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7 Firsts for Women in the Bible and Their Roles

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During the time of Jesus, women in society were often marginalized and excluded from positions of authority or prominence. In many cultures, their testimonies were not considered reliable in legal matters, and their roles were largely confined to domestic spaces. Social and religious norms discouraged interactions between men and women outside their families, further isolating them from the public and spiritual spheres.

Yet, Jesus stood in stark contrast to these norms. He consistently demonstrated love, respect, and trust for women, engaging them in ways that were revolutionary for His time. Not only did He elevate their status by including them in His ministry, but He also entrusted them with vital roles that shaped the course of salvation history.

Below, we explore seven significant “firsts” for women in the Bible, highlighting their profound contributions as witnesses and messengers of the Good News—and the timeless lessons they offer for stepping boldly into new beginnings.

1. The First Evangelist: The Samaritan Woman at the Well

At Jacob’s well, Jesus spoke with a Samaritan woman, breaking societal and gender barriers (John 4:1–26). In this encounter, He revealed Himself as the Messiah, and her heart was forever changed. She became the first evangelist in the New Testament, sharing the news with her town and inspiring many to believe. Her story reminds us that each new day carries the potential for transformation—one conversation, one courageous step, or one act of faith can spark a ripple effect that changes the lives of those around us.

2. The First Witness of the Resurrection: Mary Magdalene

Mary Magdalene was the first person to see the risen Jesus (John 20:11–18). She encountered Him at the empty tomb, initially mistaking Him for the gardener. When Jesus called her by name, she recognized Him, and He entrusted her with the message of His resurrection. Her story reminds us that no matter where we are starting from, we are called to witness and share life-changing truths. Every beginning, no matter how uncertain, holds the potential to inspire others.

3. The First to Anoint Jesus for His Burial: Mary of Bethany

Mary of Bethany anointed Jesus’ feet with costly perfume, a prophetic act of devotion (John 12:1–8; Mark 14:6, 9). Jesus affirmed that her gesture would be remembered wherever the Gospel is preached. Mary’s actions teach us that intentional acts of faith, love, and service mark new beginnings with purpose. Each day offers a chance to leave a meaningful impact through devotion and thoughtful action.

4. The First Woman Healed Publicly: Peter’s Mother-in-Law

Peter’s mother-in-law was healed from a fever by Jesus (Matthew 8:14–15). Immediately following her restoration, she served Him and others, demonstrating how healing and empowerment go hand in hand. Her example reminds us that each fresh start can be met with action. Transformation—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—is meant to inspire us to serve and make a difference in the lives of others.

5. The First Financial Supporters of Jesus: Women of Means

Women such as Mary Magdalene, Joanna, and Susanna played a vital role in supporting Jesus’ ministry (Luke 8:1–3). Their generosity ensured His mission could continue, reflecting faith in action. Their story encourages us to invest our resources—time, energy, and talents—into things that advance God’s work. Every new beginning is an opportunity to give in ways that create lasting impact.

6. The First to Hear of His Birth: Mary, the Mother of Jesus

Mary, the mother of Jesus, was the first to hear the angel Gabriel’s announcement of His birth (Luke 1:26–38). Her immediate response, “I am the Lord’s servant,” reflects remarkable faith and willingness to embrace God’s plan. Mary’s courage teaches us that accepting God’s call requires trust, even when the future is unknown. Each new chapter in life is a chance to step forward in obedience and confidence, trusting that God’s plan unfolds perfectly.

7. The First Gentile Woman Praised for Her Faith: The Syrophoenician Woman

In Matthew 15:21–28, a Syrophoenician woman approached Jesus seeking healing for her daughter. Her persistence and unwavering faith impressed Him, and He praised her: “Woman, you have great faith!” Her story reminds us that persistence and boldness in faith open doors to new opportunities. Every beginning carries challenges, but perseverance and trust can lead to extraordinary outcomes.

Jesus’ interactions with women consistently challenged cultural norms, emphasizing their faith, courage, and indispensable role in His mission. From the Samaritan woman who became the first evangelist to Mary Magdalene, the first witness of the resurrection, women were central to the story of salvation. Their lives inspire all believers to embrace God’s call, step boldly into their purpose, and recognize the transformative impact of faith, service, and courage—no matter what new beginnings lie ahead.

These seven “firsts” in the Bible remind us that God values courage, faith, and devotion, often entrusting ordinary individuals with extraordinary roles. The women highlighted here embraced their callings with boldness, obedience, and trust, leaving a lasting impact on the story of salvation. Their lives inspire us to step confidently into new beginnings, to serve with purpose, and to trust that every act of faith—no matter how small—can shape the world around us. Just as these women became witnesses, messengers, and pillars of God’s plan, we too are invited to live boldly, embrace our calling, and make each new day an opportunity for transformation and hope.

Handling Disagreements in Marriage

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Key Quotes

“As the ‘head of the household,’ I believe the man should take it upon himself to lead by apologizing for his part first, even if he feels 99.9% of the blame is with his wife.”

” As I have often told newly wedded brothers, spiritual leadership is primarily comprised of being the first person in the relationship to die to yourself. “

“Seeking God individually first, examining my own heart (and asking Him to search my heart and reveal whether there’s any offense there), eagerly resolved to make right anything He reveals to me, is the more productive and fruitful path to restoring my earthly relationship than belaboring various viewpoints and tactics in a discussion.”

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Disagreements in human relationships are inevitable, even among those who are sincere believers. As Christians, we believe there are certain things which we should never even consider in times of difficulty. For example, when we are upset, we will never even consider killing our opponent. It’s laughable to even think that’s a possibility. In the same way, in marriage, we do not even consider divorce to be an option in resolving our disagreements. Divorce should be as unthinkable an option among spouses in marriage as murder is unthinkable among friends in an argument. 

In addition to knowing what not to do, it’s important to know what TO do in tough times. We should seek for tools to resolve our conflicts in a healthy, constructive manner. 

In my own marriage, remembering the following two things has helped tremendously:

I must be the first to die to myself 

There’s almost never a circumstance where the blame is 100% on one party alone. Both parties own some portion of the responsibility for any disagreement. As the “head of the household,” I believe the man should take it upon himself to lead by apologizing for his part first, even if he feels 99.9% of the blame is with his wife. (It’s incredibly unlikely that this felt proportion reflects reality)

One thing I have learned is that I must not apologize hoping to trigger reciprocity. My goal should not be to get my wife to “apologize back,” but rather to genuinely confess and own up to my responsibility. Sure, I may wish my wife would apologize, but that is a fleshly desire. I need to die to my will and my own desires, and seek instead to only be responsible for and concerned about my own shortcomings in the matter in question.  

There’s a lot of talk about the husband being a “spiritual leader” in the Christian world today. As I have often told newly wedded brothers, spiritual leadership is primarily comprised of being the first person in the relationship to die to yourself. There are all sorts of worldly ideas pervading Christendom about what it means for the man to be the head: about commanding respect, being obeyed, being the ruler of the home, etc. These are all wrong notions. To learn what true spiritual leadership is, we must look to Jesus Christ as our spiritual Head, and the Husband of His Church. Looking to our own Head and seeing how He spiritually led His Church, we see Jesus’s spiritual leadership defined by denying His own will every day, dying to Himself, looking to His Father, depending on the Holy Spirit, carrying His cross, and coming up underneath us in service and love. He never demanded respect, or forced obedience, but rather set the example of humble submission and obedience to the will of God the Father. 

This is what we as men in the home should do as well: set the example of humble submission to God as our spiritual act of leadership. 

Seek restoration of my relationship with God first

One picture that has really helped me think about resolving conflicts/ disagreements in my own marriage is that of the hands playing a piano. These hands can be compared to the husband and wife in a marriage. Think of when a player’s hands play beautifully. They are coordinated not through efforts of their own, time spent together in a kangaroo pocket, etc, but rather simply because they’re both perfectly connected to the player’s head. 

In marriage, I used to think we needed to have lots of long talks to “get on the same page,” etc, which really only amounted to the hands “spending more time together;” it never actually put us in tune! I mistakenly thought that unity was a function of coordination and communication, but more coordination and communication did not result in more unity; often, my own efforts only resulted in greater disunity. 

When I saw that if the hands aren’t coordinated, it means one of them must disconnected from the player’s head, it all made sense! Disconnection is paralysis, and we can’t expect a pianist with a paralyzed hand to play beautifully. Likewise, in marriage, we don’t need to spend more time together as paralyzed members; we need to seek to be restored to perfect connection with our Head! 

Seeking God individually first, examining my own heart (and asking Him to search my heart and reveal whether there’s any offense there), eagerly resolved to make right anything He reveals to me, is the more productive and fruitful path to restoring my earthly relationship than belaboring various viewpoints and tactics in a discussion. 

As we have done this, we have found many disagreements completely fade away entirely, needing no further discussion. When we do desire further conversation, we can engage fruitfully as members that have been restored to health as fully functioning, healthy hands.  Brother Zac Poonen has used the picture of the cross to describe all of our human relationships (the horizontal beam) in the context of our relationship with God (the longer vertical beam), and this picture is definitely true in marriage: no horizontal can thrive with a broken vertical; and almost all broken horizontals are really because of a broken vertical beam. 

God’s will for our marriages is that they would demonstrate the wonder of His redeeming love for us, reconciling us to perfect unity with Himself (Ephesians 5:31-32). These are a couple of ways in which we can personally seek to reflect His love in the disagreements that threaten to divide our marriages

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Speaking the Truth in Love in a World That Hates the Light

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In an age where feelings are exalted over facts and truth is treated like hate speech, speaking God’s Word can feel like standing alone in the storm. Yet Proverbs 1:7 (AMP) reminds us: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise skillful and godly wisdom and instruction.” The wise welcome correction because it leads to growth. The foolish resist it because it confronts their comfort, pride, or sin. That resistance grows when people believe they are in control—smarter than God. Some mock His Word to justify rebellion, normalize sin, and persuade others that “everyone is doing it.” When the truth exposes their darkness, they often attack the messenger: “Why listen to that ‘foolish’ person? I’m more intelligent than them.” But Scripture cuts through the pride: “God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise… so that no one may boast before him.” (1 Corinthians 1:27–29)

They may become rude, dismissive, or even hostile—not because the truth is wrong, but because it demands change. And change requires humility, repentance, and letting go of false comfort.

Jesus explained the root of this rejection: “And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their deeds were evil.” (John 3:19) Darkness offers the illusion of safety. Many—even those who call themselves Christians—live with a cultural faith, not a transformed life. They may know church songs but not God’s Word, speak about Jesus but never obey Him, or share Bible verses online without living by them. When truth reveals this gap between appearance and reality, the reaction is often not repentance but hostility. Admitting the truth means admitting a lie has been lived. That’s painful. It shatters pride and forces people to confront uncomfortable realities about themselves and their choices.

Paul asked the Galatians, “Have I now become your enemy by telling you the truth?” (Galatians 4:16) Speaking truth will sometimes cost you relationships. When you reveal the difference between cultural Christianity and genuine faith, you become a threat. People do not want to hear that faith without obedience is dead (James 2:26), that repentance is essential (Luke 13:3), or that lukewarm faith is unacceptable to God (Revelation 3:16). It’s easier to discredit the messenger than to face the need for personal change.

Jesus warned His followers, “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.” (John 15:18) Paul also wrote, “Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” (2 Timothy 3:12) Living in the light will not make you popular. You may lose friends, be misunderstood, or be ridiculed. You might feel left out, pushed aside, or treated like the problem. But God has not called us to be liked—He has called us to be faithful.

Still, even when it hurts, we must shine the light. Not everyone will reject it—some will be drawn to it, convicted of their sin, and transformed by God’s grace. You may not see the change immediately, but your obedience plants seeds God can water later. Jesus said, “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.” (Matthew 5:14) When you face rejection, remember that it is not truly you they reject—it is God. Your task is obedience; the results are His.

So let your light shine. Do not let fear, pride, or the enemy blow it out. Even if speaking the truth costs you everything, remember the words of the old song: “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…” Keep shining, because the light you carry is not your own—it is the Light of Christ. And no matter how loud the darkness shouts, His light will outshine every shadow.

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Living Out The Fruits of the Spirit

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“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” ~ Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV)

The Fruits of the Spirit are transformative virtues that not only enrich our lives but also positively influence the world around us. They provide a roadmap for living with purpose and reflecting God’s character in our daily actions. Let us explore each of these qualities, their significance, and practical ways to embody them.

Love

Love is the cornerstone of the Christian faith. It represents a selfless, unconditional affection that motivates us to act with compassion and empathy.

Practical Application

Show love through small, intentional acts of kindness each day. Express gratitude, lend a helping hand, or offer a listening ear. Remember, love is not just a feeling but a reflection of God’s heart in action.

“Let all that you do be done in love.” — 1 Corinthians 16:14 (ESV)

Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank You for Your boundless love. Help us to embody Your love in our interactions with others, showing compassion and kindness in all that we do. Amen.

Joy

Joy is a deep, abiding happiness rooted in our relationship with God, independent of external circumstances.

Practical Application

Cultivate joy by beginning each day with gratitude. Maintain a gratitude journal and share joyful moments with others. Joy is contagious—spreading it uplifts those around us.

“Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice!” — Philippians 4:4 (ESV)

Prayer

Lord, thank You for the joy that comes from knowing You. Help us to focus on our blessings and to share joy with others, even in challenging times. Amen.

Peace

Peace is the inner tranquillity that comes from trusting in God, enabling us to remain calm amid life’s challenges.

Practical Application

Dedicate time daily to quiet reflection, prayer, or scripture reading. Taking a walk in nature or meditating on God’s word can provide the serenity needed to handle life’s storms.

“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 4:7 (ESV)

Prayer

Gracious God, thank You for the peace that surpasses all understanding. Help us to rest in Your presence and be peacemakers in our relationships. Amen.

Patience

Patience is the ability to endure challenges with grace, responding thoughtfully rather than impulsively.

Practical Application

Reframe frustrating moments as opportunities for growth. When impatience arises, take a deep breath and remember that waiting builds resilience and trust in God.

“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.” — Psalm 37:7 (NIV)

Prayer

Dear Lord, grant us the patience to endure difficulties with grace. Help us to grow through life’s waiting seasons and reflect Your calmness in our actions. Amen.

Kindness

Kindness is an outward expression of love, marked by friendliness, generosity, and consideration for others.

Practical Application

Perform intentional acts of kindness regularly—compliment someone, write a thoughtful note, or assist a colleague. Small gestures often have a lasting impact.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32 (ESV)

Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of kindness. Open our hearts to see opportunities to bless others and reflect Your love through our actions. Amen.

Goodness

Goodness involves moral integrity and a commitment to doing what is right, even when it is difficult.

Practical Application

Set personal integrity goals. Be honest, avoid gossip, and advocate for justice when needed. Striving for goodness inspires others to pursue what is right.

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” — Romans 12:21 (ESV)

Prayer

Lord, thank You for the call to live with goodness and integrity. Guide us to make righteous choices and stand for truth, even in the face of opposition. Amen.

Faithfulness

Faithfulness reflects loyalty and reliability in our relationships and our walk with God.

Practical Application

Develop faithfulness by maintaining consistent prayer and scripture study. Honour your commitments and support others in their times of need.

“The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:24 (NIV)

Prayer

Gracious God, thank You for Your unwavering faithfulness. Help us to remain loyal in our relationships and deepen our commitment to You. Amen.

Gentleness

Gentleness is the quality of being mild and tender, approaching others with humility and understanding.

Practical Application

Respond thoughtfully in conversations, especially during conflicts. Listen actively and choose calmness over anger, fostering an environment of respect.

“Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand.” — Philippians 4:5 (ESV)

Prayer

Lord, thank You for Your gentle spirit. Teach us to respond to others with humility and kindness, reflecting Your grace in our interactions. Amen.

Self-Control

Self-control is the ability to manage our impulses and align our decisions with God’s will.

Practical Application

Set boundaries and practice mindfulness in decision-making. Reflect regularly on your actions, adjusting to align with God’s values.

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” — 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV)

Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of self-control. Strengthen our discipline to resist temptation and live according to Your will. Amen.

Conclusion

Living out the Fruits of the Spirit enriches our lives and inspires those around us to seek God. By actively embodying these virtues, we become beacons of God’s love, peace, and righteousness in the world.

No Fear in Death: The Hope That Only Jesus Gives

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For many—especially in later years—death becomes a more pressing and personal thought. As the pace of life slows down, and we watch friends and loved ones pass on, it’s not uncommon for quiet fears to settle in: What will happen when I die? Will I suffer? Is there anything beyond this life?

For some, these questions are pushed aside with busyness or distraction. But for others—especially those who are older, unwell, or alone—the fear of death can feel overwhelming. Perhaps it’s the fear of pain, or of the unknown. For some, it’s the worry that they haven’t lived a “good enough” life. For others, it’s the painful reality of not knowing what comes next.

And yet, this article comes to you with a message of peace, hope, and truth. You don’t have to face death with fear. You don’t have to carry this burden in silence. There is One who has gone ahead of you—and who has already defeated death on your behalf.

His name is Jesus Christ.

Jesus Conquered the Grave

Death is real. But so is the resurrection.

The Bible tells us that death entered the world through sin, but that Jesus entered the world to defeat both. He lived a sinless life, died on the cross to pay the penalty for our sins, and rose again from the dead—conquering death once and for all.

“I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in Me will live, even though they die.” — John 11:25

This isn’t just a comforting idea—it’s a proven reality, witnessed by hundreds of people in Jesus’ day and preserved through centuries of transformed lives. The resurrection means that death is not the end for those who trust in Jesus. It is a doorway into eternal life with God.

For the Christian: Death Has Lost Its Sting

If you already believe in Jesus, you don’t need to fear what comes next.

“O death, where is your sting? O grave, where is your victory? … Thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” — 1 Corinthians 15:55, 57

For the believer, death is not a punishment—it is a passage into everlasting peace, rest, and joy in the presence of God.

The fear of death begins to melt when you realize that your eternity is secure in the hands of a loving Savior. He promises never to leave you, even in your final moments. And when your time comes, He will walk with you through the valley of the shadow of death—and bring you safely home.

But What If You’re Not Sure Where You Stand With God?

Perhaps you’re not certain whether you’re ready. You may have grown up going to church, or maybe you’ve lived without much thought of God. Maybe you’ve made mistakes, or feel you’ve drifted too far. Or perhaps you’ve just never known for sure what to believe.

You don’t have to stay in that uncertainty. You don’t have to live with fear. There is a way to be sure, and His name is Jesus.

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” — Romans 6:23

The Call to Repent: A Turning Point

The Bible says clearly that we have all sinned. None of us can earn heaven by being “good enough.” But the good news is: God offers forgiveness—not because we deserve it, but because He loves us.

To receive this gift of eternal life, Jesus calls us to repent. That means to turn away from sin—our old life—and turn toward God.

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, and times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” — Acts 3:19

Repentance is a change of heart. It means admitting our need for God’s mercy, asking His forgiveness, and choosing to follow Him. It’s not just about feeling sorry—it’s about real surrender.

Forgive Others as God Has Forgiven You

Jesus also teaches us to forgive others. Many people carry the heavy weight of bitterness, pain, and broken relationships. But forgiveness brings freedom—not just for those we forgive, but for our own hearts.

“If you forgive others when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” — Matthew 6:14

When you let go of past hurts, you open your heart to healing—and to God’s peace.

Trust in Jesus and Receive the Gift of the Holy Spirit

When you turn from sin and trust in Jesus, God not only forgives you—He comes to live within you by His Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is your Comforter, Guide, and Helper. He gives you strength, assurance, and a deep inner peace, even in your final years or moments.

“Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” — Acts 2:38

This is the new life Jesus offers. A life of peace, purpose, and eternal hope.

A Simple Prayer to Begin Your New Life

If you’re ready to receive Jesus today, you can begin with a sincere prayer like this:

Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner and that I need Your forgiveness. I turn away from my sin and choose to follow You. I believe You died for me and rose again. Please come into my life, forgive me, and fill me with Your Holy Spirit. Help me to live for You and forgive others as You have forgiven me. I give You my heart. Thank You for the gift of eternal life. Amen.

You’re Not Alone — Help Is Available

Whether you’re young or old, healthy or ill, it’s never too late to turn to God. Today can be the beginning of your new life. You can face the future with peace, not fear. With confidence, not confusion.

If You’ve Decided to Follow Jesus—or Want to Know More

If you’ve recently made a decision to follow Jesus Christ, or you’re exploring what it means to know Him, you don’t have to walk this journey alone. There are caring people and resources available to support and encourage you.

Helpful Support for Those Seeking Hope and Peace in Christ

If you are looking for trustworthy Christian support as you face questions about life, death, grief, or growing older, these organisations in the UK and USA offer care, prayer, and gospel-centered resources—all firmly grounded in the truth of God’s Word:

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Pilgrims’ Friend Society

Caring for older people with dignity and Christian compassion, offering homes, support, and encouragement focused on eternal hope in Jesus Christ.

Website: www.pilgrimsfriend.org.uk

Phone: 0300 303 1403

Faith in Later Life

Helping churches and communities support older people with biblical resources, encouragement, and the good news of Jesus.

Website: www.faithinlaterlife.org

Phone: 020 4571 0770

Care for the Family – Bereavement Support

Providing Christian-based help for those facing grief, loneliness, or loss, with a heart of compassion and biblical comfort.

Website: www.careforthefamily.org.uk

Phone: 029 2081 0800

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Peace With God – Billy Graham Evangelistic Association

Offering 24/7 gospel help, live chat, and biblical resources to explore faith and receive personal prayer and encouragement.

Website: www.peacewithgod.net

Grief-Share

A Christ-centered support ministry helping people through grief using Scripture, prayer, and small group support.

Website: www.griefshare.org

Phone: 1-800-395-5755

Focus on the Family – Counseling & Care

Offering biblical articles, prayer, and help through trained Christian counselors for those dealing with fear, grief, or family challenges.

Website: www.focusonthefamily.com

Phone: 1-800-A-FAMILY (1-800-232-6459)

You are not alone.

There is real peace, comfort, and assurance in Jesus Christ—for this life and for eternity. Whether you’re seeking answers, prayer, or simply someone to talk to, these ministries are here to help you walk with Christ—without fear.

What next? 

7 Things To Do After Getting Saved

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