“Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you; but rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy.” ~ 1 Peter 4:12-19 NKJV
Often times, as born again believers we face difficult situations and wonder if there are deeper reasons for that trial. The Bible teaches that there are certain instances where God uses a circumstance to test us and our hearts. Here are seven signs that God is testing you, with each one serving to reveal, refine, and strengthen your faith.
Seven Signs God May Be Testing You
1. Unusual Delays
When God allows for unusual delays, it’s a test. We see this in the example of Abraham. The testing of Abraham was used to refine his trust and patience in God (Genesis 21:1-3).
Often, unusual delays may show that the test is from God. These sorts of tests reveal things in our hearts and refine our character, perfecting our patience. Ultimately, the lessons learned in these seasons are things that no other season in our lives would show us.
2. Facing Impossible Situations
Secondly, another tell-tale sign is when you’re facing impossible situations. We see in the Bible that God tested Moses and the Israelites by allowing them to face the Red Sea and fear the reality of Pharaoh behind them (Exodus 14:13-14).
If you’re facing an impossible situation, God is not trying to drown you or destroy you. He is testing you. Your fear and doubt may come to the surface during those times, but God desires to bring it up to remove it from within you.
3. Struggles with Provision
Next, when you struggle with provision, you might be tested by God.
It’s easy sometimes for those of us in a spiritual warfare camp to shift blame always on the devil, especially when experiencing financial issues. But sometimes, the Lord might be testing us, just as He did with Israel when they faced lack in the promised land (Deuteronomy 8:3).
God wasn’t attacking them but was revealing, refining, training, and perfecting them. He did provide for them, but He also wanted to perfect them. God is not just interested in providing for you. He’s interested in perfecting you.
4. Trials of Suffering
Another important thing to remember is that trials of suffering often mean experiencing loss and hardship. For instance, in Scripture we see that Job experienced intense suffering, loss, and hardship. During his suffering, we see that Job worshipped even in his grief (Job 1:20-21). He didn’t have answers but chose to trust.
If you’re experiencing this sort of test, it’s important to remember that the way trust in God is expressed is through worship. Life on earth is really a series of losses. Grasping that reality can help you get through trials, knowing life is temporary, and eternal life is what really matters.
5. Temptations to Compromise
Next, when you’re facing temptations to compromise, it’s a test.
Daniel was tested to see if he would conform to Babylonian customs (Daniel 6:10). In the same way, God may test your integrity and obedience to His word in situations where obeying Him might cost you. In temptation, the enemy entices you to sin, but God reveals what’s in your heart, refines your character, perfects your godliness, and trains you in righteousness.
6. Opportunity to Help Others
When you have the opportunity to help others despite being in hardship, it’s a test.
In scripture, we see that Joseph, despite his own hardships, was faithful in serving others (Genesis 39:4-5). Often, God tests our willingness to serve and bless others, even in difficult situations. Joseph, even while imprisoned, served his fellow prisoners and interpreted their dreams.
It’s a test: Will you show up and help others when you’re struggling? Remember, you’re not giving out of your lack but from what Jesus has given you.
7. Silence from God
Lastly, experiencing silence from God can be a test.
Jesus was tested in the wilderness during a period of isolation and silence, with only the voices of Satan. Sometimes, when God is “silent,” it’s because the test is in progress (Matthew 4:1-2).
When God is silent, remember everything He’s taught you prior. The silence is not abandonment but a test.
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**By Pastor Vladimir Savchuk / Photo by Louis Bauer at Pexels
The spirit of self-pity is a powerful and deceptive force that keeps people trapped in cycles of discouragement, victimhood, and isolation. It is a subdivision of the orphan spirit, which operates through feelings of rejection, abandonment, and a lack of true identity in Christ. While the orphan spirit causes people to feel fatherless—struggling with belonging and love—the spirit of self-pity keeps them focused on their pain, disappointments, and perceived injustices rather than on God’s truth and healing.
The world is filled with people who, despite their successes or outward confidence, struggle with a deep-rooted sense of rejection, abandonment, and victimhood. This unseen yet powerful force is often referred to as the orphan spirit—a mindset that convinces people they are alone, unwanted, and must fight for everything on their own.
Closely tied to this is the spirit of self-pity and victim mentality, which leads individuals to dwell on past hurts, blame others for their struggles, and believe that life is unfairly stacked against them. But there is good news: God never intended for us to live as orphans, slaves to our past, or prisoners of self-pity. Through Christ, we are offered sonship, freedom, and identity as beloved children of God. This article explores the orphan spirit, its effects, and how we can fully embrace our God-given identity through the renewal of our minds.
Understanding the Spirit of Self-Pity and Victim Mentality
Characteristics of the Spirit of Self-Pity
1. Victim Mentality – A person under this influence constantly feels like life is unfair, that others are against them, and that they are always on the receiving end of mistreatment.
2. Emotional Paralysis – Instead of seeking healing or moving forward, self-pity keeps people stuck in their wounds, reliving past hurts instead of embracing growth.
3. Attention-Seeking Behavior – Those struggling with self-pity may often seek affirmation from others, hoping to receive sympathy rather than seeking true healing from God.
4. Resentment and Bitterness – When self-pity goes unchecked, it can turn into deep resentment toward God and others, leading to an inability to forgive.
5. Isolation and Loneliness – It convinces people that no one understands them or cares, reinforcing the orphan spirit’s lie that they are alone.
How It Ties into the Orphan Spirit
The orphan spirit makes people feel unloved, unwanted, and abandoned, leading them to seek identity and worth outside of God. The spirit of self-pity then feeds off this orphan mindset, reinforcing the idea that “no one cares” or “God has forgotten me.” This combination prevents people from embracing their identity as sons and daughters of God, keeping them in bondage to their emotions, past experiences, and negative perceptions of life.
Understanding the Orphan Spirit
The orphan spirit is not just about being physically fatherless; it is a spiritual condition that makes people feel abandoned, rejected, and unworthy. Those who struggle with this spirit often:
• Feel like they must earn love and approval
• Live in constant fear of rejection
• Have difficulty trusting others, including God
• Struggle with deep-seated insecurities
• Operate in self-reliance rather than surrender to God
This mindset is dangerous because it keeps people from fully embracing the love and security that God offers. Instead of seeing themselves as sons and daughters of God, they see themselves as outsiders looking in—never truly belonging.
Romans 8:15 (NIV) – “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry out, ‘Abba, Father.’”
God calls us His children, not orphans. To live in an orphan spirit is to deny the full inheritance and identity He has given us.
How Family Wounds Contribute to the Orphan Spirit
The Connection Between the Orphan Spirit, Self-Pity, and a Victim Mentality
Many people struggle with the orphan spirit, self-pity, and a victim mentality because of deep wounds from past relationships—especially with parents, family, or authority figures. When we experience rejection, neglect, or abandonment, it can shape how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and even how we view God.
These wounds can make us feel like:
• We are unloved or not good enough.
• We must strive for approval and prove our worth.
• No one truly understands or cares about us.
• We are alone, with no one to protect or provide for us.
If these wounds are not healed, they can open the door for the orphan spirit, leading to self-pity and a victim mentality.
1. How Family Wounds Create the Orphan Spirit
Many struggles with identity and self-worth begin in childhood, often due to broken relationships with fathers, mothers, or caregivers.
Father Wounds
The father’s role is to provide love, protection, guidance, and affirmation. If a father was absent, neglectful, abusive, or emotionally distant, it can lead to:
• Feeling unwanted or rejected—leading to an orphan spirit.
• Struggling to trust authority—thinking that leadership will always fail or abandon you.
• Seeking approval through performance—believing love must be earned.
• Fear of rejection—assuming others will eventually leave or betray you.
How This Affects Your Relationship with God:
• You may struggle to see God as a loving, trustworthy Father.
• You might think you have to earn God’s love instead of receiving it freely.
• You may feel that God is distant, silent, or uninterested in your struggles.
Mother Wounds
A mother provides nurturing, comfort, and emotional security. If a mother was overly critical, absent, or emotionally unavailable, it can cause:
• Insecurity and low self-worth—feeling like you’re never “good enough.”
• Fear of abandonment—leading to clinginess or extreme independence.
• Seeking validation from unhealthy relationships—trying to fill the emotional void.
• Self-pity and emotional instability—constantly feeling rejected or unloved.
How This Affects Your Relationships:
• You may struggle with emotional intimacy, either fearing closeness or becoming overly dependent.
• You may seek constant validation from others, feeling empty without external approval.
• You might have difficulty receiving love, believing you are unworthy of it.
Family and Generational Patterns
Beyond parents, family culture can reinforce the orphan spirit. If you grew up in an environment of:
• Dysfunction, brokenness, or divorce—you may feel unsafe and abandoned.
• Comparison or favoritism—you may feel unseen or unworthy.
• Emotional or physical abuse—you may struggle with fear, anger, or self-hatred.
How This Affects Your Mindset:
• You may develop a victim mentality, feeling like life is unfair and always against you.
• You may live in self-pity, believing you will never be loved, helped, or valued.
• You may expect rejection and failure, making it hard to trust or take risks.
How the Orphan Spirit Leads to Self-Pity and a Victim Mentality
When people experience deep wounds, they often feel powerless and abandoned, which can lead to self-pity and a victim mindset.
Signs of Self-Pity & Victim Mentality:
• Blaming Others – Feeling like your life is unfair because of what others have done to you.
• Feeling Powerless – Believing that you can’t change your life or move forward.
• Constantly Seeking Sympathy – Wanting people to feel sorry for you instead of seeking healing.
• Resisting Accountability – Rejecting correction because it feels like further rejection.
• Fearing Rejection – Assuming that people will abandon or betray you.
• Living in the Past – Focusing on past hurts instead of God’s healing and future plans.
Self-pity keeps you trapped because it shifts focus from healing to hopelessness. It makes people believe:
• “No one understands me.”
• “Nothing ever goes right for me.”
• “I’ll always be broken, rejected, or abandoned.”
But these are lies from the enemy! God has called you to freedom, healing, and victory.
Self-Assessment: Do You Have an Orphan Spirit or a Spirit of Sonship?
Orphan Spirit vs. Sonship Questionnaire
This questionnaire is designed to help identify whether someone is operating from an orphan spirit or living in the sonship that God has given through Christ. Answer each question honestly.
Part 1: Identity & Relationship with God
1. Do you struggle to believe that God truly loves and accepts you?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
2. Do you feel like you have to earn God’s love through performance, good works, or striving?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
3. When you sin or make a mistake, do you feel like you must hide from God or that He is angry with you?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
4. Do you see yourself as God’s beloved child, or do you feel more like a servant/slave in His kingdom?
• □ I feel more like a servant (Orphan)
• □ I know I’m His beloved child (Sonship)
Part 2: Relationship with Others
5. Do you often compare yourself to others, feeling either inferior or superior?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
6. Do you struggle with jealousy or competition, feeling the need to prove yourself?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
7. Do you have trouble trusting others, fearing that they will reject or abandon you?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
8. Do you struggle with receiving love, encouragement, or correction from spiritual leaders or mentors?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
Part 3: Emotional and Mental State
9. Do you often feel lonely, unwanted, or like you don’t belong?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
10. Do you battle self-pity, feeling like no one understands or cares about you?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
11. Do you live with a constant fear of failure, rejection, or abandonment?
• □ Yes (Orphan)
• □ No (Sonship)
12. Do you feel secure in your identity in Christ, knowing you are loved regardless of circumstances?
• □ No (Orphan)
• □ Yes (Sonship)
Part 4: Spiritual Growth & Freedom
13. When you pray, do you feel like a child talking to their loving Father, or do you feel distant from God?
• □ Distant/Disconnected (Orphan)
• □ Close/Intimate (Sonship)
14. Do you struggle with condemnation and guilt, or do you walk in the confidence of God’s grace?
• □ I struggle with guilt (Orphan)
• □ I walk in grace (Sonship)
15. Do you serve God out of love and joy, or out of duty and obligation?
• □ Duty/Obligation (Orphan)
• □ Love/Joy (Sonship)
How to Evaluate Your Answers
• If you answered mostly “Orphan”, it’s likely that the orphan spirit is influencing your thoughts, emotions, and actions. But the good news is that God is calling you into freedom, identity, and sonship!
• If you answered mostly “Sonship”, you are walking in your identity as a child of God, but continue to grow in His love and confidence.
Would you like help in moving from an orphan mindset to fully embracing your sonship in Christ?
Reborn and Led by The Spirit
As born-again Christians, we are spiritually reborn and called to live by the Spirit, not by the mindset of the world. Galatians 3:26-29 states:
“For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”
This passage reminds us that in Christ, we are a new creation, no longer bound by worldly divisions, labels, or old identities. The orphan spirit—including self-pity—is tied to the old way of thinking, where people define themselves by past wounds, social status, or human identity rather than their identity in Christ.
Renewing the Mind and Overcoming the Orphan Spirit
Romans 12:2 emphasizes this transformation:
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
This renewal happens through:
1. Obeying the Holy Spirit – The Spirit leads us into truth, teaching us to reject self-pity, fear, and an orphan mindset. (John 16:13)
2. Thinking Differently from the World – The world teaches us to dwell on pain, offense, and injustice, but we are called to focus on God’s truth, love, and purpose. (Colossians 3:2)
3. Walking in Sonship – Instead of acting like spiritual orphans—seeking validation, striving, or feeling abandoned—we rest in the reality that we are God’s children, fully loved and accepted. (Romans 8:15-17)
Living as Spirit-Led, Reborn Christians
If we truly follow the leading of the Holy Spirit, we won’t allow self-pity, victimhood, or worldly thinking to dominate our lives. Instead, we will:
• Walk in boldness and confidence in our identity as children of God.
• Refuse to dwell on past hurts because we know we are healed and redeemed.
• See ourselves as God sees us—not by worldly status, race, or background, but as part of God’s kingdom.
• Live in gratitude and faith, knowing that we are heirs of the promise.
How to Practically Walk in Sonship and Reject the Orphan Spirit
Living as a renewed, Spirit-led believer means intentionally rejecting old thought patterns and embracing our identity in Christ daily. Here’s how you can walk this out practically:
Renew Your Mind Daily with God’s Word
• Meditate on Scripture – Read and declare verses about your identity in Christ, such as:
• Romans 8:15-17 – “You have received the Spirit of adoption, by whom we cry, ‘Abba, Father!’”
• Ephesians 1:4-5 – “He predestined us for adoption to Himself as sons through Jesus Christ.”
• Replace Lies with Truth – Whenever thoughts of self-pity, rejection, or fear come, speak God’s truth over yourself.
Breaking Free from the Spirit of Self-Pity
1. Recognise It as a Spiritual Battle
Self-pity is not just an emotional issue; it is a spiritual stronghold that must be confronted with truth. The enemy uses self-pity to keep people inward-focused and defeated, but God calls us to walk in faith, freedom, and victory (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).
2. Repent and Renounce It
Acknowledge self-pity as a sinful mindset that contradicts God’s promises. Repent for believing the lies of the enemy, renounce self-pity in prayer, and ask for God’s forgiveness.
3. Embrace Your Identity in Christ
The antidote to the orphan spirit is sonship. God has not left us as orphans—He calls us His beloved children:
“For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, ‘Abba, Father.’” (Romans 8:15)
Meditate on scriptures that affirm God’s love and your position as His child (Galatians 4:7, John 1:12).
4. Shift Focus to Gratitude
Self-pity thrives on what is lacking, but gratitude shifts the focus to God’s blessings and faithfulness.
“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
Start keeping a gratitude journal—write down daily testimonies of God’s goodness.
5. Engage in Spiritual Warfare
Pray against the stronghold of self-pity and declare God’s truth over your life. Use scriptures like:
• Isaiah 41:10 – “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.”
• 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”
• Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
6. Seek Godly Community
Isolation fuels self-pity, but healing happens in community. Surround yourself with believers who will encourage you, speak life into you, and hold you accountable.
Walking in Freedom and Sonship
The spirit of self-pity is a deceptive tool of the enemy, keeping people trapped in pain and powerlessness. But God calls His children to live in freedom, faith, and fullness.
By rejecting self-pity and embracing God’s love and truth, we can break free from the orphan spirit and walk in our true identity as beloved sons and daughters of God.
Declare This Today:
“I am not an orphan! I am a child of God, loved, accepted, and chosen. I reject self-pity, and I walk in the fullness of God’s promises for my life!”
God has not forgotten you. He has not abandoned you. You are His child—chosen, loved, and set apart for His glory.
It’s time to rise above self-pity, cast off the orphan spirit, and step into the abundant life Christ has for you.
Recognize the Lies & Replace Them with Truth
The enemy uses wounds from the past to make us believe we are alone, rejected, or unworthy. But God’s Word says:
• Lie: “I am alone.” → Truth: “God will never leave me nor forsake me.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
• Lie: “I have to earn love.” → Truth: “I am accepted in the Beloved.” (Ephesians 1:6)
• Lie: “I will always be rejected.” → Truth: “Nothing can separate me from God’s love.” (Romans 8:38-39)
• Lie: “My past defines me.” → Truth: “Anyone in Christ is a new creation.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)
These truths from God’s Word help break the power of the orphan spirit and victim mentality. Whenever you hear the lies of the enemy, counter them with God’s truth. Remember, you are loved, accepted, and chosen by God.
Forgive & Let Go of the Past
One of the biggest ways the orphan spirit and self-pity hold people captive is through unforgiveness. To fully walk in freedom, you must release any bitterness, resentment, or pain from your past.
• Forgive parents or family members who hurt you.
• Forgive yourself for any wrong choices you’ve made.
• Forgive God if you have felt like He abandoned you.
Prayer for Forgiveness:
“Father, I forgive those who have hurt me. I release them from any debt they owe me. I choose to walk in freedom, not in bitterness. Heal my heart and fill me with Your love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”
Conclusion: Embracing Your True Identity in Christ
Healing from the orphan spirit, self-pity, and victim mentality requires recognizing the lies that have held you captive and replacing them with God’s truth. These deceptive forces keep individuals trapped in cycles of rejection, discouragement, and powerlessness. However, through Christ, we are no longer orphans—we are beloved sons and daughters of God, fully accepted and deeply loved. This journey involves forgiving those who have hurt you, forgiving yourself, and allowing God to heal the wounds of your past. As you embrace your true identity, you will experience the freedom, love, and peace that only He can offer, walking in the fullness of His promises and living in the victory He has already secured for you.
Final Declaration:
I reject the orphan spirit, self-pity, and victim mentality. I embrace my identity as a beloved child of God. I walk in freedom, victory, and the fullness of His promises for my life!”Now is the time to rise up, shake off the chains of the past, and step boldly into your God-given destiny. You are no longer an orphan. You are a beloved child of God, free and victorious in Christ, walk in the power of that truth!
“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.” ~ Ephesians 6:12
I opened God’s Word with a heavy heart, feeling the burden of opposition.A friend had recently attacked my character due to a difference of ethical beliefs. Stunned and hurt by this, I quickly recognized my unpreparedness in facing this attack. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit prompted me to seek the Lord and the truth of his Word. I opened my Bible and was led to Hebrews 12:3, which answered my prayer for relief: “Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”
Six Ways Jesus Faced Opposition
Jesus, the Man of Sorrows, experienced opposition far worse than my situation. But in his eyes, it’s not relevant, for all who call on his name receive the same power and ability to face opposition. In studying and understanding the character of Jesus revealed in Scripture, I felt thoroughly equipped to face this challenging situation by mirroring Christ’s response.
When we are antagonized or provoked, our first step should always be to ask the Holy Spirit to guide our hearts, minds, and words. 1 Peter 3:15 instructs us to “give an answer to those who ask,” and Colossians 4:6 instructs us to speak graciously “so that [we] may know how you ought to answer each person.”
1. Jesus exposed motives.
In Mark 3, we find Jesus approaching a disfigured man in the synagogue. Verse 2 explains, “[The Pharisees] watched Jesus to see whether he would heal him on the Sabbath, so that they might accuse him.” Mark tells of Jesus challenging them by responding, “Is it lawful on the Sabbath to do good or to do harm, to save life or to kill?” (v. 4). Manmade rituals enforced by the Pharisees had made God’s Law joyless, and Jesus exposed their prideful and judgmental hearts.
2. Jesus sought peace.
When Jesus is arrested, in fear and protection, Peter cuts off the ear of the high priest’s servant. Instead of affirming this act of violence, Jesus commands peace:
Put your sword back in its place. For all who take the sword will perish by the sword. Do you think I cannot appeal to my Father, and he will at once send me more than twelve legions of angels? But how then should the Scriptures be fulfilled, that it must be so?” (Matthew 26:52-54).
Not only does Jesus condemn this behavior, but displays his loving nature by healing the man’s ear (Luke 22:51).
3. Jesus applied Scripture.
In Matthew 9, Jesus is found “reclined at a table in the house” with tax collectors and sinners (v. 10), which stirred up controversy amongst the Pharisees. They ask his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and ‘sinners’?” (v. 11). How does Jesus respond? “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners” (vv. 12-13, NIV). Jesus used Hosea 6:6, the very scripture the Pharisees preached, to challenge their hardened hearts. Later in Matthew 12, Jesus uses the same scripture from Hosea to challenge the Pharisees: “If you had known what this means…you would not have condemned the guiltless” (v. 7).
4. Jesus prayed.
As Jesus awaited his impending suffering and death, he stepped aside in isolation to pray. Opposition caused Jesus to feel sorrowful and troubled, overwhelming his soul to the point of death (Matthew 26:36-38). Jesus, fully God yet fully man, still needed his Father. Three times in Gethsemane, Matthew says he “fell with his face to the ground and prayed, ‘My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will’” (vv. 39, 42, 44).
Similarly, in the Gospel of John chapter 17, Jesus prays for himself, for his disciples, and for all believers. As his impending death and resurrection approached, he prayed for salvation and for the Father’s glory as he awaited this fulfillment (vv. 1-5). He lifted up his disciples in prayer for physical and spiritual protection, unity, the full measure of his joy, obedience, and sanctification (vv. 6-19). Jesus prayed for all believers, that they may hear his message, believe, unite, evangelize, and be saved (vv. 20-25).
5. Jesus remained silent.
When Jesus is arrested and faced with the Sanhedrin looking for false evidence against him, they question him. “’Are you not going to answer? What is this testimony that these men are bringing against you?’ But Jesus remained silent” (Matthew 26:62-63, NIV). Jesus was aware of their bias, hostility, partiality, and their past history of twisting his words. His silence demonstrated how undeserving they were of a response. Though Jesus later responds in truth to their questions, he is still accused of blasphemy, declared worthy of death, spit in the face, struck with their fists, mocked, and provoked (vv. 64-68). Yet amidst the turmoil, he chooses silence.
6. Jesus loved.
As Jesus languished on the cross, he didn’t counter his accusers with insults, cursing, and retaliation—nor did he use his power to inflict pain. His submissive silence was a divine response from the nature of an almighty, all-powerful, sovereign God in the flesh—an example for all his people to follow. He withstood excruciating agony as long as he could so the door would be open to salvation, including for his enemies. Jesus forgave the thief on the cross hanging next to him who had earlier hurled insults at him, yet repented in his last moments (Luke 23:39-43). He prayed for the forgiveness of the very people who were crucifying him: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34, NIV). Even those responsible for the crucifixion had forgiveness available to them in love from the Lord.
Can you imagine the results had Jesus responded differently under opposition? Lives wouldn’t have changed, hearts wouldn’t have been transformed, and his beloved wouldn’t have been welcomed into his kingdom.
Equipped for Opposition
In following the tactics used by Jesus in the face of his opponents, this encounter with my friend ended in a manner I was not expecting. Though not immediately, our relationship was healed and elevated to a new level of intimacy and love—a true miracle of the Lord’s mercy and grace. Be encouraged, dear friends; though opposition in this world is inevitable, we can stand equipped under our Savior’s example and by his life, rising victoriously over it.
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*** By Meredith Hodge at Open the Bible.org / Photo by Apollonia at Pexels
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…” ~ Matthew 11:28
In a world burdened by struggles, confusion, and despair, many find themselves in battles that feel overwhelming and unwinnable. Suicidal thoughts, depression, and feelings of worthlessness are weapons used by the enemy to isolate and weaken us. I know because I have been there. The Bible reminds us in Ephesians 6:12 that our struggle is not merely against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of darkness.
People are being tormented by the enemy, Satan, through various means, including addictions, mental illness, and painful life circumstances. The enemy whispers lies of hopelessness, worthlessness, and fear into the hearts of the vulnerable. Yet even in these dark times, there is hope—hope found in the unfailing love of our Creator and the healing power of Jesus Christ.
Understanding the Struggle
Suicidal thoughts are often rooted in deep pain caused by life’s challenges—loss, trauma, addiction, or mental illness. Drugs and alcohol, while often used to numb the pain, can open doors to spiritual oppression, intensifying feelings of despair. Mental health conditions may leave individuals feeling trapped, and overwhelming life circumstances can make escape seem impossible.
It is vital to understand that these struggles are not signs of weakness or failure. Instead, they are symptoms of a larger spiritual and emotional battle. Suicidal thoughts are not who you are; they are part of the fight you are facing.
Hope in the Midst of Despair
Every life matters, and we are deeply loved by our Heavenly Father. God’s Word assures us of His love:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
God created each of us with purpose and value. He cares for us deeply, from the womb to the tomb, and longs to bring healing and restoration to our lives—mind, body, and soul.
The Gift of Salvation
When Jesus came to earth, He brought hope and freedom. He came to save us from sin and its consequences, offering eternal life to all who believe in Him. Sin, which separates us from God, takes many forms—sexual immorality, addictions, lying, unforgiveness, and more. While these sins weigh us down, Jesus offers forgiveness and redemption.
Through His death on the cross and resurrection, Jesus conquered sin and death. His sacrifice allows us to be restored to God, no matter how broken we feel. Romans 10:9 says, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” This invitation is for everyone, regardless of background or past mistakes.
Breaking the Chains of Hopelessness
The enemy thrives on lies, isolating us with thoughts of worthlessness and despair. To break free, we must replace these lies with God’s truth:
• Lie: “I am worthless.”
Truth: “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).
• Lie: “No one cares about me.”
Truth: “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).
• Lie: “There’s no hope for me.”
Truth: “For nothing will be impossible with God” (Luke 1:37).
Practical and Spiritual Steps Toward Healing
1. Seek God’s Deliverance and Healing
• Turn to Him in Prayer: Confess your struggles to God and ask Him to heal your heart and mind.
• Pray for Freedom from Oppression: Whether your struggles stem from addictions or spiritual attacks, ask God to break the chains.
• Invite the Holy Spirit to Fill You: The Holy Spirit strengthens and comforts us in ways no one else can.
2. Surround Yourself with a Supportive Community
Isolation is one of the enemy’s most powerful tools. Connect with a local church, prayer group, or supportive friends who can encourage you and walk alongside you in your healing journey.
3. Spend Time in God’s Word
The Bible is full of promises and encouragement for those who are hurting. Meditate on passages like these:
• “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
• “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).
4. Seek Professional Help
• Mental Health Support: Therapy and medical care are essential tools in addressing depression and mental illness. God often works through professionals to bring healing.
• Faith-Based Recovery: If addiction plays a role in your struggles, consider joining a recovery group that focuses on both spiritual and practical growth.
Take One Day at a Time
Healing is a journey, not an instant transformation. Focus on trusting God each day and allowing Him to guide you step by step.
Finding Purpose in Pain
God can take the most painful experiences and use them for good. Your journey, as difficult as it may be, can become a testimony of hope for others. When you allow God to bring healing, your story can inspire and encourage those who feel lost and alone.
An Invitation to New Life
If you’re battling suicidal thoughts, Jesus invites you to come to Him as you are. He loves you unconditionally and offers rest for your weary soul. Lay your burdens at His feet, and trust that He will provide peace and strength to overcome.
As Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers… will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
You Are Not Alone
If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please know that you are not alone. God sees your pain and loves you deeply. Reach out to a trusted person, counselor, or crisis hotline for immediate help. Healing and restoration are possible through Him.
No matter how dark life may feel right now, God has a purpose and a plan for you. He stands ready to embrace you with open arms and lead you into a future filled with hope and healing. Choose life today. Choose Jesus.
A list of organizations that provide support in the USA and UK:
Christian Organizations Offering Support and Resources (USA) 🇺🇸
Focus on the Family www.focusonthefamily.com Offers counseling, resources, and guidance for individuals and families facing challenges.
Celebrate Recovery www.celebraterecovery.com A Christ-centered 12-step recovery program for those struggling with addiction, pain, or trauma.
National Association for Christian Recovery (NACR) www.nacr.org Provides resources for those in recovery and seeking healing through faith.
The Hope Line www.thehopeline.com Offers free Christian counseling and support for those struggling with depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts.
American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) www.aacc.net Helps connect individuals with licensed Christian counselors for mental health and spiritual support.
Billy Graham Evangelistic Association (BGEA) Prayer Line www.billygraham.org | Call: 1-877-247-2426 Offers prayer and spiritual guidance for anyone in need.
Teen Challenge USA www.teenchallengeusa.org Faith-based recovery programs for teens and adults struggling with life-controlling issues.
Faithful Counseling www.faithfulcounseling.com A platform for online therapy with licensed Christian counselors.
GriefShare www.griefshare.org A support group and resource network for those grieving the loss of a loved one.
Christian Organizations Offering Support and Resources (UK) 🇬🇧
Premier Lifeline (Christian Helpline) www.premierlifeline.org.uk | Call: 0300 111 0101 A confidential Christian helpline offering support and prayer.
Mind and Soul Foundation www.mindandsoulfoundation.org Provides resources and support at the intersection of faith and mental health.
Christian Counseling UK www.counsellinguk.org Connects individuals with Christian counselors across the UK.
Hope UK www.hopeuk.org A Christian organization providing education and support around addiction and substance abuse.
The Samaritans (Christian Volunteers Available) www.samaritans.org | Call: 116 123 Offers 24/7 support for anyone in emotional distress, with Christian volunteers available upon request.
CAP (Christians Against Poverty) www.capuk.org Provides free debt counseling and support for those in financial difficulty.
Youth for Christ (YFC UK) www.yfc.co.uk Offers resources and support for young people, with a focus on faith and hope.
Christian Helplines Association (CHA) www.christianhelplines.org.uk A network of Christian helplines offering prayer and emotional support.
Alcoholics Victorious UK www.alcoholicsvictorious.co.uk A Christian-based support network for individuals overcoming addiction.
Churches Together in England (CTE) www.cte.org.uk A nationwide resource to help connect individuals with local churches and support groups.
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** Lori McPherson’s Testimony / By Photo by Marcos Fernandes de Matos at Pexels
“Your heart became proud on account of your beauty, and you corrupted your wisdom because of your splendor.” ~Ezekiel 28:17. The sin that corrupted Lucifer was self-generated pride. He became so impressed with his own beauty, intelligence, power, and position that he began to desire for himself the honor and glory that belonged to God alone, and thus he was cast out of heaven. ~Ezekiel 28:18.
As Christians, we are called to walk in humility, following the example of Jesus Christ. However, as we pursue a life of faith, we may unknowingly face a dangerous pitfall along the way: spiritual pride. Spiritual pride can be difficult to recognize because it often masquerades as a sense of religious conviction or spiritual accomplishment. This form of pride can harm our relationship with God and others, drawing us away from the humility Christ taught. Understanding what spiritual pride is, how it manifests, and how to guard against it can help us live a faith that is truly centered on God’s grace.
What Is Spiritual Pride?
Spiritual pride occurs when a believer begins to take undue pride in their own righteousness, knowledge, or “spiritual achievements.” It can start subtly, creeping in as we grow in our faith, gain biblical knowledge, or feel closer to God. Rather than focusing on God’s grace, we may start to view ourselves as more “holy” or “enlightened” than those around us. While growth in faith is a wonderful thing, the danger of spiritual pride lies in shifting our focus from God to ourselves.
Biblical Warnings About Spiritual Pride
The Bible provides numerous examples of spiritual pride, often contrasting it with humility. Here are some key passages that warn us about the dangers of pride, especially when it enters our spiritual lives:
1. The Pharisee and the Tax Collector (Luke 18:9-14)
Jesus tells the parable of a Pharisee and a tax collector who went to the temple to pray. The Pharisee’s prayer was filled with self-righteousness, thanking God that he was “not like other men.” The tax collector, on the other hand, humbly asked for mercy. Jesus declared that the tax collector, not the Pharisee, went home justified before God. This parable reminds us that God values humility over pride, especially pride based on religious actions.
2. Pride Before a Fall (Proverbs 16:18)
“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” When we allow pride to seep into our spiritual lives, it blinds us to our need for God’s grace, making us vulnerable to stumbling. This verse reminds us that humility is essential to walking in alignment with God’s will.
3. Paul’s Teaching on Grace (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Paul emphasizes that salvation is a gift from God, “not of works, lest any man should boast.” If we start to view our faith as something we’ve achieved, we risk boasting in ourselves rather than in the saving grace of Christ. Spiritual pride undermines the foundation of the Gospel, which is based on God’s grace, not our own merit.
Signs of Spiritual Pride in Our Lives
Spiritual pride can be hard to spot, especially since it often comes disguised as faithfulness or dedication. Here are a few signs that spiritual pride may be creeping into our lives:
1. Judgmental Attitude Toward Others
Spiritual pride often manifests as a judgmental attitude. We may find ourselves looking down on others who don’t seem as “mature” in their faith, questioning their sincerity or devotion. This judgment is rooted in pride, not in God’s love. Jesus reminded us not to judge others, as only He can see the heart (Matthew 7:1-5), however we are called to discern the spirit (1 John 4:1).
2. Desire for Recognition
Do we feel a need for others to see or acknowledge our spiritual efforts? Jesus warned against practicing our faith for the sake of appearance. He taught that when we give, pray, or fast, we should do so in secret, so that our reward is from God, not human praise (Matthew 6:1-6).
3. A Sense of “Arrival” in Our Faith
Spiritual pride can make us feel as though we’ve “arrived” at a place of deep understanding or holiness, diminishing our desire for further growth. This mindset blocks the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives, as it blinds us to our own weaknesses. The Christian life is a lifelong journey, and we should always approach it with a teachable spirit.
4. Isolation from Those “Less Mature”
When spiritual pride takes hold, we may avoid those we consider “less mature” in faith, seeing ourselves as above them. Yet Jesus spent time with sinners and outcasts, showing us that true spirituality is marked by compassion and connection, not separation.
Touching God’s Glory: A Warning Against Self-Centered Faith
In Christian teaching, God’s glory is central to everything we do. Isaiah 42:8 reminds us, “I am the LORD; that is my name; my glory I give to no other.” When we take credit for spiritual accomplishments or make faith about our own achievements, we are at risk of “touching” or taking credit for God’s glory. This often happens subtly as we grow in our spiritual lives, especially if we start to feel more “advanced” or “righteous” than others. This desire for recognition or approval, even in matters of faith, can lead us to take ownership of things only God has done.
Spiritual pride, when unchecked, tempts us to claim credit for the growth, insights, and transformations that are truly the work of the Holy Spirit in us. We may forget that any good we do, any understanding we have, and any growth we experience are ultimately God’s gifts to us, not our own achievements. Jesus taught in John 15:5, “Apart from me you can do nothing.” This truth reminds us that the power and goodness in our lives flow from God alone. To take credit for them not only misrepresents the truth but also diminishes our awe and gratitude toward God, who deserves all the glory.
Misplacing Credit: Recognizing the Holy Spirit’s Role and Discernment Against Deception
As we grow in faith, it’s essential to recognize that every good work, every insight, and every blessing in our lives is ultimately from God through the power of the Holy Spirit. Sometimes, however, spiritual pride or a lack of discernment can lead us to give credit for these works elsewhere—perhaps to a revered saint, man of God or even our own strength—rather than acknowledging God’s hand in our lives. While people may honor and seek intercession from saints, Scripture is clear that the power to transform lives, perform miracles, and guide us into truth belongs to the Holy Spirit alone and there is only one intercessor between God and men, Jesus Christ (John 14:26, Acts 1:8, 1 Timothy 2:5). Misplacing this credit, however well-intentioned, can obscure our reliance on God and His truth.
Moreover, the Bible warns us about the enemy’s tactics to deceive through counterfeit signs and miracles. Jesus cautioned in Matthew 24:24 that false prophets and false signs could lead people astray, even those in the faith. Satan’s deceptive works are meant to distract us from the truth, enticing people to give honor where it doesn’t belong. Understanding this reminds us to remain vigilant and discerning, always comparing any spiritual experience to the truth of God’s Word.
When spiritual pride enters, it can make us more vulnerable to these deceptions, as we may become focused on external displays of faith rather than genuine reliance on God. By maintaining humility and giving credit to the Holy Spirit alone, we guard our hearts from both misplaced honor and deception.
How Spiritual Pride Affects Our Relationship with God and Others
Spiritual pride can be extremely damaging, both to our relationship with God and with our fellow believers. Here are some ways it impacts our walk with Christ:
• Weakening Our Dependence on God
Spiritual pride makes us rely more on our own efforts than on God’s grace. When we focus on our accomplishments or knowledge, we lose sight of our continual need for God’s mercy and guidance.
• Creating Barriers in Community
Pride can create walls between us and other believers. The body of Christ is meant to be unified, with each member supporting and learning from one another. Spiritual pride disrupts this unity by fostering a spirit of judgment or competition.
• Preventing Personal Growth
Pride stops us from seeing our own shortcomings. When we’re too focused on what we think we know or have achieved, we close ourselves off to the refining work of the Holy Spirit. True growth requires humility and an openness to God’s correction.
How to Guard Against Spiritual Pride
Guarding against spiritual pride requires a commitment to humility, self-reflection, and a reliance on God’s grace. Here are some practical steps to help us stay on track:
1. Pray for a Humble Heart
Scripture encourages us to “clothe ourselves with humility” (1 Peter 5:5). We can pray that God would reveal any areas of pride in our hearts and give us a humble spirit. Regularly seeking God’s help in maintaining humility keeps us aware of our dependence on Him.
2. Examine Our Motives
It’s essential to check our motives, especially in our acts of faith. Are we seeking to glorify God or to receive approval from others? Taking time for honest self-reflection keeps our hearts aligned with God’s purposes.
3. Focus on Serving Others
Jesus taught us that the greatest among us should be a servant (Matthew 23:11). When we focus on quietly serving others rather than elevating ourselves, we are reminded of Christ’s humility and love. Acts of selfless service without looking for honour can help dismantle pride.
4. Remember Our Need for Grace
Meditating on God’s grace keeps us grounded. Paul wrote, “What do you have that you did not receive?” (1 Corinthians 4:7). Everything we have, including our faith, is a gift from God. By regularly reflecting on our dependence on His grace, we maintain a spirit of gratitude and humility, remembering that our spiritual journey is not one of personal achievement but one of God’s generosity and love.
A Prayer for Humility and Freedom from Spiritual Pride
Heavenly Father,
We come before You with humble hearts, acknowledging that without Your grace, we are nothing. Lord, we confess that pride sometimes creeps into our hearts, leading us to rely on ourselves rather than on You. Help us to see ourselves honestly and to root out any spiritual pride that blinds us to our dependence on You.
Holy Spirit, fill us with a deeper sense of Your presence and Your work in our lives. Remind us that every good thing, every insight, and every blessing comes from You alone. Guard our hearts against deception and any temptation to give glory to anyone or anything other than You. May we recognize the subtle ways the enemy seeks to distract us and remember that true power and goodness come from You alone.
Jesus, teach us to walk in the humility You modeled. Help us to focus not on our own achievements or knowledge but on serving others and bringing glory to Your name. May our lives be a reflection of Your love and grace, shining light not on ourselves but on You, our Lord and Savior.
In Your name we pray Jesus, Amen.
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** Photo by Pixabay at Pexels / Intro by Ron Rhodes from Reasoning from the Scripture ministries
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