Let Prayer Be Your Work

Key Quotes

“The Lord has been prompting me to use some of that time to just sit down (or go on a short walk) and not do anything except talking to Him and listening – for the sake of just being present with Him and wanting to hear His heart”

“And this word: ‘Let prayer be your work’ has come to me so powerfully. Instead of looking at all the things I have to do and say and plan to attempt to micromanage circumstances and accomplish a work in my life or in someone’s life, I’ve come to the conclusion that ‘consistent prayer without giving up’ is what the Lord has led me to commit to; because it’s God that has to do the work.”

“We need not feel guilty if the prayer is short for the day. Or if it’s not so many fancy words. The question is, did I pray to the Lord with a burden? Even if it was just for 30 seconds. Did I put my heart into it and mean it?”

“Keep pressing on in prayer even if you feel nothing for that day. Faith is consistency. Faith continues when feelings go up and down.”

“And be patient. God’s timing is usually slower than ours because He’s doing a quality work. We try to push things faster and it’s like pushing open rose petals before it’s ready to bloom. It won’t work. It’ll ruin the rose in all of its beauty. Let the Lord choose the time – and let constant prayer be your work until then.”

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By nature, in my flesh I have tended to have a bit of a restless personality. When I have a bit of free time my mind tends to be wandering around, eager to find, “what to do next?” And trying to find some activity to keep myself occupied. Lately the Lord has been prompting me to use some of that time to just sit down (or go on a short walk) and not do anything except talking to Him and listening – for the sake of just being present with Him and wanting to hear His heart.

I believe this is a good habit to have as we’re able throughout the day.  A few moments with the Lord in the midst of a busy day can refresh our spirits greatly.  Did Jesus have hobbies?  I believe here was His hobby (as He got time and was able): Luke 5:16 – “Jesus Himself would often slip away to the wilderness and pray”

And very similar to this picture of going from busyness to resting in God (of calming down from all my outward actions and trying to find ‘nuggets’ of time to spend time with the Lord), the Lord has also been calming me down inwardly with regard to pulling back from the “work” of trying to control circumstances and people, and having me rest by leaning on prayer alone.

I remember one time there was a season I found myself trying to push circumstances and people for what I believed were good things (and were according to His will), and He spoke to me so clearly a word which totally changed the way I went forward: “You’re laboring in your own effort.  Cease striving. Let prayer be your work.”

Sometimes God leads us to take some action or speak some word which changes a situation instantly – like the blind man who washed his eyes in the pool, or the paralyzed man who picked up his mat and walked. With regard to our sin, our action should always be to repent immediately, and pray for God’s grace for help going forward.  But regarding circumstances it can be a bit different.  Sometime it’s to take some action to follow God’s leading, and at other times I’m seeing that there is no action at all He wants me to do right now except to trust: to pray and wait. And to keep praying and commit to never give up until God does something!

George Muller prayed daily for over 50 years for a friend to be saved. I’m sure that he preached to this friend, and tried to convince him of the gospel. But after all of his convincing and preaching, and thinking “What should I say?” there was no fruit.  His friend didn’t respond at all.  So what to do?

He committed to pray daily.

Not for a month, or some months, or even a few years.  He committed to pray for as long as it takes, daily.

I’m sure that those daily prayers weren’t always perfect or long. But I believe George Muller got to the point where he realized: “I cannot change my friend. So I will pray daily and not give up. Prayer will be my work for him from this point forward. Daily. For as long as it takes. Decades if needed.”

George Muller died and this man was still not saved. But do you know what happened after Muller died? The man was finally born again and saved! God answered.

Was it worth 50 years of daily prayer?  Do you think George Muller is looking back from Heaven at his time on earth saying, “Ooh that was such a long difficult wait in prayer, praying everyday like that..”? No way!

These two brothers are together now in eternity and I believe that man is going to be expressing constant gratitude not for 50 years but for eternity to George Muller!

And this word: “Let prayer be your work” has come to me so powerfully. Instead of looking at all the things I have to do and say and plan to attempt to micromanage circumstances and accomplish a work in my life or in someone’s life, I’ve come to the conclusion that “consistent prayer without giving up” is what the Lord has led me to commit to; because it’s God that has to do the work.  Prayer to move God to work and to do what I cannot do is the eternal lasting work that replaces all my plans and scheming of my own effort – to overcome sin, to rise above trials, to work in someone else’s heart. It’s also the one work we can take no credit for but have to give God the glory.

AN EXAMPLE

Whenever I meet a person whose children are all older and following the Lord (late teens or godly young adults in their 20s), pretty much every time I get a chance I ask that person: “What was your secret? What did you do?” And I saw something amazing with all of them: as far as I can remember, every single person has answered me with exactly the same answer: “It wasn’t our work. We prayed for them.“

We know that we have to pray 24 hours a day, without ceasing (1 Thess 5:17). Most people do not practice that constant habit of listening to God and talking to Him. We need to have a life like that. But in addition to that, I believe we should also have specific times to pray for specific burdens, taking time with a couple or few things which are really important and committing to pray for them.  Consistency is the important thing – don’t give up.  Pray constantly, specifically for a burden. I know some people who would pray during their full hour commute everyday, many of the same things each day.

Whatever it is, the point isn’t a length of time but that we have decided to take on a burden to bring to the Lord, and we will not give up (Luke 18:1-8). And we say: “This is one important thing I will fight for in this life and so I will pray everyday for decades if needed, and prayer will be my work.”

We need not feel guilty if the prayer is short for the day. Or if it’s not so many fancy words. The question is, did I pray to the Lord with a burden? Even if it was just for 30 seconds. Did I put my heart into it and mean it? Jesus wasn’t against short prayers or even repetitive prayers.  Jesus didn’t say He was against repetitive prayers, He said He was against “meaningless” repetitive prayers (Matt 6:7). Some days we’ll feel the burden more than others. But I think of George Muller and his 50 years. Just keep going.

Keep pressing on in prayer even if you feel nothing for that day. Faith is consistency. Faith continues when feelings go up and down.

George Muller, when he saw no fruit for his friend after evangelizing to him probably stopped asking, “what am I doing wrong? Is there something else I should say to him?” Because he tried everything and realized it wasn’t his power but God’s that had to do the work. He stopped working himself and said, “Lord I’m just going to bring it to you now for however long it takes. I’m powerless, you have to do something.” This is what it means I believe to come to the rest of Hebrews 4. Canaan.  We stop asking, “what am I doing wrong?” and trying to think of what to do next – and instead we look to the Lord.If you’ve been trying to accomplish something in your own power (which you know is a good thing in God’s will), and you’re not seeing fruit, it doesn’t mean you did something wrong… it means you have to pray! 

“For the one who has entered His rest has himself also rested from his works, as God did from His.” ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭4‬:‭10‬

“We don’t know anything, we’re powerless but we’re looking to you” – 2 Chronicles 20:12. Some things God wants us to take a specific action of obedience on and He will work through that. But for many things it’s not His time yet, and we have to wait on the Lord in prayer.

Even Jesus was at this point with His disciples:

“I have many more things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own initiative, but whatever He hears, He will speak; and He will disclose to you what is to come.” John‬ ‭16‬:‭12‬-‭13‬ ‭

Even Jesus saw that He had to not lean on His own works, but commit to pray for His disciples until the Holy Spirit came powerfully to do what even He could not do in person (John 16:7).

CONCLUSION

Dear brother/sister – if you have been trying to do something or accomplish which you believe is God’s will, perhaps for years, consider this: decide that from now on you will stop trying to push the circumstance yourself. Instead, you will step back and pray until God does something. You will commit to it even for years or decades until He does something.

And be patient. God’s timing is usually slower than ours because He’s doing a quality work. We try to push things faster and it’s like pushing open rose petals before it’s ready to bloom. It won’t work. It’ll ruin the rose in all of its beauty. Let the Lord choose the time – and let constant prayer be your work until then.

It doesn’t mean you won’t do anything. Perhaps He may lead you here and there to take some action. But remember that you’ve tried so many of your own actions in your own control and they haven’t worked. Zero fruit. It’s time to commit your plans to the Lord and pray.

“Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He will do it. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light And your judgment as the noonday. Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭37‬:‭5‬-‭7‬ ‭

It says the Lord WILL do it.

Let prayer be your work.

Col 4:2 “Devote yourselves to prayer”

This has been one truth that has given me perhaps more rest than almost any other. Stop working and planning and controlling. Look to Jesus! Let prayer be your work from now on.  And Col 4:2 goes on to tell us also in faith give thanks while you do this work.

If I can’t be thankful now while I’m waiting on the Lord, then I won’t be able to be thankful later when the Lord answers.

“Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving;” ‭‭Colossians‬ ‭4‬:‭2‬

The Lord will do it. And when it’s done all glory will go to Him because you stopped working. It was all His doing.  And He’s getting even more glory now by your pressing on in faith without seeing, than He will after the work is done and you praise Him then!

This is the power we have in Jesus to accomplish God’s will, to fight Satan’s work, to glorify God and shame the devil, and to bind things in Heaven and on earth.

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**By Bobby McDonald © Copyright – Bobby McDonald. No changes whatsoever are to be made to the content of the article without written permission from the author at NCCF Church

Debunking “Once-Saved, Always Saved”

This doctrine teaches that salvation can never be lost, despite the lifestyle you lead or the actions you take–even if it means denying Jesus and turning your back on Him. This view is based on Romans 8 and John 10 which in summary state that nothing can separate us from the love of God, and that Jesus’ sheep have eternal life and no one can pluck them out of His hand.

For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.  And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified…neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.ROMANS 8:29-30,39

I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand.JOHN 10:28-29

This belief also affirms the emphasis on the perseverance of the saints, which means that any true believer will not choose to turn away from the Lord. Therefore, if anyone chooses to walk away from the Lord, it signifies they were never truly saved. The basis for that teaching is found in 1 John 2, which states that those who left the church were never really a part of it.

They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us.1 JOHN 2:19

This theological stance is very controversial amongst Christians. There are well-respected theologians and pastors on both sides of this issue. I also have dear friends who differ from me on this topic. 

What The Bible Teaches
1. The Bible teaches that salvation is by grace, not by works

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.EPHESIANS 2:8

We are not saved by doing good works and we don’t maintain our salvation by doing good works. God’s divine grace saves and sustains us. The grace of God saves but it also teaches us to deny sin. 

For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people.TITUS 2:11,12

Paul, the grace teacher, writes that while we are not saved by good works we are saved to do good works.

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.EPHESIANS 2:10

2. Born-again believers have an assurance of their salvation.

Having an assurance of salvation is different from having evidence of salvation. The evidence of salvation is manifested through changes in a person’s conduct and character. The new birth produces a new nature which results in a new lifestyle. We are confident that we are saved based on the promises of God, not on our subjective experience, feelings, or moods at any given time. We shouldn’t live in fear and doubt about the certainty of our salvation! We see in 1 John 5, that those who have the Son have eternal life. Believing in Jesus guarantees us eternal life. 

And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son of God does not have life. I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.1 JOHN 5:11-13

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.JOHN 3:16

3. There is plenty of evidence that suggests that it’s possible for believers to willfully turn away from their faith in Jesus Christ.

God gives us the choice to accept Him or reject Him. It’s evident in the words: “whoever believes” found in John 3:16. But, we don’t lose our free will once we surrender to the preaching of the Gospel and to the Holy Spirit who leads us to repent and turn to Christ. Salvation is not an irreversible decision! Giving your life to Christ is not like joining a Colombian cartel with no chance of getting out. You can renounce your citizenship if you live in the USA. If you’re married you can break the covenant of marriage with your spouse. I am not saying that you would want to renounce your salvation, but you can. You’re not trapped. 

We need to remember that the New Testament letters were written to Christians who trusted in God’s grace and salvation through Christ Jesus. Here are a few verses that suggest that genuine believers can willfully turn away from their faith and forfeit their salvation. 

“It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age, if they FALL AWAY, to be brought back to repentance, because to THEIR LOSS they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace.”HEBREWS 6:4-6

The epistle of Hebrews was written to Jewish believers who had put their faith in Jesus Christ as their Messiah and Savior. They came under pressure and persecution to return to the synagogue and the Jewish religion. During this, some capitulated and turned away from Christ. They returned to Judaism which refutes the Gospel’s message of salvation–redemption exclusively through faith in Christ’s sacrifice of blood on the cross. This passage especially speaks to them. 

They had:

• Once been enlightened by the gospel.

• Tasted the heavenly gift of eternal life.

• Tasted the good Word of God about New Covenant truths.

• Tasted the powers of the age to come–the future kingdom age when Christ returns.

• Been partakers of the Holy Spirit.

But now, they had fallen away, having been pressured to return to Judaism by denying Christ Jesus. They had fallen away by apostasy, renouncing their faith in Christ. They put Him to open shame. It was a recantation or desertion, and once they did that, it was impossible to renew themselves again to repentance. No matter how much you try to bend these verses, it’s pretty clear here that it’s talking about believers. 

“Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will DEPART from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons.” 1 TIMOTHY 4:1

You can’t depart from the faith if you were never in the faith. And, we know that some will depart in the last days. If you don’t believe this to be true, look up how many notable Christians have left the Christian faith, renounced their belief in Jesus Christ, and became atheists just in the last 10 years. To say that they were never believers would be a huge stretch and to say that they are still saved after disclaiming their faith would be a greater stretch. 

“Then you will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death, and you will be hated by all nations because of me. At that time many will TURN AWAY from the faith and will betray and hate each other, and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold, but he who stands firm to the end will be saved.”MATTHEW 24:9-13

It was Jesus who said that when times get hard people will turn away from their faith. This was evident during the persecution in the communist Soviet Union. The Soviet police would offer to spare your life if you would openly deny Christianity and report your Christian brothers to the communist party. Even to this day, the Chinese and other communist governments persecute Christian believers in the same way. 

If you can remain saved after denying Jesus, then why did Jesus ask us to stand firm until the end

“Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior. But now He has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation– IF indeed you continue in your faith, established and firm, not moved from the hope held out in the gospel. This is the gospel that you heard and that has been proclaimed to every creature under heaven, and of which I, Paul, have become a servant.”COLOSSIANS 1:21-23

Did you see the word if in Paul’s statement? According to this verse, we are to continue in our faith, established and firm, not moved from the hope held out in the gospel. Some, however, decide willingly to depart from the faith, which is why Paul addressed the conditional phrase if, following the truth about our reconciliation by Christ’s physical body.

“…But they were broken off because of unbelief, and you stand by faith. Do not be arrogant, but be afraid. For if God did not spare the natural branches, he will not spare you either. Consider therefore the kindness and sternness of God: sternness to those who fell, but kindness to you, provided that you continue in His kindness. Otherwise, you also will be CUT OFF.”ROMANS 11:20-22

Using the example of the Israelite nation and how they were cut off due to unbelief, Paul argues that we, non-Jews, are saved by faith and we should continue in His kindness or else we will be cut off as well. Why warn about the possibility if it’s not possible for believers to be cut off? 

“See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that TURNS AWAY from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. We have come to share in Christ if we hold firmly till the end the confidence we had at first.”HEBREWS 3:12-14

The writer of Hebrews addresses brothers who might harbor sinful, unbelieving hearts that may turn away from the living God. Once again, he affirms that we share and enjoy security in Christ if we hold firmly until the end. 

“Timothy, my son, I give you this instruction in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by following them you may fight the good fight, HOLDING ON to faith and a good conscience. Some have rejected these and so have shipwrecked their faith. Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.”1 TIMOTHY 1:18-20

Paul is talking about two believers who have shipwrecked their faith. Faith is like a ship that gets us from point A to point B, but that ship can be wrecked. Do you remember the Titanic? You can choose to jump off the ship if you want to, but it’s better to stay in the lifeboat. 

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. IF a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is THROWN AWAY and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into THE FIRE and burned.”JOHN 15:1-6

An alternate translation of the second verse (the Passion translation) is that He lifts up every branch that is barren. The branches He throws away in verse 6 are those that don’t abide in the vine. Someone can try to use logic with this illustration and say: well branches can’t possibly choose to not abide, but according to Jesus, it is possible. Verse 5 says that we, human beings with free will, are the branches. We can’t use human logic to try and explain spiritual truths. We have to let the Word of God educate our understanding, not let our understanding try to educate God’s Word. 

“You have become estranged from Christ, you who attempt to be justified by law; you have fallen from grace.”GALATIANS 5:4

The word “estranged” means “separated” and “alienated.” This verse teaches that the one who attempts to justify himself by the law of Moses has become separated from Christ and has lost the benefits of Christ’s grace, which includes salvation. 

“Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins.”JAMES 5:19-20

This starts with the word “brethren,” so we can know that this was written to saved Christians. James then continues, “If anyone among you,” signifying that this statement is regarding other Christians. He stated that a Christian can wander from the truth! He also said that if a faithful, Christian servant were to turn a backslidden Christian back to God, he would be bringing back a child of God who was classified as a lost sinner. And what does the text say that this faithful believer would do? He would SAVE A SOUL FROM DEATH! James was not referring to physical death here; rather, he was referring to spiritual death! So, here’s a good question for those who subscribe to the “Once Saved, Always Saved” theory: 

How can we save another Christian’s soul from death (eternal separation from God), if at one point that person was considered saved and assumed to always be saved?

4.  John Wesley who summarized the “once saved, always saved” teaching infers or presumes that somehow:
  • No virgin’s lamp can go out…(Matthew 25:8)
  • No promising harvest can be choked with thorns…(Matthew 13:7)
  • No branch in Christ can ever be cut off for not abiding…(John 15:6)
  • No forgiveness can ever be forfeited… (Matthew 18:32)
  • No name can be blotted out of God’s book…(Revelation 3:5; Exodus 32:33)
  • No salt can ever lose its flavor…(Matthew 5:13)

“Once Saved, Always Saved,” says that nobody can ever:

  • “Receive the grace of God in vain”… (2 Corinthians 6:1)
  • “Bury [their] talents”…(Matthew 25:18)
  • “Neglect such great salvation”… (Hebrews 2:3)
  • “Look back” after putting [their] hand to the plow… (Luke 9:62)
  • Nor “deny the Lord that bought them” and “brings upon themselves swift destruction” (2 Peter 2:1)
  • Nobody, or body of believers, can ever get so lukewarm that Jesus will spew them out of His mouth… (Revelation 3:16)

“Once Saved, Always Saved” will argue that: 

  • If you are lost, you were never found (John 17:12)
  • If one falls, he was never standing (Romans 11:16-22; Hebrews 6:4-6)
  • If one was ever “cast forth,” he was never in, and “if one ever withered,” he was never attached to the vine and once green (John 15:1-6)
  • “If any man draws back,” proves that he never had anything to draw back from (Hebrews 10:38,39)
  • If one ever “falls away into spiritual darkness,” he was never enlightened (Hebrews 6:4-6)
  • If you “again get entangled in the pollution of the world,” it shows that you never escaped (2 Peter 2:20)
  • If you “put salvation away” you never truly had it (Hebrews 10:35; Psalms 51:11)
  • If you make a shipwreck of your faith, there was no ship of faith there, to begin with!! (1 Timothy 1:19)
5. 1 John 2 which deals with antichrists, not backsliders, is used to argue that if you “lost” your salvation, it means you never had it. 

“Little children, it is the last hour; and as you have heard that the Antichrist is coming, even now many antichrists have come, by which we know that it is the last hour. They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us; but they went out that they might be made manifest, that none of them were of us.”1 JOHN 2:18-19

It’s true that there are false conversions of people who are carrying the spirit of the antichrist. It is also true that when the sower sowed a seed only 1 out of 4 types of soils produced a good harvest. 

Not everyone who comes to the front of the church or raises their hand to pray the sinner’s prayer is born again. But to say that every person who walks away from Christ is an antichrist and was never saved is a huge stretch. Plenty of verses we covered already prove otherwise. 

6. The logic of “once saved, always saved” is very flawed at best.

For example, they say, “once you are born again, you can’t be unborn” and therefore you can’t lose your salvation. But there are many spirit beings who were once children of God. For instance, there were angelic beings like Lucifer and the others who took part in his rebellion and are now outside of God’s family. The Bible often uses the picture of a family and marriage to illustrate the spiritual reality of belonging to God. But, everyone knows that you can disown your own family, and even divorce your spouse.

Another logical reasoning is that salvation is eternal, but if you can lose it then it means salvation is only temporary. As I mentioned before, nowhere does the Bible hint that it is impossible to renounce or forfeit our salvation once we have received it. The Scriptures are clear–a believer can backslide, a coin can get lost, sheep can go astray, and a son can become prodigal. A backslider is on dangerous ground and needs to be challenged to repentance, lest his backsliding leads to apostasy. We can also consider Judas Iscariot, who was a part of the inner circle of Jesus but ended up betraying Him and committing suicide.  

7. Christians can’t lose their salvation but they can willfully choose to forfeit their salvation by walking away from the Lord. 

We are convinced that true believers will enjoy the assurance of their salvation. We need not be afraid of losing our salvation like a wallet dropping from a pocket in a careless moment. The Scriptures assure us as believers of God’s provision and of the sustaining power of His Holy Spirit. Acknowledging that there is a real danger in backsliding and that we are able to abandon our salvation, does not mean that we should live in continual fear of doing the unthinkable.

For instance, a passenger flying on a plane is guaranteed to reach his destination. They will arrive at their destination safely unless they choose to do something crazy like open the cabin door and jump out. Forfeiting salvation is like jumping out of an airplane.

“My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. They shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand.”JOHN 10:27

The very promise that is argued in favor of “eternal security” is not unconditional but conditional! Those who are given the promise of eternal life are those who “hear His voice and follow.” Indeed, no one can snatch them out of Jesus’ hand, but they themselves can place themselves outside of His hand.

8. Christians don’t lose their salvation by struggling with temptation and sin but by practicing lawlessness.

There is a huge difference here between struggling with sin and living in sin. 

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I NEVER knew you; depart from Me, you who PRACTICE lawlessness!’“MATTHEW 7:21-23

Here, Jesus refers to evildoers whom He never knew; they are not among those who got saved and then walked away from Him. They were never saved. Look at their state: they practice lawlessness. Practice is what our church’s worship team does to get better at singing. When you practice something, you desire to get better at doing it.

“If they have escaped the corruption of the world by knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and are AGAIN entangled in it and overcome, they are WORSE off at the end than they were at the beginning. It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness than to have known it and then to turn their backs on the sacred command that was passed on to them.”2 PETER 2:20-21

If a believer continually, deliberately, willfully, and knowingly practices living a sinful lifestyle, they place themselves on ‘dangerous ground’. 

“If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of JUDGMENT and of raging FIRE that will consume the enemies of God. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think a man deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace?” HEBREWS 10:26-31

9. If a Christian can lose their salvation, that means that the Holy Spirit can be taken away. 

God took His Spirit away from king Saul, even though Saul, in the beginning, was counted among the prophets, prophesied, and spoke in tongues (see 1 Kings 10:9-13 & 16:14). Another Scripture points out that King David, in repentance, cried out to God to not take His Spirit from him. 

Do not banish me from your presence, and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me.PSALMS 51:11

Paul writes in Ephesians 1 that after we believed in Christ, God sealed us “with that Holy Spirit of promise.”  

In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that Holy Spirit of promise. The Spirit is God’s guarantee that He will give us the inheritance He promised and that He has purchased us to be His own people. He did this so we would praise and glorify him.EPHESIANS 1:13,14

The word “sealed” does not mean to be stuck in or sealed inside. It means to be “marked” or stamped with a private signet indicating ownership. But Paul also writes in Ephesians,

“Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.”EPHESIANS 4:30

Final Thought: 

The Scriptures consistently teach us that man has the power of freely choosing between life and death, and God will never violate that power. A true believer can willfully choose to apostatize, reject God’s grace, and forfeit their salvation. We are safe and secure in Jesus but, if we ultimately reject Him, we forfeit our secure standing in Him. Nonetheless, we can rest assured that God’s grace, which saved us in the first place, is ever-present to warn, check, encourage, and sustain us.

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*** By Vladimir Savchuk Ministries / Photo by El Jusuf at Pexels

The Ruth Era: A Season of Faithfulness, Redemption, and Quiet Trust

When women speak about being in a “Ruth era” or “Ruth season,” they are drawing from the Bible story in the Book of Ruth. It is a picture of faithfulness, humility, and trusting God through seasons of uncertainty. While Esther’s story is often associated with preparation, refinement, and divine positioning in places of influence, Ruth’s story speaks deeply of loyalty, obedience, surrender, and trusting God when life has not gone according to plan. The Ruth era is often understood as a season where God is teaching a person how to remain faithful, even in loss, while quietly leading them toward redemption.

Ruth’s story begins not with abundance, but with grief. She experiences deep loss, uncertainty, and the collapse of the life she once knew. Her husband dies, and the future she may have imagined for herself suddenly disappears. Yet instead of becoming bitter or retreating into fear, Ruth chooses something extraordinary, she chooses loyalty, courage, and faith. This is one of the defining marks of a Ruth season. It is often a time when something significant has ended, when life feels uncertain, and when the next chapter is not yet clear. It may be the ending of a relationship, a period of waiting, a painful transition, or a season of rebuilding after disappointment. Like Ruth, many people in this season find themselves stepping into the unknown, trusting God without having the full picture.

One of the most powerful aspects of Ruth’s story is that she was a Moabite, a foreigner, an outsider, and someone who would not naturally have been expected to become part of Israel’s story. This detail is deeply significant. The Moabites were not part of God’s covenant people, and historically there had been tension between Moab and Israel. By every natural standard, Ruth stood outside the promises, traditions, and inheritance of the people she was entering. Yet Ruth’s story is a beautiful reminder that God’s grace extends beyond human boundaries. Though she was not born into Israel, her faith, humility, and willingness to follow the God of Naomi brought her into something far greater than she could have imagined.

Her inclusion in the lineage of Jesus Christ reveals a profound spiritual truth: God’s redemption has always been wider than many expected. Ruth reflects the heart of the gospel long before the New Testament, the truth that God welcomes those who were once far off and brings them near. For many, this is one of the most comforting parts of a Ruth season. You may feel like an outsider. You may feel as though you do not quite belong, or that your past disqualifies you from what God may have for you. Ruth’s story says otherwise. It reminds us that God is not limited by our background, our history, or our place of origin. What matters is our willingness to trust Him and walk faithfully where He leads.

Ruth’s journey begins with her remarkable commitment to Naomi, her mother-in-law. After both women suffer profound loss, Ruth makes the courageous decision to remain by Naomi’s side. Her famous words, “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay,” reflect a spirit of deep loyalty and covenant. Ruth chooses faithfulness even when there is no obvious reward. She chooses love, even when it costs her something.

This is central to the Ruth era. It is a season of learning steadfastness. It is about showing up, remaining faithful, and doing what is right even when no one is watching. It is often less glamorous than an Esther season. There are no palace doors opening yet. Instead, there are fields to walk through, responsibilities to carry, and quiet acts of obedience that may feel ordinary, but are deeply significant in God’s eyes.

One of the most overlooked but deeply valuable parts of Ruth’s journey is her willingness to listen to and follow the wise counsel of an older woman. Throughout her story, Ruth remains attentive to Naomi’s guidance. She does not act independently or impulsively. She receives instruction, listens carefully, and responds with humility. Naomi, having lived through hardship and loss, becomes a source of wisdom and direction during Ruth’s uncertain season.

This speaks powerfully to the importance of spiritual mentorship and teachability. A Ruth era is often a season where wise counsel becomes essential. God may place trusted elders, mentors, or spiritually mature voices in your life to help guide you through unfamiliar territory. Ruth’s humility in receiving Naomi’s advice demonstrates strength, not weakness. It reminds us that wisdom often comes through those who have already walked difficult roads. In a culture that often celebrates independence above all else, Ruth teaches the value of being teachable. Sometimes the guidance of someone who has gone before you can protect you from unnecessary mistakes and help you recognise opportunities you might otherwise miss.

One of the most powerful images in Ruth’s story is her gleaning in the fields. She works humbly, gathering what is left behind so that she and Naomi can survive. She is diligent, disciplined, and willing to labour in a season of uncertainty.

Many people interpret this as a season of quiet rebuilding. It may involve working hard, developing consistency, and embracing humility. It may be a season where you are simply doing the next faithful thing, building routines, healing emotionally, managing responsibilities, and trusting that God sees your efforts. Ruth teaches us that even ordinary faithfulness can be sacred when offered to God.

There is also a physical and personal dimension to Ruth’s preparation. Although much of her story centres on work and loyalty, there comes a moment when Naomi instructs Ruth to wash, anoint herself, and prepare to meet Boaz. This is significant because it reflects a transition, a movement from mourning into readiness.

For many, a Ruth era includes this kind of personal renewal. It may involve emerging from grief or weariness and beginning to care for yourself again. This can include rest, healing, restoring confidence, and honouring your body through intentional care. It may look like strengthening yourself physically, improving your health, tending to your appearance, and learning to step forward with quiet dignity. Ruth reminds us that preparation is not always dramatic. Sometimes it is simply choosing to rise, wash, anoint yourself, and move into the next chapter with grace.

Spiritually, Ruth’s story is one of extraordinary trust. Ruth leaves behind what is familiar, her homeland, her culture, and her previous life, to follow Naomi and, ultimately, the God of Israel. Her journey is one of surrender. She does not know what lies ahead, yet she continues to move forward in faith. This is why a Ruth season is often associated with trust and obedience. It is a season where God may ask you to let go of what was and follow Him into unfamiliar territory. You may not yet see the outcome, but you are learning to trust His provision one step at a time.

Perhaps one of the most beautiful truths in Ruth’s story is the role of Boaz as her kinsman-redeemer. In biblical law, a kinsman-redeemer was a close relative who had both the right and the responsibility to restore what had been lost, whether land, inheritance, or family security. Boaz steps into this role, not only providing protection and provision for Ruth, but redeeming her future.

Spiritually, Boaz is often seen as a powerful reflection of Christ Himself. Just as Boaz willingly redeemed Ruth, Jesus becomes our Redeemer, restoring what was broken, covering what was vulnerable, and bringing us into a new inheritance we could never secure on our own. Ruth could not redeem herself. She needed someone with both the authority and the willingness to do so. In the same way, humanity cannot restore itself apart from Christ. The beauty of Ruth’s story is that redemption is not earned; it is received through grace.

This makes the Ruth era not only a story of faithfulness, but also a story of learning to trust the Redeemer. It is a season where you may be learning that not everything needs to be fixed through your own effort. Sometimes God is teaching you how to receive His covering, His provision, and His restoration in the areas where you feel most vulnerable.

Through God’s providence, Ruth’s faithfulness leads not only to personal restoration but to a place in a much greater story. Her union with Boaz places her directly in the family line of Jesus. What began in loss ends in legacy. What began in uncertainty ends in redemption. What began with an outsider ends with someone woven into the very story of salvation.

This reminds us that a Ruth era is often a season where God is quietly weaving something far greater than we can see. What feels like simple obedience may be part of a much larger purpose. What feels like waiting may actually be divine alignment. What feels like small acts of faithfulness may be laying the foundation for something eternal.

The Ruth era is not about striving. It is not about chasing. It is about faithfulness. It is about trusting God enough to work diligently, love loyally, heal quickly, honour wise counsel, and walk humbly into what He has prepared.

To be in a Ruth era is to believe that God can redeem what has been lost. It is to trust that even in seasons of uncertainty, He is guiding your steps. It is the field before the harvest, the obedience before the blessing, and the quiet faithfulness before the unfolding of His greater plan.

The Ruth era is not about immediate answers. It is about learning to trust the Redeemer while the story is still being written.

A Prayer for the Ruth Season

Heavenly Father,
Thank You that You meet us not only in seasons of clarity and abundance, but also in seasons of loss, waiting, and uncertainty. Thank You that even when life feels unfamiliar, You remain faithful and near.

Lord, in this Ruth season, I bring You my heart as it is. Where there is grief, bring comfort. Where there is disappointment, bring healing. Where there is confusion about the future, bring peace that steadies my steps day by day.

Teach me to remain faithful in the quiet places. Help me not to despise the small things, the hidden work, or the ordinary days. Give me grace to keep showing up, to keep doing what is right, and to trust that You are present in every detail.

Lord, shape my character in this season. Make me loyal like Ruth, humble in spirit, and willing to obey even when I cannot yet see the outcome. Guard my heart from bitterness, comparison, or striving, and instead root me deeply in trust.

Give me wisdom to receive counsel with humility. Place the right voices in my life, people who will guide me with truth, patience, and godly insight. Help me to be teachable, and give me discernment to follow Your direction above all else.

Strengthen me for the fields I am in right now. Whether I feel seen or unseen, help me to work with diligence and integrity, knowing that You see and You are near. Let faithfulness become my posture, even when it feels unnoticed.

And Lord, I trust You as my Redeemer. In the places where I feel loss, restore what only You can restore. In the areas where I feel vulnerable, cover me with Your grace. Where I cannot fix things myself, teach me to rest in Your provision and timing.

I surrender my unknown future into Your hands. Lead me step by step, just as You led Ruth, until I am aligned with the purpose You have already prepared.

Thank You that my story is not over. Thank You that what looks like delay is not denial, and what feels like ordinary faithfulness is being woven into something greater.

I trust You, Lord, not only with the outcome, but with the process.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

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*** Picture by Mahdi Chaghari at Pexels

15 Warning Signs Your Partner Might Be Abusive

Before you get emotionally invested or committed to someone, it is important to take off any rose tinted glasses and pay close attention to how they actually behave, not how you hope they will be. When people show you who they are early on, it is usually best to believe them the first time rather than explain it away or minimise it.

Many people do not intentionally ignore red flags, but they become so focused on the potential of the relationship that they overlook behaviour that is already showing them the truth. You should not be so desperate for connection or afraid of being alone that you place yourself in a situation where your safety, wellbeing, or peace of mind could be at risk later on. What may start as small uncomfortable moments can, over time, develop into patterns that are far more serious.

Sometimes these warning signs are obvious in hindsight, like neon flashing signals that were there all along, but at the time they are dismissed because of hope, attachment, or lack of experience with what healthy behaviour actually looks like.

Not everyone grows up being taught what a healthy relationship looks like, so it is understandable that some people may misread control, jealousy, or disrespect as normal or even as care. That is why awareness matters, so you can recognise early patterns for what they are, rather than learning the hard way once you are already deeply invested.

Abuse rarely starts with something obvious. It does not begin with extreme behavior or clear harm. Instead, it often begins quietly, through subtle tests, small boundary violations, and moments that are easy to dismiss. Before someone becomes openly abusive, they may first try to determine whether you are someone who will tolerate control. That might sound harsh, but understanding this pattern can help you protect yourself.

Abuse is not always constant. It often comes in cycles. There can be calm periods, apologies, affection, and promises to change, followed again by the same harmful behavior. This cycle is one of the main reasons people stay, because the good moments feel like proof things are improving.

THE TESTING PHASE, HOW IT OFTEN BEGINS

Early on, a potentially abusive person may test your boundaries in ways that seem small or even harmless. You might say you do not want a hug, and they push anyway, saying “come on, where is my hug.” You might express discomfort, and they dismiss it. They may pick small arguments, excuse someone else treating you badly, or show early jealousy and possessiveness. Individually, these moments feel minor, but together they form a pattern. What is happening beneath the surface is simple, they are learning what you will tolerate.

WHAT THEY HEAR VS WHAT YOU MEAN

In healthy relationships, communication is how boundaries are set. You express how you feel, the other person listens, and things are adjusted. You might say, “I do not like that, please do not treat me like that.” You explain yourself, you try to have a conversation, and you may even cry or plead to be understood. To you, that is communication. To someone who is abusive, it can be interpreted differently. They may not hear a boundary, they hear toleration.

As long as you stay, what they often register is not your words, but your continued presence. Even ultimatums lose meaning if they are not followed by action. If you say you will leave but stay, the message they receive is that the behavior is acceptable. This is why many people feel confused, they communicated clearly, but nothing changed.

WHY PEOPLE STAY

People often ask why someone stays after seeing these signs. The answer is not simple. Abuse is not only about fear, it is also about attachment. There is often a strong emotional bond, sometimes called a trauma bond, where the same person who causes harm is also the source of comfort. That creates confusion.

There is also hope, hope that the early version of the person will return, hope that better communication, patience, or love will fix things. Fear can also play a role, including financial dependence, isolation, and lack of support, all of which can make leaving harder. Leaving is rarely one decision, it is often a process.

Over time, another shift can happen. People begin doubting themselves instead of the behaviour. They may think, “Maybe I am overreacting,” or “Maybe it is my fault.” This is not random, it often develops gradually when someone’s reality is repeatedly dismissed or minimised.

THE DOOR YOU’RE BEING OFFERED

Early red flags are often framed as something to work through, but it can be more useful to see them as a door, not a problem to fix, but a path to choose. Instead of asking what if they change, ask what if they never change. If they are jealous now, what does that become later, if they dismiss your feelings now, what does that turn into, if they get angry over small things, what happens when life gets harder.

You are being shown something early, and although it may feel small, it is a preview. The question is not how to fix it, the question is whether you want to walk through that door.

TRUSTING YOUR GUT

If something feels off, pay attention to that. You do not need proof, and you do not need validation from others. If you feel uneasy, anxious, or small around someone who is supposed to care about you, that feeling matters. Your instincts often recognize patterns before your mind fully accepts them.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR IT TO GET WORSE

A common trap is waiting for something undeniable before leaving, but you do not need a dramatic reason. You are allowed to walk away because something feels wrong. You are allowed to leave over something that seems small. You are allowed to choose respect, kindness, and emotional safety. A healthy partner does not need to be taught basic respect, that should already be there.

Leaving does not always feel clear in the moment. Many people only fully understand what happened after distance is created. If you are unsure, that uncertainty itself is something to take seriously, because healthy relationships do not usually create confusion about your own safety or worth.

15 WARNING SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS OR MAY BECOME ABUSIVE

1. Love bombing
Overwhelming affection early on, fast emotional intensity, pressure to move quickly, declaring love early, or pushing a soulmate narrative before a real foundation exists. They come on very strong, very fast. Everything feels perfect immediately, and they push for commitment early.
What this can often look like is being overwhelmed with attention very quickly, feeling emotionally swept up before trust is built, or feeling pressured to match their intensity early on. Saying they love you unusually quickly, pushing to move in together early, or talking about marriage before a real foundation has formed.

The intensity can create a strong emotional attachment early, so when harmful behaviour begins later, it is easier to excuse because you are holding onto how they were at the start.

2. Abuse is progressive
It starts small and escalates over time, often beginning with subtle criticism, jokes at your expense, or small put downs. This can include comments disguised as jokes that feel uncomfortable but are brushed off, even though they carry real criticism underneath. At first it feels minor, but over time it becomes more consistent.
What this can often look like is behaviour slowly shifting from “just joking” comments to more regular criticism or disrespect that becomes harder to ignore.

3. Abnormal jealousy
Accusing you of flirting or cheating without cause, or reacting strongly to normal interactions. They create suspicion where there is none.
What this can often look like is them questioning innocent friendships, becoming upset over normal conversations, or needing reassurance repeatedly for no clear reason. It can also include early possessiveness, such as getting upset about you hugging a friend.

4. Controlling behavior
Trying to dictate what you wear, where you go, who you see, or demanding access to your phone or location. Control often starts small and gradually expands.
What this can often look like is small “suggestions” turning into expectations, or them monitoring your choices more and more over time.

5. Disrespect toward others
Using degrading, dismissive, or misogynistic language, especially toward ex partners or vulnerable people. They often rewrite past relationships to blame others entirely. Pay attention to how they respond to stories of harm, such as abuse or assault. If they ask what someone did to “deserve it,” that is a serious red flag.
What this can often look like is constant negative talk about ex partners, saying things like “all my exes are crazy,” or blaming everyone else while taking no responsibility.

6. Public put downs
Belittling or embarrassing you in front of others, sometimes disguised as jokes. It is often framed as humor but feels humiliating. Do they tell people things about you, that you asked them to keep private. What this can often look like is jokes that target your insecurities or comments made in front of others that make you feel small.

7. Lack of support
Minimizing your achievements or failing to acknowledge your success. Your wins are ignored, dismissed, or redirected back to them.
What this can often look like is them not celebrating your good news, or shifting attention back to themselves when you share something positive.

8. Boundary violations
Ignoring your “no,” guilt tripping you, or pressuring you into things you are uncomfortable with. This can include emotional, physical, or personal boundaries.
What this can often look like is repeated pushing after you have already said no, or making you feel guilty for having limits.

9. Quick to anger
Starting arguments easily and blaming you for their reactions. This can sound like “you make me act like this” or “you drive me crazy,” where responsibility for their behaviour is shifted onto you. Conflict often feels unpredictable or one sided. What this can often look like is sudden escalation over small issues, followed by you being blamed for their reaction.

10. Intimidation
Breaking things, punching the wall, blocking exits, reckless driving during arguments, or using fear to control situations. Even without physical violence, it creates fear. They may hit objects around you before they ever hit you.
What this can often look like is aggressive behaviour that makes you feel unsafe even if they do not physically touch you.

11. Isolation tactics
Discouraging or preventing contact with friends and family. They create distance between you and your support system.
What this can often look like is them making you feel guilty for seeing others or slowly reducing your contact with people you care about.

12. Financial control
Creating dependency by limiting access to money or pressuring you to stop working. Control over finances becomes control over freedom.
What this can often look like is restricting your independence, questioning your spending, or influencing your financial decisions.

13. Walking on eggshells
Constant anxiety about their mood or reactions. You begin adjusting your behavior to avoid conflict.
What this can often look like is carefully monitoring what you say or do just to avoid upsetting them.

14. Gaslighting
Distorting or denying events in a way that makes you doubt your own memory and perception, causing reality to feel uncertain. It can look like being told things never happened or that you’re overreacting, even when you clearly remember events differently.

15. History of violence
Past abusive behavior, restraining orders, or repeated patterns of harm. Often accompanied by blame toward previous partners.
What this can often look like is a repeated pattern of failed relationships with similar accusations or unresolved harmful behaviour.

What Healthy Looks Like

A healthy relationship does not leave you confused. You feel safe expressing yourself. Boundaries are respected the first time. Conflict does not create fear or control. You feel supported, not managed, heard, not dismissed, calm, not constantly on edge.

What to Do If This Is You

If you recognize these patterns, you do not have to deal with them alone. Talk to someone you trust. If it is safe, begin noticing patterns and documenting behavior. If you are considering leaving, make a plan that protects your safety. You do not have to earn respect, you are already entitled to it.

Sometimes the first step is simply telling one trusted person what is happening, so you are not holding it alone in your head.

Final Thoughts

The early stages of a relationship should feel safe, mutual, and steady. If someone likes you, it should be clear. If someone wants to be with you, they should treat you well from the beginning. You do not need to stay to see who someone might become, you can decide based on who they already are. And if something does not feel right, that feeling is worth listening to.


SUPPORT RESOURCES

If this relates to your situation, support is available:

United States 🇺🇸

National Domestic Violence Hotline
Call or text 1 800 799 7233, or use online chat
https://www.thehotline.org/

Love is Respect
Call 1 866 331 9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522
https://www.loveisrespect.org/

United Kingdom 🇬🇧

National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Call 0808 2000 247, available 24 hours
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Women’s Aid
Online support and local services
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Men’s Advice Line
Call 0808 801 0327
https://mensadviceline.org.uk/

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*** By Katie the Self Defense Girl / Photo by Timur Webber at Pexels

The New Rebellion: When the Ordinary Becomes Radical

I have politically incorrect views. I live a politically incorrect life. I hold what many would now call a politically incorrect “career”: I am a wife, a mother, and a homemaker.

I am a born-again Christian. I stay at home to raise our four children, while my husband works to provide for our family. We live on one income. I make no apology for this—because I am fulfilled in my role.

In today’s world, that statement alone can invite criticism. It can provoke eye-rolls, assumptions, or quiet dismissal. There is a prevailing narrative that fulfillment must look a certain way, that success must be defined by career progression, financial independence, and public achievement. Anything outside of that can be seen as outdated, regressive—even oppressive.

And yet, here I stand.

I should also say—this was not always the path I expected to take. I was raised by a mother who strongly identified with feminism, and I was taught to strive, to compete, and to hold my own alongside the best in the workplace. Success, as I understood it then, was measured by status, recognition, and professional achievement.

And then, one day, everything changed.

The Lord intervened. I stopped, quite literally, in my tracks. What I had been pursuing no longer felt like the path I was meant to walk. Instead, I felt called toward something entirely different—something quieter, but no less significant. I chose to follow the life I believed God was leading me into.

And here I am.

In a culture that prides itself on openness and self-expression, it is striking how certain choices still fall outside what is readily accepted. There is a sense that “anything goes”—but often only within a set of unspoken boundaries. Step beyond them, and the tone can quickly shift from acceptance to scepticism.

Even something as simple as saying, “I identify as who the Lord made me to be,” can feel, at times, countercultural.

It is, in many ways, refreshing to live outside the expectations of the age. From an early age, many are shaped—by education, media, and social influence—to adopt the prevailing views of the time. To align with the collective is often easier than to question it. To choose differently can invite misunderstanding or quiet exclusion.

Conformity is often rewarded; divergence, less so.

And yet, here lies the paradox: what was once considered ordinary has now become, in some circles, unconventional. A family life ordered around faith, a mother at home raising her children, a father bearing primary responsibility for provision—these were once widely accepted norms. Today, they can be perceived as a form of resistance.

And in a sense, they are.

Because to choose this life today is not to drift with the current, but to step deliberately against it. It is to say: I will not simply adopt what is expected, but will pursue what I believe to be right.

For me, that conviction is rooted in faith—a desire to honour God and to live within what I understand to be His design for family and life. Not as a limitation, but as a framework given by a loving Father. One who sees the whole picture. One who, I trust, knows what leads to true flourishing.

That does not mean it is without challenge.

There are moments when the scrutiny feels tangible. When questions arise—sometimes well-meaning, sometimes not: “Don’t you want more?” “What about independence?” “Are you making the most of your potential?”

These questions persist—not always because they carry weight, but because they are so often repeated.

And yet, I return to this: fulfillment is not something that can be defined externally. It is not measured solely by income, status, or visibility. It is found in purpose, in conviction, and in a clear sense of why one has chosen the path they walk.

My days are not outwardly remarkable. They are filled with the ordinary rhythms of life: meals, laundry, school runs, conversations, discipline, prayer. But within that ordinary lies something deeply significant—the shaping of lives, the nurturing of character, the steady building of a home.

This is not a rejection of women who choose differently. Nor is it a claim that one path is right for everyone. Rather, it is a case for recognising that this path, too, holds value—and that choosing it should not require apology.

If empowerment is to mean anything, it must include the freedom to choose a life that may not align with prevailing trends, but is deeply aligned with personal conviction.

So yes, by today’s standards, I may be considered politically incorrect.

But perhaps the more important question is this: when did living with conviction become something to explain away?

And if choosing faith, family, and a life of intentional simplicity places me outside the norm—then I am content to stand there.

Because sometimes, what appears unconventional in the present is simply a rediscovery of what has long been meaningful.

Yours sincerely,

A Wife, Mother, and Homemaker

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***Photo Family Snipes