Tag: Relationships

When He Wants Sex Before Marriage – Part 1

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” ~ Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

This is part 1 of a 5 part series. One of the significant struggles for many single Christian women today is dealing with sexual temptation, especially in relationships. In a world that bombards us with messages about sex, it can be incredibly difficult to stand firm in biblical principles. Maybe you’ve been in a situation where your boyfriend has pressured you for sex, or you’ve felt overwhelmed by your own desires. The chemistry between you is undeniable, and the longing for intimacy is natural—but what should guide your decisions: your feelings or God’s Word?

As Christian women, we are called to live according to God’s standards, not the world’s. While culture changes and continues to blur the lines around sexual purity, God remains the same: yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). His Word is the foundation for how we are to live, and this includes our relationships, and no child of God lives in open rebellion.

Dating vs. Courting: God’s Design

Before we discuss sexual pressure, it’s essential to understand that God’s plan for relationships is different from the world’s. Christian women are called not to date casually but to enter into relationships with intentionality—what we call courting. The Bible teaches us that we are to pursue relationships with fellow believers who share our faith. “Do not be unequally bound with non believers. For what partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). If you are dating someone who doesn’t follow Christ, the pressures to compromise your faith will be much greater.

When we court, we seek to glorify God in our relationships. This means we’re not driven by the desires of the flesh but by the desire to honor Him. Courting, unlike the worldly concept of dating, is not about casual romance or sexual exploration; it’s about seeking a godly partner with the ultimate goal of marriage.

God’s Word is clear about abstaining from sexual immorality. As followers of Christ, we must strive to live according to His commands. “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, NIV).

Common Excuses: The World’s Lies

In relationships, some men—even Christian men—may attempt to rationalize why sex before marriage is acceptable. But these arguments are grounded in the world’s way of thinking, not God’s. Let’s examine two common excuses you might hear:

1. “God Understands”

Some men may say, “God understands our struggles,” implying that His grace will cover their desire for premarital sex. Yes, God is merciful and forgiving, but His Word does not change based on our circumstances or struggles. While God understands our temptations, He also provides a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). We are called to resist temptation and remain holy, as He is holy (1 Peter 1:16). God’s standard for purity has not changed, and His grace is meant to empower us to overcome sin, not justify it.

2. “We’re Going to Get Married Anyway”

Another argument you might hear is that sex before marriage is acceptable because you’re planning to get married. The logic is that since you’re committed to each other, you can test your sexual compatibility. But this thinking is rooted in worldly values, not biblical truth. Marriage is a covenant made before God, and sex is a sacred gift that belongs within the confines of that covenant. Engaging in premarital sex is not a test of compatibility—it’s disobedience to God’s Word. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure” (Hebrews 13:4, NIV).

God’s Call to Purity

Sex before marriage is still fornication, no matter how society tries to redefine or excuse it. God’s command to flee from sexual immorality is as relevant today as it was when Paul wrote to the early churches. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NKJV), Paul reminds us: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

We cannot afford to compromise on sexual purity. The world may tell us that times have changed and that everyone is doing it, but as believers, we are not called to follow the world. Romans 12:2 (NIV) tells us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” God’s Word is eternal and unchanging. His design for sex within marriage was established from the beginning, and we are called to honor that.

What to Do When He Wants Sex

If the man you’re courting pressures you to have sex, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. Remember Joseph in Genesis 39—he literally ran from temptation. You may not need to run physically, but you need to create distance emotionally and mentally. Establish boundaries to protect yourself from compromising your purity.

Before you act, have an honest conversation with him. Make it clear that you are committed to honoring God’s standards, and if he truly loves you, he will respect your boundaries. If he continues to push for sex or tries to manipulate you into thinking it’s not a big deal, it may be time to end the relationship. A man who truly seeks God will also seek to honor you by protecting your purity.

Love Isn’t Manipulation

True love, as defined by Scripture, is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). It’s not manipulative or coercive. If a man is using love as an excuse to pressure you into sex, then that love is counterfeit. Real love respects boundaries, honors God, and seeks the best for the other person. Love does not force someone to go against their convictions.

Letting Go When Necessary

Letting go of a relationship is hard, especially when you’ve invested time, energy, and emotions. But no relationship is worth compromising your walk with God. Continuing in sin for the sake of keeping a relationship intact is a sign of misplaced priorities. Trust that God knows what’s best for you, and He will provide the right person in His time.

For the Woman Already Engaging in Premarital Sex

If you’re already having sex in your relationship, it’s not too late to change course. God’s mercy is always available to those who repent. Stop, set new boundaries, and ask God for the strength to remain pure moving forward. Acts 3:19 (NIV) encourages us: “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” It may be difficult, but God will bless your obedience. His forgiveness and grace are always available to those who turn back to Him.

You’re Not Alone

The journey toward sexual purity in a relationship is not easy, but you’re not alone. God is faithful, and He will give you the strength to stand firm. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can encourage and hold you accountable. Pray for wisdom and strength as you navigate your relationships, always keeping in mind that God’s ways are higher than the world’s ways.

There is hope, healing, and freedom in Christ, and together, we can walk this path of purity for God’s glory.

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*** By Chioma Oparadike / Photo by Pexels

A Mass Prayer for Nations, Leaders, and Peace

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 “If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” ~ 2 Chronicles 7:14 NKJV

As believers, we are called to intercede for our leaders, nations, and for peace, especially in Jerusalem. In times of uncertainty and need, communal prayer is a powerful way to ask God to bring change, guidance, and healing. Below is a structured prayer for anyone who wishes to lift up these petitions over a community, a nation, or even the entire world.

Heavenly Father,

We come before You with humble hearts, united as Your people. You are the Almighty God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, and we honor You, acknowledging Your sovereign power over all nations. We gather in Your holy presence, seeking Your guidance, love, and protection over all people and lands.

Lord, we worship You

For You are good, and Your mercy endures forever. You are the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, worthy of all honor and glory. We lift Your name high above all the earth, praising You for Your greatness, Your compassion, and Your mighty works.

Thank You, Lord,

For the blessings You have poured out upon us and our nations. You have sustained us through every season, and Your provision and protection have been unwavering. We are grateful for Your faithfulness, for hearing our prayers, and for Your unending love that guides us.

Forgive us, Lord,

For any ways we have strayed from Your will. We confess any sins of our nations, communities, and ourselves. We ask for Your cleansing, renewing us and bringing us back into alignment with Your ways. As we turn to You, we seek Your mercy and forgiveness, knowing that You are a gracious and compassionate God.

Father, we intercede for the leaders of every nation,

Grant them wisdom, courage, and integrity as they make decisions that impact millions. May they lead with righteousness, justice, and compassion, promoting peace and unity. Let Your justice prevail in all nations, and let truth and fairness guide every action and law.

We pray for peace among all people, especially in Jerusalem.

You have asked us to pray for its peace, and we humbly lift this city and its people to You. Bring harmony and understanding to regions marked by conflict, and heal the divisions that have separated us. Surround every nation with Your protection, Lord, shielding the innocent and vulnerable from harm.

Lord, we ask for a spiritual awakening across the world.

Pour out Your Spirit on every land and community, that hearts may turn toward You. Bring about a revival in faith, hope, and love, so that we may see Your Kingdom come and Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

As Your Word declares,

“If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14). We stand on this promise, believing that as we humble ourselves, You will hear and bring healing and restoration.

Lord, we also pray for specific needs among the nations:

For those suffering from poverty and hunger, may You provide. For those impacted by natural disasters, may You bring comfort and relief. For the sick, may You bring healing, and for those who mourn, may You bring peace.

We trust in You, Lord,

Believing that You can do exceedingly and abundantly more than we ask or imagine. We thank You for hearing our prayers and for the answers that are already on the way. May Your will be done, Lord, and may Your name be glorified in all nations.

In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen 🙏

May this prayer bring unity and strength, inviting God’s presence, protection, and guidance over all people and nations.

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** Photo by Hugo Magalhaes at Pexels

7 Compassionate Ways to Live Out Your Faith Every Day

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Living Out Our Faith

As followers of Jesus, we are called to live out our faith in tangible ways, embodying love and compassion toward others. This isn’t about ticking off boxes on a checklist to earn our way to heaven; it’s about letting our actions flow from a heart transformed by God’s love. Salvation is a gift that comes through faith in Jesus, who completed the work for our redemption. Our good deeds are responses to that love, not a means to gain favor with God or impress others.

In Matthew 25:34-40, Jesus emphasizes the importance of serving those in need: “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.” He reminds us that when we serve others, we are serving Him.

Engaging in acts of compassion is a vital part of living out our faith. When we actively seek to help others, we open our hearts to the transformative power of God’s grace. This not only blesses those we serve but also deepens our relationship with God as we reflect His character in our actions.

1. Feed the Hungry

You can make a difference in your community by volunteering at a local food bank or organizing food drives. These acts not only help those who struggle to feed their families but also foster a spirit of community and love. Remember, it’s not just about the food; it’s about showing care and compassion.

USA: The Salvation Army: A Christian organization providing food assistance, shelter, and other services to those in need.

UK: The Trussell Trust: A charity that supports a network of food banks providing emergency food and support, motivated by Christian principles.

2. Give Drink to the Thirsty

Support efforts to provide clean drinking water to those in need, especially in areas where it is scarce. You might participate in campaigns or donate to organizations that focus on this vital resource. Your involvement can bring life and hope to those who are parched.

USA: Charity: Water: A nonprofit organization bringing clean and safe drinking water to people in developing nations.

UK: WaterAid: An organization that works in 28 countries to improve access to clean water and sanitation, inspired by Christian values.

3. Clothe the Naked

Consider donating clothes you no longer wear or organizing a clothing drive. A clothing drive is an event where individuals gather gently used clothing to donate to those in need. This can be done through churches, schools, or community groups, helping to provide warmth and dignity to someone in need. This simple act can have a profound impact on someone’s life.

USA: Goodwill Industries: A nonprofit organization that provides job training and employment services while accepting clothing donations.

UK: Whitechapel Mission: A charitable organization providing essential support to the homeless, including free clothing, showers, and meals. It operates one of the largest clothing donation and distribution services.

4. Shelter the Homeless

Support local shelters or initiatives that assist the homeless by donating supplies or volunteering your time. You could also advocate for policies that create affordable housing. It’s essential to remember that every person deserves a safe place to call home.

USA: The Salvation Army: Offers various services, including shelters for the homeless and support for families in need.

UK: Shelter: A charity that supports people in housing need, offering advice and assistance to the homeless and those at risk of homelessness.

5. Visit Those in Prison

Visiting inmates can profoundly impact their lives. Many feel forgotten, and your presence can provide them with hope and encouragement. If you’re not comfortable visiting, consider writing letters of support or contributing to organizations that help reintegrate ex-offenders into society.

USA: Prison Fellowship: A national nonprofit that serves prisoners, former prisoners, and their families.

UK: The Prison Fellowship: This organization seeks to transform the lives of prisoners and their families through various programs.

6. Comfort the Sick

Being there for someone who is ill can be a tremendous source of comfort. Simple gestures, like bringing meals or just spending time with them, show that you care. You could also volunteer at hospitals or nursing homes, providing companionship to those who may be lonely.

USA: American Cancer Society: This organization provides support, education, and resources for cancer patients and their families.

UK: Macmillan Cancer Support: A charity that provides support for people affected by cancer.

7. Bury the Dead

Grief often leaves people feeling lost and uncertain, especially about what happens after death. As Christians, we are called to bring comfort and hope, showing Christ’s love through practical support and gentle encouragement.

You can live out this work of mercy by simply being present—offering a listening ear, sitting with someone in their pain, or helping with practical tasks like preparing meals, running errands, or assisting with funeral arrangements. Sharing comforting Scriptures, like Psalm 34:18 (“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted”), can also bring peace.

When appropriate, gently share the hope we have in Jesus. Grief often opens hearts, and you can lovingly speak about the eternal life Christ offers. Scripture reminds us in Hebrews 9:27 that after death comes judgment, and salvation is through faith, not works (Ephesians 2:8-9). By listening, helping, and sharing the truth with compassion, we fulfill our calling to be Christ’s hands and feet.

USA: The Compassionate Friends: An organization that provides support for families after the death of a child, helping them through grief.

UK: Cruse Bereavement Support: A charity that offers support for people grieving the death of a loved one.

A Heart for Service

Living out our faith through acts of compassion is not about earning our way into heaven; rather, it reflects the love that has already been poured into our hearts by God. We are called to respond to that love by caring for others and sharing the message of grace.

As we engage in these actions, we do so with the knowledge that our good works are not a means to secure salvation but a response to the incredible grace we have received. Let us commit to living out our faith actively, loving our neighbors as ourselves, and shining the light of Christ in a world that desperately needs it. By making compassion a part of our daily lives, we truly reflect the heart of Christ and contribute to the transformation of our communities.

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***Photo by James Frid at Pexels

Crisis Pregnancy Help: Find the Support You Need

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Need help? Empowering women with compassionate care for crisis pregnancies, you are not alone – pregnancy support, guidance and resources in the UK and USA at Pro Life Connect.

If you’re pregnant and unsure of what comes next, you’re not alone. This page is dedicated to providing you with compassionate support and valuable resources to help you through your journey. We have gathered a list of trusted organizations offering assistance with pregnancy, parenting, adoption, and emotional support. Explore the links to find practical help, whether you need medical care, counselling, or simply someone to talk to. No matter where you are in your journey, there are options available, and we’re here to help you find the path that’s right for you and your baby.

HOPE PREGNANCY 

HOPE Pregnancy offers kindness, truth, and support for anyone in an unexpected or challenging pregnancy who is unsure what to do and looking for help. 

We are here to listen, and with compassion, we use honest language to help them think through their situation for themselves. 

CONTACT  

Website: www.hopepregnancy.org.uk 

Contact page on their website link. 

PASE 

If you are a mother or father bereaved by abortion. If you are seeking to support a mother grieving the loss of her baby to abortion, if you are a church leader looking for ways to make access to support after abortion easier in your church, Welcome! Abortion affects the whole society. Each of us bears some responsibility for the death of each baby. Together we have let down the parents who carry the burden, but together we can make a way for them to find peace again. 

CONTACT 

Website: http://www.postabortsupport.org.uk 

Contact page on their website link. 

RACHEL’S VINEYARD 

Rachel’s Vineyard is a healing ministry for those who are suffering from the trauma of abortion(s) or have been closely connected to someone who is; this includes siblings, grandparents, aunts etc.  We recognise that abortion impacts the wider family and community.  

We also support those that have worked in the abortion industry and subsequently regret the part they played in abortion decisions. 

CONTACT 

Website: rachelsvineyard.org.uk 

National Support Centre – Call:  07734 059 080 

Email: rachel@rachelsvineyard.org.uk 

THE GOOD COUNSEL NETWORK  

The Good Counsel Network is a life-affirming women’s organisation which offers moral support, medical information, legal advice and practical help to women seeking abortion. We reach out to these women to inform them about the risks to their physical and psychological health and present them with realistic alternatives to abortion. We deal with the hardest cases of crisis pregnancy every day. 

CONTACT 

Website: www.goodcounselnet.co.uk 

Email: info@goodcounselnetwork.com 

Call:  020-7723-1740  

LIFE CHARITY 

Life is a UK charity from women and families facing unexpected pregnancy or pregnancy loss, including abortion. Services include: emotional help, counselling, housing and community support around the country for mums and their babies, free supplies and much more… 

CONTACT 

Website: www.lifecharity.org.uk 

Call:  0808 802 5433  

Text: 07860 077339 

Contact page on their website link. 

COERCION IS ABUSE 

COERCED ABORTION IS ABUSE. PRESSURIZED CONSENT IS NOT CONSENT.  

The narrative around abortion decisions is often focused on ‘choice’ and ‘autonomy’, but that is far from the reality that many women face. Women often find themselves subject to coercion and pressure to have an abortion from partners, family members, employers, healthcare staff or others in their life. This pressure can be subtle, like suggesting she would be unable to cope with parenthood, to severe, like threatening violence if she refuses to have an abortion. This coercion often goes unidentified by clinic and healthcare staff, and women go on to have abortions they never wanted. This is not informed consent. Coerced abortion is abuse, and women deserve to be protected from it.  

Life is a UK charity from women and families facing unexpected pregnancy or pregnancy loss, including abortion. Services include: emotional help, counselling, housing and community support around the country for mums and their babies, free supplies and much more… 

CONTACT 

Website: www.coercionisabuse.org 

Call the helpline: 0345 603 8501 

Email: info@archtrust.org.uk 

THE ALMA MATER FUND 

The Alma Mater Fund provides financial grants to pregnant students facing difficulties at universities across the UK, in order to support them in pursuing their academic and personal goals. Through the work of the initiative, the Alma Mater Fund coordinator can also direct students to further sources of support and advice.  

CONTACT 

Website: www.spuc.org.uk/alma-mater-fund 

Call, text or WhatsApp:  07849 088 244  

Email: info@almamaterfund.org.uk 

LIFE FERTILITY CARE 

Treatment for infertility and miscarriage. Committed to keeping conception the natural way by combining restorative reproductive medicine with naturopathy. Did your heart sink when IVF was mentioned at your fertility consultation? Want to keep the ‘lovingly conceived’ aspect of your fertility story?  

We are here to guide how to stay true to God’s plan for conception and make your dream for a family a reality. 

CONTACT 

Website: www.fiatfertilitycare.co.uk 

Email: fertilitycare@lifecharity.org.uk 

Call: 01926 834654 

Contact page of their website link

Victor Marx “A Warrior for Christ” From Victim to Victory

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Video – Victor Mark’s testimony is one of the redemptive power of God

Nothing is impossible for God! He is the restorer and healer of all things, if you give it to Him.

Victor Marx is a remarkable figure who has dedicated his life to humanitarian efforts and helping those trapped in devastating circumstances, including victims of human trafficking. Overcoming his own traumatic childhood of serious abuse and neglect, he transformed his pain into a mission to bring hope and restoration to others.

Through his organisation, All Things Possible Ministries, Victor works in high-risk areas, including war zones and regions plagued by human trafficking, to rescue and rehabilitate those in need. His ministry has impacted tens of thousands of lives, including children and survivors of abuse, as well as prisoners through his outreach programmes. His work exemplifies courage, faith, and perseverance.

Victor Marx is also a devoted family man with over 34 years of marriage, five children, and five grandchildren. He shares his wisdom and experiences to inspire others, blending his military discipline, faith, and compassionate outlook to build successful relationships and empower individuals to thrive despite life’s challenges.

Notable Quotes by Victor Marx:

“Kids who are born in the fire , will not be burned by the heat of life”

“Forgiveness is giving up your right to hurt someone back for hurting you.”

“Forgiving: gaining real estate in your heart to both give and receive love”

Support

To support Victor Marx’s ministry and his mission to bring hope, freedom, and restoration to those in desperate need, consider contributing to All Things Possible Ministries: Support

Outstanding interviews with Victor Marx at the Shaun Ryan show

Part 1 – How Victor became the Guinness book of records fastest gun disarmer in the world

Part 2 – Overcoming childhood terror

Part 3 – How big tech and AI influence child predators

Helpful Posts:

Trusting God to Heal the Scars of Sexual Abuse

8 Steps to Forgiveness and Learning How to Forgive

Who I am in Christ

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*** By Lori McPherson / Photo: Outreach magazine / YouTube Video Victor Marx / Victor Marx book: The Dangerous Gentlemen