soul is eternal. It does not perish when the body dies. It continues, either in the presence of God or separated from Him. This means that the true measure of a life is not what is seen externally, but what is true internally. A person may appear successful in every worldly sense and yet be spiritually lost. Another may appear insignificant by worldly standards and yet be rich toward God. Life itself is fragile. It can change in a moment. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. No amount of influence or wealth can secure even one extra day beyond what God has appointed. And when life ends, everything that was pursued in this world, every possession, every achievement, every title is left behind. Only the soul remains, and its eternal destination is sealed.

The Urgency of Now

Every human being has value because every person is created by God and deeply loved by Him. From the very beginning of life to its final breath, God sees, knows, and cares. He is not distant or indifferent, He is intimately aware of every life. But while God cares for both body and spirit, Scripture makes it clear that it is the spirit that lives on forever.

We have been given free will, the ability to choose. Every day we make decisions between truth and deception, good and evil, obedience and rebellion. These choices shape not only our lives but also influence others, sometimes in ways we may never fully see. And yet, there is a moment that every person will face: we will all stand before God.

“We must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)

This is a real and unavoidable reality. Every thought, every word, every action, and every hidden motive will be brought into the light. Nothing will remain concealed. Everything will be revealed in truth. This leads to the most serious question a person can ask: Who can stand before a holy and perfect God? The answer is humbling: no one can stand on their own.

“All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23)

Sin is not merely a list of wrong actions, it is the condition of the human heart. It is a state of separation from God, expressed through thoughts, desires, and behaviors that go against His holiness. It includes things that many attempt to justify or minimize: sexual immorality, idolatry, addiction, drunkenness, lying, stealing, unforgiveness, hatred, anger, gossip, pride, and selfish ambition. God sees everything, not only what is visible to others, but what is hidden within. He sees intentions, motives, and desires. Because God is holy and just, sin cannot simply be ignored.

“The wages of sin is death…” (Romans 6:23)

This is not only physical death, it is spiritual death, eternal separation from God. Yet in the face of this reality, God did something extraordinary. Out of love, mercy, and grace, He made a way for humanity to be restored.

Jesus Christ came into the world, not as a political leader or earthly king, but as a Savior. He entered into the brokenness of humanity, lived a perfect and sinless life, and then willingly took upon Himself the punishment that we deserved. He was mocked, rejected, beaten, and crucified. Nails were driven through His hands and feet. A crown of thorns was pressed onto His head. He was scourged until His flesh was torn. He bore the full weight of sin, our sin. He died. He was buried. And on the third day, He rose again, defeating sin and death. Jesus is alive. It is the foundation of hope, the turning point of history, and the only reason salvation is possible. Jesus made an exclusive and undeniable claim:

“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6)

There is no alternative path. No amount of good works, religious activity, moral effort, or human achievement can bridge the gap between humanity and God.

“Our righteous acts are like filthy rags…” (Isaiah 64:6)

“The gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)

Time is one of the greatest uncertainties of life.

“Now is the day of salvation.” (2 Corinthians 6:2)

The world constantly encourages delay, “later,” “another time,” “when I’m ready.” But Scripture warns against this mindset. Life is short, and eternity is certain. Every moment is an opportunity to respond, but no moment is guaranteed beyond the present.

“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9)

“Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life…” (John 3:36)

This decision determines your eternal destination. When we look at the increasing darkness, confusion, and upheaval in the world, it can feel overwhelming. But Scripture tells us that these things are not random, they are like birth pangs, increasing in intensity as history moves toward God’s ultimate plan

The Triumph of God and the Call to Endurance

Even as darkness spreads and deception seems to prevail, Scripture assures us that God is fully in control and His kingdom will come in all its glory. The book of Revelation reveals the ultimate outcome of human rebellion and spiritual warfare. Though the enemy works through lies, pride, and violence, none of it escapes God’s awareness or authority. Satan and his followers may seem powerful, but their victory is temporary, and every act of evil is measured against the eternal plan of God. Jesus Himself declares:

“I am the Alpha and the Omega… the Almighty.” (Revelation 1:8)

He is the beginning and the end, the One who holds all history in His hands. Every nation, every ruler, every scheme, no matter how cunning or oppressive is moving toward His appointed judgment and ultimate triumph. When He returns in power, every act of injustice will be judged, every tear wiped away, and every faithful life fully rewarded:

“On his robe and on his thigh he has this name written: KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS.” (Revelation 19:16)

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)

This truth is meant to inspire courage and endurance. The struggles we face, the lies we witness, the evil we cannot stop these are like birth pangs, signs that God’s plan is unfolding. They are not meaningless; they are part of the process that brings about ultimate justice and restoration. It is vital to remember that God’s ways are not our ways, and His timing is not ours. We may feel frustrated, anxious, or impatient as we see wickedness appear unchecked or prayers seemingly unanswered. Yet God is orchestrating events according to His perfect wisdom, and what seems slow or hidden to us is unfolding precisely according to His plan:

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8–9)

Even when earthly justice seems absent, Scripture assures us that there will be perfect justice in God’s kingdom. Jesus will judge according to each person’s deeds, rewarding righteousness and punishing evil. Every act of oppression, every deceit, every abuse of power is noted by Him, and none will go unanswered. Earthly systems may fail, but God’s eternal justice cannot fail:

“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)

Believers are called not only to trust but also to pray as part of the spiritual battle. Prayer is not just personal comfort; it is a powerful weapon against the forces of darkness. When we pray, we align ourselves with God’s will, invite His intervention, and intercede for the world. Scripture repeatedly reminds us that spiritual realities are influenced by prayer: it can strengthen the church, protect the vulnerable, and restrain the enemy’s schemes. Prayer is the channel through which God’s power moves in response to His people’s faith and obedience.

“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)

“Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.” (Ephesians 6:18)

Through prayer, we participate in God’s work. We are called to pray for wisdom, courage, and guidance, as well as for the advancement of God’s kingdom. Spiritual vigilance and prayer go hand in hand: while we endure earthly trials, our prayers are part of God’s unseen, eternal strategy to bring about His will.

“Be faithful… and I will give you life as your victor’s crown.” (Revelation 2:10)

“Here is a call for the endurance of the saints…” (Revelation 14:12)

God sees everything. He knows the hidden struggles, the silent prayers, the private battles of heart and mind. He is not distant or uninvolved. He will act at the appointed time. Every injustice will be addressed, every lie exposed, and every faithful life rewarded. What may seem like delay is actually divine timing. Every event is part of His perfect plan, moving history toward the triumph of His kingdom.

Therefore, the call is clear: be still and recognize God’s authority. Place your trust in Jesus Christ, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, who alone saves, restores, and reigns forever. Life is fleeting, and eternity is certain. Each choice, each act of obedience, each moment of faithful prayer matters. Now is the time to turn fully to Him, to stand in faith, to live in righteousness, and to participate in the spiritual battle through prayer.

“Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalm 46:10)

God reigns. He will triumph. Those who remain faithful will share in His eternal victory. The darkness around us is real, but it is temporary. The kingdom of God is coming, justice will be served, and His name will be exalted in all the earth. Stand firm. Pray fervently. Trust Him. Take courage—for the Lord is with you, and His ultimate victory is certain.

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Sitting on the Fence of Eternity: There Is No Neutral Ground with God

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In a world that often celebrates compromise and neutrality, the idea of “sitting on the fence” can seem harmless, even wise. Yet when it comes to God, eternity, and the eternal state of our souls, neutrality is impossible. Scripture is clear: every heart will respond to God’s truth, and our response determines our eternal destiny.

In recent discussions, some leaders have presented neutrality on deeply moral issues as a ‘balanced’ position. Yet Scripture never offers a middle ground when it comes to sin, truth, life, or eternity. God calls every heart to respond—either toward Him or away from Him.

“See, I have set before you today life and good, death and evil. If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God that I am commanding you today, loving the Lord your God, walking in His ways, and keeping His commandments, you will live and multiply, and the Lord your God will bless you. But if your heart turns away and you are not obedient…” — Deuteronomy 30:15–17

The Lord’s Word does not return void (Isaiah 55:11). Every message of Scripture, every gospel witness, every call to repentance and faith carries power. It either softens a heart toward God, producing life and salvation, or hardens it, leaving a soul in rebellion. There is no neutral effect. To ignore God, to delay repentance, or to compromise on truth is not neutrality—it is sin of omission, and Scripture warns that such negligence carries consequences.

Consider the teaching of Jesus:

“Whoever is not with Me is against Me, and whoever does not gather with Me scatters.” — Matthew 12:30

This is the heart of the issue: sitting on the fence is, in effect, standing against God. When faced with the living Word, each of us must decide. Every person is either softened or hardened by it; every heart is changed for better or worse. Indecision in the spiritual realm is still a choice—and every choice has eternal consequences.

In practical terms, compromise can take many forms. For instance, professing faith while condoning or excusing sin, remaining silent when Scripture calls us to speak, or following cultural trends over God’s Word—all of these are ways people “sit on the fence.” While society may call this tolerance, God calls it rebellion.

Paul reminds us in Romans 1:18–20 that even what is seen in creation testifies to God, leaving humanity “without excuse.” Our consciences, our reasoning, and our encounters with Scripture all demand a response. And every moment of inaction is not neutral—it is part of the account each of us will give before a holy God:

“So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” — Romans 14:12

The choice is urgent. Eternity is binary: life in Christ, or separation from Him. The fence cannot hold us forever. It is not a safe resting place; it is a spiritual danger zone where hearts can grow calloused, where souls can drift into rebellion, and where opportunities to repent may be lost.

The good news is that God does not leave anyone on the fence by design. His invitation is clear, persistent, and loving:

“Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

Turning to Jesus, repenting of sin, and surrendering to Him is the only secure place. God’s grace is ready to transform hearts, forgive sins, and grant eternal life. But the fence cannot save. It only delays the inevitable choice each soul must make.

Conclusion

There is no neutral position with God. Every heart will respond to His Word, whether in faith or rebellion, whether softened or hardened. To sit on the fence is to risk eternal consequence. The call is urgent: turn from sin, accept Christ, and follow Him fully. Neutrality is a luxury eternity does not afford. Choose today whom you will serve.

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Forget Coldplay’s Kiss Cam—What Happens When God Puts Your Life on the Big Screen?

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Foreword (July 2025)

After watching the viral Coldplay kiss cam debacle—an awkward, unfiltered moment projected onto a stadium screen and then replayed endlessly online—I couldn’t help but think of this article Jeremy Utley wrote a few years ago. That kiss cam caught two people in a moment they probably wish could be erased.

But what about when our entire lives are put on display—every thought, word, and action—before God Himself?

This reflection, “Screening An Un-Blanked-Out Documentary,” written in 2022, feels even more relevant today. The world is quick to spotlight our embarrassing moments, but heaven is watching for something deeper: the moments that hold eternal significance.

Screening An Un-Blanked-Out Documentary

Published 2022

“Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise will come to him from God.” ~ 1 Corinthians‬ ‭4:5‬ ‭NASB‬‬

At the judgment seat of Christ, all of God’s ways will be seen to be perfectly just and righteous. That’s why we’re commanded to wait to judge — because there will come a day when even the secret motives of men’s hearts will be revealed, and then and only then can we judge righteously. Jesus says the same thing in Luke 12:2-3:

“But there is nothing covered up that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known. Accordingly, whatever you have said in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in the inner rooms will be proclaimed upon the housetops.”
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The picture I have of the judgment seat is one where everyone who has ever lived will see my every thought, word, deed, and motive, and will be able to see that God’s judgment of my life is perfectly righteous. It’s as if a documentary of all my life — inward and outward — will be on a giant movie screen for everyone who’s ever lived to see. And all people, finally having “perfect information” so to speak, will come to the same exact conclusion that God does in His judgment of my life. For some, that may be an absolutely terrifying idea. But for Christians, we can take comfort knowing that God has “blotted out” those sinful spots on the tape (Psalm 51:9), because He chooses not to remember (Isaiah 43:25) any of the sins that we confess in the name of Jesus Christ (1 John 1:7,9). Praise God for that!!

But Christian, let me ask you a question: how will you feel if, when it’s “showtime” for your documentary in heaven, your entire movie is just a series of blanked-out scenes and bleeped-out speech? No sound, no video, all blank? Definitely no sin there to speak of, just hours and hours of silence. Non-footage, so to speak. It’s as if your life almost never took place. Will that be cause for rejoicing?

Or does that sound terrible to you? I must say that I will be utterly heartbroken if my documentary is all bleeped-out footage, with nothing worth screening in the final day! I want more than that! I want a life that brings God glory and honor and praise (Philippians 1:10-11), a life He can put on display to the rulers and authorities in the heavenly places as evidence of His trustworthiness and wisdom and power (Ephesians 3:10, Job 1:8), a life that is not merely stripped of all evidence of bad, but that fulfills all the good that God had in His heart when He made me (Ephesians 2:10)! (I encourage you to read those verses and see whether that is God’s hope for your life too.)

The Holy Spirit says that “each man’s work will become evident; for the day will show it because it is to be revealed with fire, and the fire itself will test the quality of each man’s work. If any man’s work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward. If any man’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire” (‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭3:13-15‬)‬‬. I don’t know about you, but that’s not what I want the subtitle of my movie to be: “saved, yet so as through fire.” To be sure, I’m not interested in reward, except that it will be something I get to throw at my precious Savior’s feet (Revelation 4:10). What I’m interested in is a life that brings God praise and glory in the final day, and the way to do that is to seek for there to be something left on the tape after the fire blots out all of the footage that dishonors the Lord. 

Lord, according to Your Holy Spirit’s work in me, I want an un-bleeped tape! I want my life to count for You! I want to be a part of the manifestation that shames the devil and brings glory to Jesus Christ in the final day, that extols His trustworthiness and power. 

“But you are A CHOSEN RACE, A royal PRIESTHOOD, A HOLY NATION, A PEOPLE FOR God’s OWN POSSESSION, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; for you once were NOT A PEOPLE, but now you are THE PEOPLE OF GOD; you had NOT RECEIVED MERCY, but now you have RECEIVED MERCY. Beloved, I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts which wage war against the soul. Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.”
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭2:9-12‬ ‭NASB‬‬

Our good deeds may never be evident to worldly-minded people during our life on earth. But our hope is that, in the final day, when all things are known perfectly, and they watch the movies of our lives, they would have cause to glorify God. Not because there’s a blank tape (unlike their filthy tape), but there’s a tape filled with evidence of God’s glory. 

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**By Jeremy Utley © Copyright – Jeremy Utley. No changes whatsoever are to be made to the content of the article without written permission from the author at NCCF Church / Photo by Annushka Ahuja at Pexels

Life Is Short. Eternity Is Long. Are You Ready?

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We often hear, “Life is short… better enjoy it!” But how about this: “Eternity is long… better prepare for it.”

“For what shall it profit a man, if he gain the whole world, and suffer the loss of his soul?”

— Mark 8:36

We live in very sobering times. This life is not paradise. It is a preparation for paradise. How we choose to live it will determine how we spend eternity — in heaven or in hell. Death, Judgment, Heaven, and Hell: these are the Four Last Things. And they’re not distant — they’re approaching with every tick of the clock.

Many say, “Life is short, enjoy it while it lasts.” But eternity? It will be very long. You better prepare for it.

We are so caught up in this life — in money, relationships, entertainment, career — we give little attention to the life that never ends. Yet Jesus taught that every soul has an eternal destiny — either heaven or hell (John 5:25–29). And that destiny is determined in this life (Luke 16:19–31). Every choice matters.

“The days of our lives are seventy years;

And if by reason of strength they are eighty years,

Yet their boast is only labor and sorrow;

For it is soon cut off, and we fly away…

So teach us to number our days,

That we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

— Psalm 90:10,12

Time is collapsing. Technology is advancing — faster travel, faster internet, faster communication — yet we seem to have less time for what matters. We’ve gained speed but lost direction. We’ve advanced in knowledge but declined in wisdom. And worst of all — we are drifting further from God.

We are shadows that vanish. Grass that withers. Time is passing — and so are we.

“My days are like an evening shadow that lengthens and vanishes…

But You, O Lord, shall endure forever.”

— Psalm 102:11–12

From the moment you were born, you began dying. In 90 years, most of us reading this will be gone. The grave waits for no one.

So… what will you do with the time you have?

Every person gets the same 24 hours a day. But how we use it shapes our eternity.

Let’s say you live to 70:

The first 15 years? Childhood and adolescence. Around 20 years? Spent asleep. The final 5 years? Likely reduced activity. That leaves just 30 years — and even that includes eating, working, paying bills, and daily responsibilities.

What will you do with the years you have left?

“What is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.”

— James 4:14

Even the wealthiest person cannot buy more time. Scientists cannot invent more minutes. Doctors cannot guarantee more years.

The most valuable thing you have is your time — use it for God.

“Be very careful, then, how you live — not as unwise but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.”

— Ephesians 5:15–16

The world is dark — violence, immorality, brokenness. But Jesus is calling His people to shine as lights and make disciples. To do that, we must stop wasting time and start investing it in what truly matters.

Too many Christians tithe their money but not their time. We find time for entertainment, social media, and distractions — but little for God.

We have time… but what are we using it for?

You have time to:

Seek Christ Serve others Obey His will Fulfill your calling

You want to be with God after death — but do you want to spend time with Him now?

Where is your heart? Where is your treasure? Where is your time?

“My times are in Your hand.”

— Psalm 31:15

Can you say this honestly? That your time — your life — belongs fully to God?

So… How Do You Give Jesus Your Heart?

You may be wondering:

“How do I know I’m saved? How do I give my heart to Jesus and prepare for eternity?”

It starts with repentance.

That means turning away from your sin — from living life your own way — and turning to God.

“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out…”

— Acts 3:19

We’ve all sinned. Sin separates us from God and leads to death — not just physical death, but eternal separation.

But the good news is this:

God sent His Son, Jesus, to die for your sins.

He took your place. He bore your punishment.

He rose again to give you life — eternal life.

“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

— Romans 5:8

To be saved, forgiven, and made right with God:

1. Acknowledge that you are a sinner in need of a Savior.

2. Believe that Jesus died for you and rose again.

3. Confess Him as Lord — surrender your whole life to Him.

“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”

— Romans 10:9

This is more than a prayer. It’s a life-altering commitment.

Here’s a simple prayer you can make your own:

“Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner. I have broken Your laws and lived for myself. But I believe You died for me and rose again. I ask You to forgive me, wash me clean, and give me a new heart. I turn from my sin, and I turn to You. I surrender my life — all of it — to You. Be my Savior, be my Lord, and help me follow You all the days of my life. Thank You for saving me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

If you prayed that sincerely, you’ve taken the first and most important step into eternal life.

But remember — salvation is not the finish line. It’s the starting point.

Now begin walking with Him:

Read the Bible (start with the Gospel of John)

Pray — talk to God every day via prayer

Join a Bible-believing church Get baptized

Share what God has done in your life

“And this is the way to have eternal life—to know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one You sent.”

— John 17:3

Your time is still in God’s hands. Don’t waste another moment.

Live for what truly matters.

Live for the One who gave His life for you.

Give Him your heart — today.

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** By Shalom for the world / Photo by KoolShooters at Pexels