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A Guide to Understanding and Addressing Bullying

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What is Bullying?

Bullying is a repeated, intentional behavior that exploits a power imbalance. It can occur in schools, workplaces, social groups, online spaces, or even in communities that are expected to be safe. Bullying is harmful and manipulative, and its effects can be long-lasting, impacting emotional, psychological, social, and physical well-being.

Forms of Bullying

Bullying can manifest in numerous ways:

Physical bullying: Harming someone’s body or belongings through hitting, pushing, theft, or vandalism.

Verbal bullying: Name-calling, teasing, threats, or degrading comments.

Emotional bullying: Intimidation, humiliation, belittling, shaming, or undermining a person’s confidence.

Social bullying: Collective isolation, exclusion from groups, spreading rumors, withholding important information, and manipulating friendships or social relationships.

Cyberbullying: Harassment, threats, or humiliation online via social media, messaging, or email, often anonymous and relentless, leaving victims with no safe space to retreat.

Bullying often combines several forms simultaneously. For example, social bullying can be accompanied by emotional manipulation, and cyberbullying may amplify verbal attacks.

Why People Bully

Individuals engage in bullying behavior for a variety of reasons. Some act out of a desire for control, dominance, or social power. Others may have insecurities, jealousy, or fear of being exposed, using bullying to deflect attention from their vulnerabilities. Some have learned aggressive or manipulative behaviors from past environments or family dynamics. Bullies often present a socially acceptable or competent exterior to hide harmful tendencies.

In group situations, bullying can escalate as individuals join in to protect themselves, gain favor, or conform to social pressures, especially when the bully is popular or influential. This group dynamic can make bullying more intimidating and difficult to address.

Why Victims Often Do Not Report

Victims frequently do not report bullying due to fear, shame, embarrassment, or uncertainty about how to respond. Many endure it silently, hoping it will die down, only to find the behavior escalates. Bullies frequently triangulate conflicts, drawing others in, spreading misinformation, or manipulating peers to isolate the victim. This can intensify the victim’s sense of powerlessness and encourage more people to participate, particularly if the bully is socially dominant.

Impacts on Victims

Bullying can affect individuals in multiple ways:

Emotional impacts: Anxiety, depression, fear, loss of confidence, and social withdrawal.

Physical impacts: Headaches, stomach aches, sleep disturbances, or other stress-related symptoms.

Social impacts: Isolation, loss of friendships, or reluctance to engage in school, work, or community activities.

Academic or professional impacts: Decreased performance, absenteeism, or disengagement.

Warning Signs of Bullying

Early recognition of warning signs is essential for timely intervention. Victims may exhibit:

Avoidance of certain people, places, or social situations. Sudden changes in mood, behavior, or personality. Unexplained physical injuries or complaints such as headaches or stomach aches. Withdrawal from friends, colleagues, or usual activities. Reluctance or anxiety about engaging with digital devices or online spaces. Decreased performance at school or work, missed deadlines, or frequent absenteeism.

Recognizing these warning signs can allow friends, family, educators, or colleagues to intervene and provide support before bullying escalates further.

Addressing Bullying

For Children

Parents and guardians play a critical role by encouraging open communication, creating safe spaces to discuss experiences, and teaching empathy and coping strategies. Practical steps include supporting children in forming healthy friendships, knowing when to remove themselves from harmful situations, and seeking help from trusted adults or school authorities. Schools play a key role by establishing anti-bullying policies, fostering inclusion and empathy, and responding promptly to cyberbullying with digital safety education.

For Adults

Bullying in adulthood can be subtle and complex, including exclusion from key information, undermining work or professional contributions, intimidation, or social manipulation. Adults can respond by documenting incidents, setting firm boundaries, seeking guidance from trusted colleagues or human resources, and escalating concerns through formal channels when necessary. Maintaining self-care through counseling, stress management, and supportive relationships is vital for coping with the impact of bullying.

Cyberbullying

Special precautions are needed for online harassment. Protective strategies include monitoring online interactions, using privacy settings, reporting harassment, and seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals. Communities, organizations, and institutions must foster cultures of accountability, respect, and inclusion to minimize opportunities for bullying to thrive.

Collective and Group Dynamics

Bullying often escalates in group settings. A popular or influential individual may orchestrate or encourage others to participate, using peer pressure, triangulation, or manipulation. Victims may be socially ostracized or misrepresented, reinforcing the bully’s control and isolation. Recognizing these patterns is essential in schools, workplaces, and social settings to prevent escalation and protect vulnerable individuals.

What Can Be Done About Bullying

Addressing and preventing bullying requires coordinated action from both individuals and organizations. Effective strategies include:

Recognize and acknowledge bullying: Understand its various forms and warning signs.

Document incidents: Keep detailed records for reporting or escalation.

Set boundaries: Clearly communicate limits and refuse to tolerate abuse.

Seek support: Engage trusted friends, family, colleagues, mentors, or professional advisors.

Report: Escalate concerns to schools, HR departments, or legal authorities when necessary.

Promote safe environments: Encourage policies, training, and programs that prevent bullying and support victims. Practice self-care: Prioritize mental and physical well-being, counseling, stress management, and supportive relationships.

Bullying thrives in secrecy and silence. By recognizing harmful behavior, standing firm in boundaries, supporting victims, reporting incidents, and creating accountable environments, individuals and organizations can reduce the prevalence and impact of bullying. Awareness, intervention, and consistent action are essential for creating communities where all individuals feel respected, safe, and valued.

Practical Strategies for Immediate Response

When facing bullying in real time, victims can use several practical strategies to protect themselves and respond safely:

Stay calm: Take deep breaths and avoid responding impulsively, which can escalate the situation.

Document immediately: Write down what happened, including times, dates, people involved, and witnesses. This creates a factual record for future reporting.

Set clear boundaries: If safe to do so, assertively communicate that the behavior is unacceptable. Simple statements like “I do not accept being treated this way” can establish limits.

Remove yourself if possible: Step away from the situation to reduce immediate risk and regain emotional control.

Seek support immediately: Contact a trusted friend, colleague, family member, or supervisor.

Having someone aware of the situation provides validation and protection.

Report through formal channels: Inform HR, school authorities, managers, or other relevant authorities.

Include documented evidence. Do not isolate yourself: Engage with supportive networks or professional help, such as counseling or advocacy groups, to process emotions and plan next steps.

Practice self-care: Prioritize physical and mental well-being through rest, healthy routines, and stress management techniques.

These strategies help victims respond safely, protect themselves, and prevent bullying from escalating further. Combined with organizational accountability and proactive measures, they form a comprehensive approach to reducing harm and fostering safer environments.

What to Do if You or Someone You Know is Being Bullied

The Bible reminds us that God is “a refuge for the oppressed” (Psalm 9:9). Whether you’re experiencing bullying or supporting someone who is, take these steps:

1. Pray for strength and wisdom: Trust in God’s power to protect and guide you (Psalm 46:1).

2. Seek support from trusted individuals: Speak with a parent, teacher, supervisor, or pastor.

3. Avoid harmful situations: Stay in safe, supportive environments and seek godly counsel.

4. Report the behavior: Escalate concerns to appropriate authorities, trusting that God is a God of justice (Isaiah 30:18).

Self-Care and Mental Health: Restoring Hope Through Christ

Bullying can leave deep emotional scars, but God offers healing and hope.

• Find peace in God’s presence: Turn to Scriptures like Philippians 4:6-7 to experience God’s peace in times of distress.

• Seek help from Christian counselors: Don’t hesitate to involve professionals who share a biblical perspective on healing and wholeness.

• Celebrate your worth in Christ: Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Surround yourself with uplifting people who affirm your value in God’s eyes.

Seeking Help and Support

If you or someone you know is experiencing bullying, remember that you are not alone. Reach out for help and trust in God’s promise: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

Below are resources to guide you toward safety and healing:

In the USA

• National Bullying Prevention Center (PACER): Offers resources for children, parents, and educators to address bullying. Visit pacer.org/bullying or call 1-952-838-9000.

• StopBullying.gov: A government resource that provides information on how to recognize, prevent, and address bullying. Visit stopbullying.gov.

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: If bullying has caused emotional distress, contact 988 (or 1-800-273-TALK) for immediate assistance.

• Christian Counseling Resources: Seek guidance from faith-based counseling services such as Focus on the Family (focusonthefamily.com) or the American Association of Christian Counselors (aacc.net).

In the UK

• National Bullying Helpline: Provides practical advice for individuals dealing with bullying. Call 0300 323 0169 or email help@nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk.

• Anti-Bullying Alliance: Offers resources and campaigns to help prevent bullying in schools and communities. Visit anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk.

• Childline: A resource for children and young people facing bullying. Call 0800 1111 or visit childline.org.uk.

• Bullying UK (Family Lives): Support for families and individuals dealing with bullying. Call their helpline at 0808 800 2222 or visit bullying.co.uk.

Encourage your church community to support anti-bullying efforts by sharing these resources and fostering environments where individuals feel safe and valued. Remember, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1).

*** Photo by Alexander Krivitskiy at Pexels

Made in God’s Image: A Radical Truth in a Confused World

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In a world increasingly shaped by confusion and conflicting ideologies about our identity, it’s essential to return to the truth of Scripture to rediscover who we truly are. The profound and foundational truth that we are made in God’s image is not only the key to understanding our purpose but also the antidote to the confusion and despair that many face today. At the same time, we see a striking contradiction in society. On one hand, there is a growing emphasis on mental health and well-being, particularly for children and young people—a focus that is undeniably valuable. Yet, on the other hand, these same individuals are often taught that they are merely the accidental products of random, unguided processes. This disparity raises urgent questions about where our true value and sense of purpose come from.

This prevailing worldview, commonly seen in schools and even showcased in places like the Natural History Museum, suggests that humans originated from a “molecule-to-man” evolutionary process through natural selection. Under this framework, human beings are stripped of intrinsic value or ultimate purpose. If we are merely “rearranged atoms,” no different than the chairs we sit on, why should we consider ourselves more valuable than those objects? One bleak perspective even puts it this way: “It’s a fluke that you were born, all is futile while you live, and you’ll be fertilizer when you die.”

Environmental concerns, often valid, further deepen this narrative by portraying humanity as the planet’s primary problem. Influential figures like David Attenborough have even referred to mankind as a “plague on the planet.” These ideas contribute to widespread struggles among young people—challenges with identity, worth, and purpose—often leading them to cling desperately to fleeting causes.

The Bible’s Antidote: Our True Identity

Amid this cultural confusion, we find hope and clarity in the Bible. Genesis 1:26-27 teaches us a radically different truth about who we are. Humanity is made in the image of God. This phrase appears three times in just two verses, emphasizing its importance. “Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” 27 So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.”

Humanity’s Unique Role in Creation

It is essential to note that only humans are described as being made in God’s image. While other living things are described as being made “according to their kind” (Genesis 1:24-25), humanity is set apart. Though we share similarities with animals, such as being made of the same physical elements and consuming similar foods, the differences are vast and profound:

• Communication: Human communication is far more complex.

• Innovation: Unlike spiders that spin the same web design repeatedly, humans innovate endlessly.

• Self-awareness: Humans ponder their purpose, study the world, and plan for the future.

• Appreciation of beauty: Our ability to create and appreciate art reflects the Creator Himself.

The Bible clearly teaches that the image of God was present from humanity’s beginning. This is not a trait added partway through a slow evolutionary process. Genesis 5:3 confirms that Adam passed this image onto his descendants, meaning all humans are bearers of God’s image. Furthermore, Genesis 1:31 declares that creation was not just “good” but “very good” only after humanity was created. Humanity is the pinnacle of God’s creation, the culmination of His work, as Psalm 8 poetically reflects: “You made man a little lower than the angels and crowned him with glory and honor.”

What Does It Mean to Be Made in God’s Image?

The phrase “image of God” comes from the Hebrew word “tselem,” meaning a replica or representative. In the ancient Near East, kings would place statues of themselves in far-flung regions of their empires to symbolize their authority. Similarly, humanity represents God’s authority and presence in the world.

Here are five “R’s” that summarize what it means to be made in God’s image:

1. Representing God

We are God’s representatives on Earth, symbolizing His dominion and authority. This is why the second commandment forbids creating images of God for worship; humanity itself is His intended representation.

2. Resembling God

The phrase “in His likeness” (Hebrew: “demuth”) expands the idea of resemblance. We resemble God in personal, moral, and rational ways:

• We are personal beings, capable of relationships.

• We are moral beings, understanding right and wrong.

• We think, reason, feel, and act with purpose, as God does.

While we are not divine—we are neither eternal nor self-sufficient like God—we reflect aspects of His character, much like the moon reflects the light of the sun.

3. Ruling for God

Genesis 1:26 continues: “…so that they may rule over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and over all the earth.” The word for “rule” (Hebrew: “rāḏâ”) implies dominion and stewardship. Humans are entrusted with managing creation for its benefit, a role that remains positive despite the fall.

This stewardship involves cultivating and managing the earth to promote flourishing. Genesis 2 expands on this role, depicting Adam placed in the Garden to “work it and take care of it” (Genesis 2:15). Contrary to popular claims that nature would thrive without humans, evidence shows that human management often increases biodiversity and ecological health. For instance, even secular conservationists recognize that rewilding efforts (leaving land untouched) can reduce biodiversity. Carefully managed areas, such as gardens or cultivated lands, often support more diverse ecosystems than those left wild.

4. Reflecting God

As God’s image bearers, we are called to reflect His attributes—His love, righteousness, and justice. This reflection glorifies Him and points others to His character.

A Unique Design and Purpose

Humanity’s role as God’s image bearers underscores our unique purpose. Adam’s naming of the animals (Genesis 2:19-20) highlights this distinction; no animal was found to be a suitable helper for Adam because none shared God’s image.

When God declared it was “not good” for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18), He created woman as a complementary partner, further emphasizing the relational nature of humanity—a reflection of the relational nature of God Himself.

This foundational truth—that humanity is made in the image of God—contradicts the despairing messages of our culture. It affirms our value, dignity, and purpose, reminding us that we are more than atoms or accidents. We are God’s representatives, rulers, and reflections, created to glorify Him and enjoy His creation.

5. Made for Relationship

In addition to representing, resembling, and ruling for God, humanity was created for relationship. Genesis 1:27 emphasizes this: “male and female He created them.” Relationships are central to the human experience because they reflect the very nature of God Himself.

In Genesis 1:26, God says, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness.” The plural pronouns point to the truth of the Trinity—God as one being in three persons: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. This perfect, eternal relationship of love within the Trinity has profound implications. It reveals that love is intrinsic to God’s nature. Even before creating humanity, God existed in a communion of love. Unlike a solitary deity, a trinitarian God is inherently relational, making Him a God of love.

God’s design for us is rooted in this relational nature. He created us to participate in this love and to relate to Him in worship. In Genesis, God speaks to Adam and Eve, commands them, and walks with them in the garden. Humanity alone, among all creation, is given the capacity to communicate with God and with one another in meaningful ways.

Reflecting God in Human Relationships

God’s design extends to human relationships, starting with marriage. The union of man and woman reflects God’s relational nature and serves as a foundation for families. The psalmist speaks of God placing the lonely in families, emphasizing that all relationships—friendships, families, and communities—find their root in our shared identity as image-bearers of God.

However, society often promotes individualism and isolation, countering God’s intention for relationships. The idea of self-sufficiency, where everything is tailored for individual consumption, may seem appealing, but it directly opposes the biblical truth that we are created for connection.

The Marring of the Image

Although we are made in the image of God, that image has been marred by sin. Genesis 3 describes the fall of humanity through Adam and Eve’s disobedience. Though we retain God’s image, it has been distorted. Like graffiti defacing a masterpiece, sin obscures our ability to fully reflect God’s glory and carry out our God-given roles.

The Nature of the Fall

Satan’s temptation to Eve was rooted in pride and dissatisfaction. He suggested that she could “be like God,” ignoring the truth that humanity was already made in His image. Adam, failing to exercise his headship, joined in disobedience. As a result, sin entered the world, bringing suffering, pain, and death.

This is not how God created the world to be. Death and suffering are direct results of human sin, not inherent aspects of God’s creation. To argue otherwise undermines God’s goodness and the hope of redemption. The consequences of the fall are evident: fractured relationships, environmental exploitation, and a culture that either devalues humanity or elevates it to a godlike status.

Modern Rebellion Against God’s Design

Today, the rejection of God’s image leads to a host of societal issues. When we deny the intrinsic value of life, practices like abortion and euthanasia become normalized. The redefinition of marriage and gender further undermines God’s design, leaving people searching for identity and purpose in fleeting things like possessions, fame, or personal achievements. But these pursuits are inadequate. When our worth is tied to impermanent things, failure leaves us devastated. We begin to see others as objects, either competitors or tools for our benefit. This rejection of God’s image results in a society that dehumanizes itself.

The Mending of the Image

Thankfully, the story doesn’t end with the marring of the image. Through Jesus Christ, God has provided a way to restore what was broken.

Christ: The Perfect Image of God

Colossians 1:15 declares, “The Son is the image of the invisible God.” Unlike humanity, Christ is not merely made in the image of God—He is the image of God. As the Creator, Jesus demonstrates dominion over creation, calming storms, multiplying food, and even commanding fish to fulfill His purposes. He is the ultimate human, fully reflecting God’s glory while living in perfect obedience.

Yet, Christ did more than provide an example. He lived the life we were meant to live and bore the punishment for our sins. On the cross, He was marred for our transgressions so that we could be mended. Through His death and resurrection, He made reconciliation with God possible, restoring us to our original purpose as image-bearers.

Becoming Like Christ

When we repent and trust in Christ, God begins a process of transformation. Romans 8:29 explains that we are “predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son.” This transformation is not about adding religion to our lives but about aligning with the purpose for which we were created: to glorify God and enjoy Him forever.

This restoration affects every aspect of our lives. It shapes how we relate to others, how we steward creation, and how we pursue work and creativity. No longer striving for self-glory, we live to reflect God’s love, peace, and justice.

The Fulfillment of Restoration

One day, God will complete this work of restoration. Revelation promises a new creation where His people will dwell with Him forever, fully restored to His image. Until that day, we live with the hope and assurance that we are precious to God, not because of anything we achieve, but because of what Christ has done.

If you have not yet repented and turned to Christ, now is the time. Only through Him can we be restored to our true purpose and identity. May we all live as God intended, for His glory and the good of His creation.

Amen.

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** How to become a child of God

** Summary of Talk By Matthew Pickhaver from Biblical Creation Trust / Picture by Mart Production at Pexels

** Recommended article: One Human Race – the Biblical, Scientific & Historical Truth about Human Diversity

Guidance for Women Facing Abuse in the Home: Finding Hope and Healing – Part 5

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Dear sister, if you find yourself facing abuse in your home—whether physical, emotional or verbal —know that you are not alone. The path you are walking may feel overwhelming and isolating, with your heart burdened by shame, fear, or a sense of failure. These emotions can feel especially heavy when your desire to honor God and uphold the sanctity of marriage seems to conflict with your need for safety and peace. You may feel as though seeking help is a betrayal of your faith or your marriage vows. But let me assure you of this powerful truth: You are deeply loved by God, and your safety matters deeply to Him.

Abuse is never part of God’s plan for your life. You were created to be cherished, respected, and loved. No woman should ever feel trapped in a situation where she or her children are in harm’s way. The weight of shame that you may feel is not from God—shame is a tool the enemy uses to isolate, manipulate, and keep you from seeking the help and healing that are available to you. Today, I want to remind you of God’s unfailing love, His justice, and His desire for you to find peace, safety, and healing.

This article is for those of you who have a support system and those who feel isolated or without help. Whether you have trusted family, friends, or church leaders, or if you feel completely alone, there is always hope and help available to you. You are not alone in this journey, and God has promised to guide and protect you.

1. God’s Heart for You: Safety and Justice

God is deeply concerned about those who are suffering, especially those who are oppressed and vulnerable. Psalm 82:3-4 says, “Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and oppressed.” He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and His heart breaks with yours as you face abuse.

Marriage is meant to reflect God’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:25-29), and love is selfless, kind, and protective. Abuse distorts this beautiful design. God desires restoration, healing, and wholeness for you—not suffering or harm. You do not have to stay in a place of danger to prove your faithfulness or commitment to marriage. God calls us to protect the life He has entrusted to us, which includes ensuring our physical and emotional well-being.

If you or your children are in immediate danger, your first priority is to seek safety. Leaving the situation temporarily or permanently is not a sign of failure, but an act of love and self-care. God’s heart for you is to be safe, healthy, and protected.

2. Physical Safety: God Cares About Your Protection

If you are facing abuse, remember that God values your safety. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, and it’s our responsibility to protect them. If you are in physical danger, taking steps to get to safety is not just a necessity, it is a reflection of your worth in God’s eyes.

Start by creating a safety plan:

• Emergency Bag: Pack essential items such as identification, cash, important documents, medications, and a change of clothes.

• Safe Places: Identify safe places like a trusted friend’s house, a shelter, or even a public space where you can go if necessary.

• Emergency Contacts: Memorize a domestic abuse hotline or the phone numbers of people you trust who can help.

These steps are not about abandoning your marriage—they are about protecting your life, which is precious to God. You deserve to be safe, to be loved, and to live in peace.

3. Shame Has No Place in Christ

The shame that abuse leaves behind can feel all-consuming. It may whisper lies like, “You must have done something wrong,” or “You are a failure as a wife and mother.” But these lies are not from God. You are not to blame for the abuse you are experiencing. Shame keeps you isolated and paralyzed, but God’s truth breaks those chains.

Romans 8:1 reminds us that, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” You are not defined by what has happened to you, but by God’s great love for you. The Bible assures us that God sees your pain and invites you to find rest in Him. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” His love is unconditional, and He will never abandon you.

4. Biblical Perspectives on Abuse and Separation

For many Christian women, the thought of leaving feels impossible, especially when they are committed to honoring their marriage vows. But it’s important to understand that the Bible does not require you to remain in a dangerous or abusive situation. In fact, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 speaks of separation as an option when peace and safety are at risk. Separation for safety’s sake is not a failure; it is an act of wisdom and care for yourself and your family.

Separation is not a repudiation of your marriage—it is an opportunity for safety, healing, and, if possible, reconciliation. However, it is important to remember that genuine repentance and transformation must come from the abuser for true healing to occur.

God desires for marriages to be healed, but that healing cannot happen without accountability, safety, and change on the part of the abuser.

5. Reaching Out for Help

• If You Have Support: If you have trusted friends, family, or church leaders, reach out to them. Your church may have counseling services or women’s ministries that can offer guidance and help. Connecting with a Christian counselor who understands the complexities of abuse can also provide a safe space to heal.

• If You Have Been Isolated: If your abuser has intentionally isolated you from your support system, it may feel impossible to reach out. But please know that help is available.

• Hotlines and Shelters: Domestic abuse hotlines provide confidential support, legal advice, and information about safe shelters.

• In the U.S.: National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788)

• In the U.K.: Refuge Helpline (0808 2000 247)

• Technology: If it’s unsafe to make calls, some hotlines offer chat or email support. Be sure to use an incognito browser or a trusted device if necessary.

It might feel daunting, but take one step at a time. God will provide the right resources and people to help you navigate this difficult time.

6. Caring for Your Children

If you have children, their safety and emotional well-being are a top priority. Abuse can deeply affect children, even if they are not the direct targets. Proverbs 31:8-9 calls us to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves. Protecting your children is both a biblical and a practical responsibility.

Here are some ways to care for them in this challenging time:

• Provide Stability: Create an environment that feels safe and secure for them, even if it’s temporary.

• Reassure Them: Speak to them about God’s love and remind them that the abuse is not their fault.

• Seek Support: Reach out to professionals who can help address the emotional needs of your children.

God has entrusted your children to your care, and He will equip you with the strength and wisdom to protect and guide them through this difficult time.

7. Legal Protection and Support

Abuse is never acceptable, and it’s important to know that there are legal protections available to you. Romans 13:1-4 reminds us that governing authorities are servants of God, tasked with upholding justice. Reporting abuse and seeking legal protection is not only acceptable—it is necessary to ensure your safety and that of your children.

• Restraining Orders: A restraining order can legally prevent the abuser from coming near you or contacting you.

• Reporting Abuse: Report abuse to authorities so that they can investigate and take appropriate action.

Seeking legal protection does not mean you are abandoning your marriage—it is a step toward justice, safety, and the protection that God desires for you.

8. Trusting God Through the Pain

When you feel alone or uncertain, know that God is with you. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and will guide you as you seek His wisdom (James 1:5). He understands your pain and promises to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Pray for clarity and strength. Trust that God sees your suffering and will bring justice in His time. He will never leave you or forsake you.

9. Hope for the Future

Healing takes time, and the road ahead may seem uncertain, but with God, there is always hope. Isaiah 61:3 reminds us that God can bring beauty from ashes. No matter where you are in your journey, God’s love for you remains unwavering. Whether your path leads to reconciliation or long-term separation, God is with you, and He will work all things together for your good.

A Final Word

Sister, please hear this: You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are a beloved daughter of the King, created in His image and worthy of love, respect, and protection. Seeking help is not a betrayal of your faith—it is a step toward safety, healing, and honoring the God who loves you.

Take even the smallest step today—whether it’s reaching out to a trusted friend, contacting a hotline, or praying for strength. God is with you every step of the way, surrounding you with His grace, justice, and love. You are seen. You are cherished. And there is hope.

You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are deeply loved by the King of Kings. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is an act of courage and faith. By doing so, you are stepping into the truth that God desires you to be safe, whole, and restored.

Please note: More support networks and their contact details can be found in this article: Single Mothers Beware: Not Every Man is a Father

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Single Mothers Beware: Not Every Man is a Father

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While this warning applies to both single mothers and single fathers, there is a noticeable trend among single mothers that warrants particular attention. Being a single mother is a complex and often challenging journey, but it also requires wisdom and vigilance—especially when navigating new relationships. For many women, after experiencing the loss of a partner, poor relationship choices, or coming from a time before embracing faith, the prospect of a new relationship may seem like a chance for companionship, love, and support. However, it’s crucial for single mothers to recognize that not all men who enter their lives have genuine intentions. Some men may approach with ulterior motives, which can put both the mother and her children at risk.

The “Package Deal” Dynamic

When a single mother enters a relationship, she brings her children into the equation. Some men may view the woman as an individual but fail to acknowledge the responsibility and care her children require. In extreme cases, they may even see the children as obstacles. This mindset can be likened to certain wild predators that eliminate offspring to increase their chances of mating.

Predators Who Target Vulnerable Families

Some men approach single mothers not out of genuine affection but to exploit the situation for their own gain. This includes individuals with pedophilic tendencies who prey on vulnerable families. These predators often manipulate emotionally vulnerable mothers, gaining their trust before revealing their true intentions: access to the children. Their tactics include grooming and isolating the mother from her children to make them more susceptible to abuse.

Manipulation Tactics to Undermine the Family

Predators may mistreat children to create a toxic environment, pushing the mother to choose between the man and her children. They may offer ultimatums, such as suggesting the children leave or the relationship ends, aiming to solidify control over the mother. This manipulative behaviour seeks to break up the family unit, with the ultimate goal of removing the children from the picture.

The Type of Man Who Embraces Another’s Children

A man who truly cares for a woman will also embrace her children as part of the family. Such men understand the responsibility of nurturing, protecting, and supporting the children, viewing them not as obstacles but as part of the family. In contrast, men who struggle with jealousy or resentment towards the children may reveal their lack of respect for the family dynamic over time.

The Danger of Emotional Manipulation

Predators often use emotional manipulation to undermine the mother’s connection to her children, creating a toxic environment that pressures her to choose between the man and her children. This strategy isolates the mother, focusing her attention solely on him and convincing her that life would be easier without her children. Mothers must remain vigilant, trusting their instincts and recognising such manipulation tactics.

The Importance of Boundaries and Discernment

Single mothers must establish strong boundaries to protect their children. Any potential partner who shows disrespect or mistreatment towards the children is a warning sign. A loving partner will demonstrate kindness and patience toward the children, accepting them as part of the family. Pressure to prioritise the relationship over the children’s needs should be taken seriously as a red flag.

Single Motherhood: A Diverse Journey

Single mothers come to their position through various circumstances—loss, poor past choices, or before embracing faith. Regardless of the reason, they must remember that their primary responsibility is to care for their children. A woman’s past should not define her worth or ability to make wise decisions moving forward. The safety, happiness, and well-being of her children must remain her priority.

Protecting the Family Above All Else

Discernment is key for single mothers. Not all men have good intentions, and some may have ulterior motives that endanger the family. A healthy relationship should support the family unit, not tear it apart. A mother’s responsibility is to protect her children, and this sacred duty must never be compromised for any relationship, no matter how tempting.

Single mothers can create and rely on a robust support system that ensures their well-being and that of their children. Here are some key elements of a strong support system:

1. Family and Friends

• Emotional Support: Close relatives and trusted friends can offer encouragement, advice, and understanding during challenging times.

• Practical Help: They may assist with childcare, errands, or household tasks, providing much-needed relief.

2. Church and Faith Communities

• Spiritual Guidance: Many churches provide pastoral counseling, prayer groups, and spiritual mentoring for single mothers.

• Practical Assistance: Faith communities often organize programs like meal trains, child mentoring, and transportation services.

• Small Groups: Joining a single-parent Bible study or support group can provide encouragement and shared experiences.

3. Local Nonprofits and Community Programs

• Many local organizations offer:

• Affordable or free childcare services.

• Parenting workshops to build skills and confidence.

• Emergency financial aid for rent, utilities, or groceries.

4. Professional Counseling and Support Groups

• Therapy or support groups for single mothers can provide a safe space to process emotions, heal, and learn coping mechanisms.

• Online forums and virtual support groups offer connection for those unable to meet in person.

5. School and Educational Resources

• Many schools provide after-school programs or low-cost childcare to help working mothers.

• Teachers and counselors can be valuable allies in supporting children’s emotional and academic needs.

6. Government Assistance Programs

• Programs like SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program), WIC (Women, Infants, and Children), and Medicaid offer financial and healthcare support.

• Subsidized housing or childcare can also provide stability for single mothers.

7. Legal and Advocacy Services

• Single mothers facing custody, child support, or domestic issues can seek help from:

• Legal aid services.

• Family law attorneys specializing in single-parent cases.

• Advocacy groups protecting women and children.

8. Christian and Faith-Based Organizations

• Organizations like Focus on the Family, Safe Families for Children, The Salvation Army (see the resources section below) provide specialized support tailored to single mothers.

• Mentorship programs connect single mothers with experienced women who provide guidance and encouragement.

9. Self-Care and Personal Development

• Regular self-care routines, such as journaling, exercise, and pursuing hobbies, help mothers recharge.

• Seeking opportunities for personal growth, such as job training or education, can build independence and confidence.

By building a network of trusted relationships and accessing community resources, single mothers can navigate their challenges while ensuring their family’s stability and well-being.

Resources for Support

Here are some Christian-based organizations and charities that provide help for single mothers in vulnerable situations:

1. Focus on the Family

A Christian organization offering resources, counseling, and guidance for single mothers, including support for those in difficult or dangerous relationships.

2. Safe Families for Children

A nonprofit providing temporary care for children in crisis, supporting single mothers by offering safe, loving placements for their children.

3. Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO)

An organization that helps strengthen the Church’s efforts in caring for vulnerable children through fostering, adoption, and support services.

4. The Salvation Army

Provides emergency shelter, housing, and support for single mothers and families in need, as well as recovery programs and domestic violence support.

5. National Domestic Violence Hotline

Provides confidential support and resources for women and families affected by domestic violence. It includes information on safe shelter, legal help, and counseling.

6. Christian Domestic Violence Support

A Christian resource offering information and help for women in abusive relationships, including links to counseling and shelter programs.

7. Christian Women’s Job Corps (CWJC)

A faith-based nonprofit offering job training, mentoring, and support for women, including single mothers, as they work to achieve self-sufficiency.

8. Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD)

Supports mothers and families who have been impacted by drunk driving, providing counseling and legal support to those who need it.

9. The National Women’s Law Center

Offers resources, legal information, and advocacy to support women’s rights, including those related to family law, workplace issues, and domestic violence.

10. Lifeline Children’s Services

This organization provides support for children, including adoption services, and family resources, with an emphasis on Christian care for children in need.

11. Family Promise

A nonprofit providing emergency shelter, housing assistance, and case management services for families experiencing homelessness, including single mothers and children.

12. Catholic Charities USA

Offers a wide range of services to single mothers, including counseling, housing assistance, food, healthcare, and other family support services.

13. Hope for the Heart

A Christian organization offering counseling, support, and resources for women facing emotional and relational struggles, including single mothers.

14. The American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)

Provides a directory of Christian counselors and therapists who offer professional support to women, including single mothers dealing with trauma, emotional abuse, and other difficulties.

These organizations offer vital support for single mothers, including counseling, legal assistance, shelter, parenting resources, and more. If you find yourself in need of help, don’t hesitate to reach out to any of these organizations, as they provide confidential and compassionate services.

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When God’s Truth Gets Compromised

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Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, And clever in their own sight! ~ Isaiah 5:20-24

The connection between rejecting God’s revealed truth and the widespread moral and spiritual failures within the Church is profound. This issue goes beyond cases of abuse or leadership compromise; it strikes at the heart of how the Church perceives and proclaims the authority of God.

The Importance of God’s Design for Marriage

Marriage is not merely a social construct; it is a sacred institution established by God to symbolize the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:31–32). This covenant reflects God’s character, His faithfulness, and His love for humanity. When leaders reject or distort God’s design for marriage, they are not only undermining biblical teaching—they are denying the authority of the Creator Himself.

When a leader aligns with ideologies that contradict God’s revealed pattern for life and sexuality, they are no longer serving the God they are ordained to represent. By accepting cultural redefinitions of marriage and affirming practices contrary to Scripture, they openly reject God’s authority over creation and dismiss His character as good, wise, and loving.

The Assumption:

• If God’s design for marriage is no longer ‘good,’ then God Himself cannot be good, but that is a lie. Psalm 145:9 states, “The Lord is good to all, and his mercy is over all that he has made.”

• If God’s definition of marriage is labeled ‘offensive’ or ‘homophobic,’ then God is cast as a dictator rather than a loving Creator, but that is a lie. John 3:16 states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

• If God’s Word is dismissed as irrelevant in modern society, the Church does not lose its foundation or witness, as this claim is a lie. The gates of hell will not prevail against the true Church, which is not confined to manmade denominations but is the community of faithful believers (Matthew 16:18). Scripture, such as Hebrews 4:12, affirms that God’s Word is alive, active, and transformative, reaching the depths of human nature and exposing truth.

When Church leaders publicly reject the biblical definition of marriage, they reject Christ Himself. This is not a small error; it is a profound act of betrayal. Leadership in the Church requires not just personal faith but a commitment to defend and proclaim the truth of God’s Word, no matter the cultural pressures.

The Connection to Abuse and Cover-Ups

This rejection of God’s authority is deeply connected to the Church’s failure to address abuse. The same leaders who abandon biblical teaching on marriage and sexuality are often the ones who prioritize institutional reputation over justice and truth. Both failures stem from a desire to appease societal trends or maintain power rather than honor God and protect His flock.

The many abuse cases demonstrates the disastrous consequences of this approach. When leaders fail to bring sin into the light, they betray victims, misrepresent Christ, and erode trust in the Church. The attempt to cover up abuse is not merely a failure of human judgment—it is a rejection of the gospel’s call to repentance, justice, and restoration.

Cultural Capitulation Harms the Gospel

The broader cultural capitulation to ideologies around marriage, gender, and sexuality has only deepened the Church’s crisis. By aligning itself with these movements, the Church sends a message that God’s Word is outdated or incorrect. This not only leads Christians astray but gives secular ideologies the power to infiltrate and reshape the Church’s teaching.

For instance, under compromised leadership:

• Children are taught unbiblical ideologies in schools, often endorsed by Church policies.

• Faithful Christians are ostracized for upholding Scripture, losing jobs and reputations.

• Sinful behaviors are affirmed, leaving many under the false impression that they are in right standing with God.

These failures have eternal consequences. Scripture warns that those who live unrepentantly in sin will not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9). Leaders who affirm sin or fail to call for repentance are complicit in leading others away from salvation.

Rejecting Christ Through Compromise

The rejection of God’s design for marriage is not a mere doctrinal misstep; it is a rejection of Christ Himself. The Archbishop of Canterbury, and leaders like him, disqualify themselves from spiritual leadership by their blatant denial of foundational truths.

The Bible makes clear that leaders will be judged more strictly by God because their actions and words influence others, they have a big responsibility. They’re supposed to guide others toward God and live as good examples. If they lead people the wrong way, they’re held accountable for that (James 3:1). Matthew 7:15–20 warns us to watch out for leaders who seem good on the outside but don’t actually live in a way that honors God. Jesus says you can tell who they really are by their “fruit.”

If a leader’s actions show compromise, dishonesty and cause spiritual harm, they’re not following Jesus faithfully. In fact, they’re going against Him, no matter what they claim. This kind of behavior is “anti-Christ,” opposing what Jesus stands for. When the fruit of leadership is compromise, deceit and confusion, it is evidence of a failure to remain faithful to Christ.

In short: Leaders have a heavy responsibility to lead well. If their actions don’t match their words and they cause harm instead of helping, again, it shows they aren’t being faithful to Christ. That’s why we need to be careful and pay attention to what kind of “fruit” their leadership produces.

This is not a minor issue. Leaders who reject biblical truth about marriage, sexuality, or holiness cannot effectively shepherd God’s people. They have aligned themselves with a worldview that is “at enmity with God” (James 4:4).

A Call to Repentance and Reform

The solution to these intertwined issues—abuse cover-ups and doctrinal compromise—lies in repentance and a return to biblical faithfulness. The Church must:

1. Appoint leaders who are born-again, Spirit-filled, and uncompromising in their commitment to Scripture.

2. Hold leaders accountable to God’s standards, not human traditions or cultural pressures.

3. Confront sin openly and pursue justice for victims, trusting in God’s power to restore and heal.

The Church must reject the temptation to conform to societal ideologies and instead boldly proclaim the truth of the gospel. As Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:31–32).

True freedom—freedom from sin, deception, and spiritual harm—comes only through faithfulness to Christ. Leaders who reject this truth and lead others astray bring judgment upon themselves and harm the Church’s witness.

Let us pray for a revival of truth and faithfulness within the Church. May God raise up leaders who will honor His Word, protect His people, and restore the Church’s commitment to the gospel. Only through His grace can the Church be cleansed and renewed.

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***Based on CEO Andrea Williams article at Christian Concern / Photo by Lil Artsy at Pexels