One of the Ten Commandments is “You shall not covet.” Proverbs 27:4 reminds us of the destructive power of envy: “Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy?” Envy and jealousy are not fleeting emotions—they can erode relationships, cloud judgment, and separate us from God’s peace.
A person’s attitude in life is all-important. Much of the work of counseling involves helping people accept their reality and reshape their attitudes. Many people harbor poor attitudes about themselves, others, and even God. Unfortunately, it is human nature to compare ourselves to others. Jealousy and envy are often the toxic results of this comparison, combining anger, insecurity, fear, and greed.
Jealousy, like its cousin envy, is a silent and destructive force. It can hide for years, silently scheming, until it strikes through slander, gossip, or even violence. Jealousy involves desiring what others have, while envy resents others for their blessings. Both attitudes are the opposite of love and aim to see others fail. They stem from an inability to recognize God’s provision in our lives and a lack of gratitude. James 3:16 warns us that “where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.”
Comparison, low self-esteem, and a desire for status or attention fuel jealousy and envy. Social media and a lack of meaningful relationships can amplify these feelings, as can a lack of intimacy with God. Life is not about possessions or status. Coveting what others have is idolatry, as it places material things or success above God. God promises to provide for our needs, and He calls us to store up treasures in heaven by living generously and faithfully.
To overcome jealousy and envy, we must first acknowledge their presence in our hearts. We need to humble ourselves before God, asking Him to reveal the motives and feelings behind these emotions. Once we’ve confessed these sins to Christ, we can begin the process of transformation.
Cultivate Gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful antidote to envy. Reflect on the blessings in your life and thank God daily, even for the small things. The Psalms are a wonderful resource for turning thankfulness into prayer. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what God has already provided.
Avoid Comparison Traps. Social media often paints a false picture of people’s lives, fueling unhealthy comparisons. Instead, focus on activities that nourish your soul and draw you closer to God. Remember that God does not judge us by outward appearances, wealth, or accomplishments—He looks at the heart.
Focus on Jesus. When we fix our eyes on Jesus, our perspective changes. Jesus modeled humility and selflessness, and He reminds us that eternal treasures matter more than worldly possessions or status. Living to please God brings peace and joy, knowing that we are saved by grace, not by our achievements.
Understand the Root Causes. Analyze the triggers for jealousy and envy in your life. Why do certain people or situations provoke these feelings? Talking with trusted friends, counselors, or pastors can help uncover underlying issues and past wounds. Healing often begins when we confront these root causes and surrender them to God.
Pray for Others and Yourself. Praying for the people you envy transforms your heart. Genuine prayer moves us from resentment to love and helps us see others through God’s eyes. It also deepens our relationship with God, who has given us unique talents and opportunities to serve others. True growth happens when we embrace these gifts and use them to glorify God.
Contentment is key to overcoming envy and jealousy. When we trust God as our provider, we stop striving for things that don’t truly satisfy. Hebrews 13:5 reminds us to “keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’”
By cultivating gratitude, avoiding comparison, focusing on Jesus, addressing the root causes of envy, and growing through prayer, we align ourselves with God’s truth. These steps free us from the bondage of jealousy and lead to a life of peace, joy, and love.
Life is not about possessions, status, or recognition. It is about walking faithfully with God, trusting His plan, and rejoicing in His provision. As you surrender your struggles to God, remember His promise in Philippians 1:6: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Seek Him first, and He will replace jealousy with peace, envy with love, and fear with contentment.
Prayer to Overcome Jealousy and Embrace Contentment
Heavenly Father, We come before You with humble hearts, acknowledging that jealousy and envy can creep into our lives and cloud our vision of Your goodness. Lord, search our hearts and reveal any sinful attitudes that hinder our walk with You. Help us to surrender these feelings to You, trusting in Your abundant grace and provision.
Teach us to be content with what You have given us and to trust that Your plans for our lives are good. Fill us with gratitude for Your blessings, both great and small, and remind us daily of Your steadfast love and faithfulness.
Lord, protect us from the traps of comparison and the lies of the enemy that tell us we are not enough. Instead, let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Help us to find joy in serving You and others with the unique gifts You have entrusted to us.
Give us the strength to love those around us genuinely, even when envy tries to take root. Teach us to celebrate the successes of others and to pray for their well-being with sincere hearts. May our lives reflect Your love, which does not envy but rejoices in the truth.
Father, remind us that true joy and peace are found in Your presence, not in earthly possessions or status. Guide us to store up treasures in Heaven and to seek first Your Kingdom and righteousness.
We thank You for Your promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us. Fill us with Your Spirit, transforming our hearts and minds to be more like Christ. May we walk in freedom, contentment, and the joy that comes from knowing You.
In Jesus’ name, we pray, Amen.
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** By Fritz Chery at Bible reasons + Michael Linn a licensed professional counsellor, Resolute Counseling.com + Quote by Dr. Bill Edgar former president of Geneva Edu and pastor of the Reformed Presbyterian Church / Photo by Brett Jordan at Pexels
One of the most common and important questions that every Christian hears is, “can I be gay and a Christian?” I believe this is a question that our generation so desperately wants to know the truth about. BUT…
Many people answer this question from a judgmental place void of love. In this video I answer this question full of love but full of the truth. Why? It is time for Christians to engage the questions of our culture and world to provide answers that nobody else fully understands or knows.
Whether you identify as a member of the LGBTQ community, a Christian or somewhere in between this video will challenge, encourage and bless you.
My desire is that you would encounter the real Jesus as you watch this video and that the truth set you free. – Sincerely, Ross Johnston. The transcript from the video can be found below…
Ross Johnston was born via artificial insemination and brought up in a LGBTQ household, Ross’s personal testimony can be found here: Testimony.
The below transcript is from Ross Johnston’s video, can I be gay and Christian:
I’m gay, and I’m a Christian—or I’m a Christian, but I’m struggling with same-sex attraction, and I don’t know how to get free. You see, here’s the truth: these are the top two questions that I get on all of my social media platforms every single day, and I truly believe these are questions of a generation—questions that are desperate for answers that are full of the truth and full of love.
So, in today’s video, we’re going to dive right into these. Now, please, before you keep watching this video, I want to say a few things to really explain and express my heart, because here’s the truth: so many times, when people talk about this topic, it comes from a place of hate and a place of judgment, and I want my heart posture to be so clear to every single person watching, whether you call yourself a Christian or you don’t.
Here are the few things that I want to lay as a foundation before we talk about and answer these questions.
Number one: I was born by artificial insemination. I grew up in a lesbian household. My mom is still currently living in that community. Why do I bring this up? So many people will say, when I share what I’m going to share today (and this will come from Christians and non-Christians), that what I’m saying is hateful, it’s not loving, etc., etc.
Here is the reality: my entire life, even up until this point, I have lived among, and all of my mom’s friends are a part of, the LGBTQ community. So many people in that community are kind, are loving, forgiving, and are amazing people. So, I want you to know that my heart posture—whatever side, wherever your beliefs are right now—I just want you to know one thing: my heart is to share the truth through the lens of love. Because here’s the second thing I want to say: I am simply asking for the next 10 to 15 minutes of your attention, whatever you call yourself, whatever you identify as, whatever your spiritual beliefs are. Because here’s what I’m believing for: that if we can actually engage these hard and challenging questions of our generation, could it actually lead to breakthrough? Could it actually lead to salvation? Could it actually lead to healing? Could it actually lead to people living the life that they are designed for?
And here’s my other desire: I am not here to Bible-bash you and just throw scripture verses at you. No. Do I believe in the Bible? 100%. Do I believe it’s the Word of God? 100%. But even if you don’t believe that, I’m going to share things today that I believe actually have the power for you to receive destiny, for you to receive hope, joy, and a purpose—maybe for the first time in your life.
And here’s the third thing—and I think this is funny, but it’s the truth—so many times, people forget that sex was not our idea. It was not man’s idea; it was God’s idea. He created it from the beginning of time, before sin, before almost anything else besides creation. And here’s why this is important: God created sex for procreation and for pleasure. So, I think we have to redefine sex in our minds as Christians and as people of the world. The truth is, sex is God’s design so that His purposes would become reality on the earth.
Because what is the first thing that He told man to do? ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and govern it.’ And you can’t do that without sex. And here’s the last thing I want to say before we dive into this video. Thank you for listening to these. What I want you to know is, at the end of this video, I’m going to share something called the Good News. Now, you might have heard it, you might not have heard it, but here’s why I want you to stay till the end: because I’m actually going to share the real truth on what can actually set you free, save you, bring you healing, and bring you into the design for your life.
So, let’s dive into this.
Alright, so the first question that I want to answer today is: can you be gay and be a Christian? And here’s what I’m going to do: I’m going to explain, out of the Word of God, out of the Bible, out of the Scriptures, what is the truth. Now, here’s what I want to say: I know there are some people watching; they might not even believe in the Bible. Maybe you’ve never read the Bible, maybe you’ve never had an experience with God, or an experience with Jesus, an experience with the Holy Spirit. Just please listen, because here is the truth: there’s one thing that’s clear from scholars, who are Christians and not, that the Bible is indeed a real document that has been confirmed and that has been proven and tested to be completely real.
And so, this is what the Bible begs the question: if this document, which has been proven to be real, is the truth, then what is the responsibility and the action that is placed on my life?”
And so, here’s the first thing I want to start with: this is literally the first page of the entire Bible. It is Genesis 1:27, and here are verses 26 and 27. Here’s what I want to read: if you have your Bible, just go with me real quick.
Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals, and the small animals along the ground.”
Now check this out: so God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God, He created them; male and female, He created them. Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the Earth and govern it.”
A few things: It was God’s desire to create you and me. You were formed in your mother’s womb by God. He loved you, He chose you, and He knew you before the foundations of the Earth. Whether your parents wanted you or whether any other person had any say in how you came to this Earth, God knew you, created you, and formed you in your mother’s womb.
Now here’s the second thing we see from right here: that God created us, every person, in His image. That’s amazing. The third thing we see is that He created male and female—two genders and only two genders. It’s literally that simple. But here’s the next thing He said: “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the Earth and govern it.” As I said earlier, God’s design is for sex to actually take place on the Earth so that His purposes can become a reality through us.
Now here’s the second thing: I want to go to another scripture. I want to go to Genesis chapter 2, so just go to the next page with me, and I want to read verses 21 through 24.
So the Lord caused the man, Adam, to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to the man. At last, the man exclaimed, “This one is bone from my bone and flesh from my flesh. She will be called woman because she was taken from the man.” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
So from the beginning, from creation, we see God’s design: for male and female, men and women, to become united as one through the covenant and context of marriage.
So here are a few more scriptures I want to dive into, but you need to understand the context of what’s going on here. Moses was called by God to lead the Israelites, the people of God, out of bondage and slavery in Egypt to the promised land. When he did this, he gave them what we know as the Old Testament or the Old Covenant law, which is basically ways they should live their lives to honor God.
In the Book of Leviticus, which, to be honest, a lot of people don’t like reading because it’s just a bunch of laws and can be a little bit boring, but there’s so much to be found here. In Leviticus 18 and chapter 20, there are two things that are said that are very valuable.
Number one: Leviticus 18:22 says, “Do not practice homosexuality; having sex with another man as with a woman is a detestable sin.”
Now, I want you to go with me just to the next chapter, chapter 20, and then go with me to verse 13. It says, “If a man practices homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman, both have committed a detestable act.”
Now here’s the thing that’s super clear about this: God is making it really clear. Now please stay with me past this—even if you do not agree—God is making it clear that living and performing homosexual acts is not His design and goes against how He created you and me to be.
Why does this matter? I like to say it like this: if you don’t walk in the design of God, you can’t walk in the blessing of God. If something is designed a certain way and you try to use it in a way that it’s not designed for, it’s going to cause issues and going to cause problems.
Because so many people will say, “Well, Jesus never talked about homosexuality. He never said it was a sin; He never spoke ill against it.” Well, I want you to go with me to Matthew chapter 19. These are the exact words of Jesus, now we are in the new testament, and this is what Jesus says. Some Pharisees—religious people—came to Him. Isn’t that interesting? And they said, “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” So, what is Jesus responding to? He’s responding to marriage. And this is what He says:
“Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning, God made them male and female.”
So, what is He doing here? He’s affirming the two genders, and He’s affirming creation. And He said, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two, but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
So, did Jesus say the word “homosexuality”? No. But you have to understand, once again, the context of this Scripture. He’s talking to religious leaders; He’s talking to Pharisees. They knew the Old Testament law—the Scriptures that I just talked about right before this—like the back of their hand. They knew the traditions; they knew the customs. So, they already knew that the design of God was not to live a homosexual life.
And so, Jesus is saying right here, He’s affirming what we just read in those previous Scriptures, and He’s basically saying that man and woman should come together as one, and that no one should separate that. This is amazing.
But here’s the last place I want to go. Now, listen, I know many YouTube channels are super scripted, super edited—we’re just raw and real. I want you to go with me to Romans chapter 1, and I’m flipping there live with you right now because I want to read this Scripture, and I believe this is a powerful Scripture. I want you to just go with me real quick to verse 18. We’re going to read about four verses. Just stay with me for a second.
Here’s what it says:
“But God shows His anger from heaven against all sinful, wicked people who suppress the truth by their wickedness. They know the truth about God because He has made it obvious to them. For ever since the world—listen to this—ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see His invisible qualities, His eternal power and divine nature. So, they have no excuse for not knowing God.”
Wherever you’re at on your faith journey… If you just simply step outside, or wherever you’re watching this video, and you look up, you look to the side, and you see nature, you see creation—you know there’s a Designer. You know there’s a God. This is incredible. This is the foundation God is using. And here’s what else Paul said, the one who wrote the Book of Romans:
“Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship Him as God or even give Him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like.”
Now listen to this verse right here, verse 23:
“And instead of worshiping—giving attention, affection, and honor (that’s what worship means)—to the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people.”
What is God trying to say here? That as human beings, before we know who God truly is and we know our full identity, we worship—or we place all our value on—the creation instead of the Creator. And then, here’s where it goes on to say right here, this is the key verse:
“So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. They traded the truth about God for a lie.”
And here’s what I think is so, so powerful—verse 26:
“That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.”
Now, here are a few things I want to make as closing remarks. I want to make three points.
Number one: You also have to understand that in all of the Bible, all of the Scripture right here, there is not one man or woman who actually affirmed or encouraged living a homosexual lifestyle.
But here’s another thing you need to know: orthopraxy and orthodoxy, I’m going to break that down in simple english, non-churchy terms. What it means is, from the beginning of the New Testament Church—which was about 2,000 years ago—there was never a belief or practice allowed in the church in regards to homosexuality. This is a new concept, a new belief system that has been affirmed only in the last few decades here on earth. So for close to 17, 18, 1900 years, no Christian, no church, would actually come out and say that we affirm homosexuality and that we allow that practice among those who call themselves Christians.
So here’s what I want to say: wherever you’re at on this journey, it is clear through the Scriptures, it is clear through everything—through the lens of the world, through the lens of the first church—that homosexuality is not the design of God. But I want you to know that if you don’t call yourself a Christian or you live in the LGBTQ lifestyle at the moment, please stick with me because I’m going to share something so powerful—real-life experiences to back this up.
Now, before I share those experiences, I want to answer the second question because so many people will DM me on a regular basis, saying, “Ross, I’m a Christian, I love Jesus, I want to know God, but I have same-sex attraction and I don’t know how to get free.” Well, here’s the first thing I want to ask you: Do you want to get free? And if the answer is yes, then listen to the rest of this.
Here’s the first scripture I want to talk about—this is so, so powerful, and this even answers the question, “Ross, I was born gay. Ross, I was born with these attractions. Ross, I was born with X, Y, and Z.” Listen to the words of Jesus here. Once again, it’s another religious leader, a religious person, coming to Him and asking Him this. And this is what he said:
This religious leader asked Him, “We all know that God has sent you to teach us. Your miraculous signs are evidence that God is with you.” Look at the words of Jesus here. He replies, “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the kingdom of God.”
“What do you mean? Can I go into my mother’s womb and be born again?” Jesus said, “I assure you, no one can enter the kingdom of God without being born of water and the Spirit.”
Regardless of what you believe you were born with, when you come to Jesus, you become born again. What does “born again” mean? “Born again” means not born naturally, but born of the Spirit. The Holy Spirit—the Spirit of God—comes and lives inside of you, so you now have access and relationship with God through His Spirit. So any desire, anything that doesn’t line up with this design—any struggle, any temptation, whatever the case may be—you become born again. That is no longer who you are.
But the Scriptures take it even further. I’m going to bounce around here real quick to 2 Corinthians chapter 5, one of the most powerful scriptures that I’ve read in a while—5:17. This is what it says:
“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun.”
And that word used in the Scriptures here, not in English, actually means a new creature or a new prototype. When you come to Jesus, you literally become a brand new person. This is incredible—new emotions, new thoughts, new desires, new affections, new pursuits. Why? Because the power of God is to save those who believe. But not only does He save you, He gives you His Spirit. You become born again, and you become a new creation.
But here’s where else I want to go—just go with me a few books back to Romans chapter 5. This is an incredible scripture, and here’s what I want to read: it’s Romans chapter 5, verse 10. “For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of His Son while we were still His enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of His Son.”
Why does that matter? The word “saved” used here in the Greek is actually the word “sōzō.” It means to be completely free—emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally. Friends, what is the Bible trying to say? What is God trying to speak to you right now? When you become a Christian, when you surrender your life to Jesus, you literally get completely set free in every area of your life. You become brand new. Friend, this is not too good to be true—this is good, and it truly is true.
Now listen, if you’re still watching this video, there’s still something more powerful I want to share with you, and I want to say thank you for staying with me until this point. I believe the Spirit of God is beginning to speak to you, to heal you, to set you free. Yes, the Spirit of God—the Holy Spirit—can set you free through watching a video, through hearing the Word of God. And here’s where I want to go next.
I want to share this one scripture that just came to mind: Galatians 2:20. Paul said, “It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.” Friend, when you become a Christian, you don’t just change—you actually die to your old self. You don’t just change a little bit; you become born again. Why does this matter? If you just change, you can easily change back. But if you die, you can never go back. And this is great news!
So, if you have desires, or thoughts, or things that are plaguing you or tempting you, I want you to know that those are no longer your thoughts if you’re a born-again believer in Jesus. Paul said that any thought that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, you must take it captive and tear it down. So, when you get thoughts—this isn’t even just about same-sex attraction; this is about anything in our lives—any thought that is not in alignment with the will and design of God, you need to become aware of it. You need to say, “That’s not who I am.” You declare out loud your identity and who you are as a son or daughter of God, based on all the scriptures we just talked about, and watch that thing flee from your life.
But here’s the last point I want to make. I want to talk about baptism. You might be thinking, “Listen, Ross, I already know what baptism is—I get it.” No, no, no. Baptism is not just a cute Christian moment where you go under some water. Listen, this revelation shifted my life and freed me from a nine-year addiction to pornography. Did you hear that? A nine-year addiction I had, and I was completely set free by that first revelation I gave you, and what I’m going to share with you right now is truly life-changing. This is what it is—Romans 6. I want to read about eight verses here, so just stick with me. This is verse one:
“Well then, should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more and more of His wonderful grace? Of course not! Since we have died to sin, how can we continue to live in it? Or have you forgotten that when we were joined with Christ Jesus in baptism, we joined Him in His death? For we didn’t just change—nope—it says we died and were buried with Christ by baptism. And just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glorious power of the Father, now we may also live new lives.”
Now pay attention here: since we have been united with Him in His death, we will also be raised to life as He was. We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin, for when we died with Christ, we were set free from the power of sin.
Friends, when you get baptized in water, you are joining Jesus in His death and in His resurrection. It is not just about getting dipped in some water and making a public confession of your faith—no, friend, the old you, the old self, is buried, never to be seen again, in baptism. And then you are raised to completely new life, just like when Jesus was raised from the dead.
When this revelation hits your heart, I believe the Holy Spirit is saying a few things right now:
Some of you have been baptized before, but you didn’t understand this fully. I encourage you—go get re-baptized. Because when you get re-baptized with this revelation, it shifts everything.
If you’ve never been baptized, you need to do this immediately. This is powerful. You need to die to your old self, be raised, and join Jesus in His death and resurrection, becoming a completely new creation—set free from any temptation and any sin in your life.
Now, here’s where I want to begin to wrap things up, but just stick with me for a few more minutes. There are a few testimonies that I think are going to absolutely wreck your heart in the best way possible, and I just want to share these because they are truly transformative.
These are really good friends of mine who I know personally, and they love sharing their testimonies because the Word of God says that we overcome the devil, or the enemy, by the blood of the Lamb (the blood of Jesus), the word of our testimony, and not loving our lives unto death. So, receive this for your life—receive this for your child, for a friend, a family member, a coworker, whoever it is.
The first one is my friend Samuel. I’ll put all their Instagram handles down below so you can go follow them. Samuel used to be a former gay stripper. Yes, you heard that right—a gay stripper, living the club life, living a homosexual lifestyle. He encountered the presence of Jesus and now is completely saved, preaching the gospel, and leading many out of the LGBTQ community. This is powerful. What Samuel experienced is not just about changing behavior—it’s about transformation, it’s about dying to the old self and rising anew with Christ.
The second story is about my friend Joshua. He was in the adult entertainment industry for multiple years, and then he had an encounter with Jesus. He was suicidal; he wanted to give up on his life. He had the money, he had the fame, he had everything the world told him he wanted, but he was never satisfied. He met Jesus, and now he travels across America preaching the gospel.
The third story is about my friend Ellie, who I just met recently. She was living in a same-sex relationship with another woman for multiple years. She walked into a worship service, and she felt the presence of God. She said, “I…” And in that very moment, she actually broke up with her girlfriend. She repented, came to Jesus, and said, “Jesus, I want you more than anything—more than anything my flesh may tell me, more than anything the world may tell me.” And she gave her life to Jesus.
The last one is my friend Grazana. She literally would speak at Pride festivals and was living a homosexual lifestyle for multiple years. She came to a gathering that she did not want to be at. She felt the presence of God, heard the gospel, gave her life to Jesus, and is now in Bible College pursuing God.
The testimonies that I just released can be yours. Just receive them by faith that God is saving those—it’s Isaiah 61—out of the most hopeless, godless, and darkest situations, that they may rebuild the ancient ruins.
And here’s the last thing that I want to share today, and I promise this—the video will be finished. Please share this video with as many people as you can and encourage them. But I want you to know right now that there is hope for you. There is destiny. You can have life, you can be healed, and you can be saved. The Bible makes it clear that if you would confess with your mouth and believe—believe in your heart—that Jesus is Lord and rose from the dead, you will be saved.
But before we do that, I want you to know the quick 60-second story that transformed my life. When God created Adam and Eve, the first two people, the Bible says in Genesis that they walked in the garden with God—no separation. But then, one day, they disobeyed God because God gives us free will and free choice to live life how we want. And because they chose to go against God, it separated man and God. Why? Not because God hated them or hates you, but because He is holy, and He can’t have a relationship with someone who is not holy like Himself.
So what did God do? He sent His son, Jesus, to this earth. Jesus was just like you and me, friend—real body, real emotion, real pain—He went through life. But the Bible says He was tempted in every way, but never sinned, never disobeyed God. He was perfect. And one day, He was hung on a cross—real nails went through His hands, and real blood came out of His body. The Bible says He was beaten beyond recognition. He became the sacrifice for your sins and mine, for the disobedience in our lives.
And when Jesus died on that cross, friend, He forgave us of our sins. He forgave us of all the trespasses and all the disobedience in our lives. He cleansed us, He washed us, and He gave us access back to God. But not only that, He rose from the dead on the third day, signifying that you and I can now be raised to new life when we surrender our life to Jesus. We get free by His blood because we cannot be forgiven on our own merit. We cannot be forgiven by our own works because we are human—we are not perfect; we are flawed. But God sent Jesus to become that perfect sacrifice for you and me.
So here’s what I want to do: If you want to surrender your life to Jesus, if you want to know who God really is, if you want to walk in the identity as a son or daughter of God that you were created for from the beginning of time, I simply want you to say this prayer of faith with me out loud.
Just say, “Jesus, I give you my life. I believe you are the Son of God. You died on the cross, shed your blood, and broke your body for me. I repent, and I turn from all my sins and all my mistakes. From this day forward, I make you my Lord, and I receive you into my heart.”
Say this last thing: “Holy Spirit, fill me now. Holy Spirit, fill me with power. In Jesus’ name.”
If you prayed that prayer, please comment below or send me a message. I want to talk to you, I want to pray with you, and I want to share some next steps with you.
Secondly, if you enjoyed this video—if it encouraged you, if you learned something from it, if you felt breakthrough or healing—would you share this with two to three friends? I believe this video will reach the generation for the glory of Jesus. And make sure you subscribe to the channel down below.
I love you guys, and I’ll see you soon.
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The video below is Scott’s testimony of how the Lord met with him and transferred him into the Kingdom of his beloved Son, Jesus. This message is a timely word for those of the LGBTQ community who are struggling with their Identity. There isn’t a hole deep enough where God’s love isn’t able to reach. 👇
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*** Transcript of Ross Johnston YouTube video can I be gay and Christian- website: http://www.rossjohnston.co / Photo by Kampus Productions at Pexels
I want to share with you a story about a young boy who lovingly crafted a small sailboat. He adorned it with fine gems and precious metals, polished it until it gleamed, and marked it with his signature, ensuring everyone knew it was his creation. When he took it to the river to test it, the boat sailed beautifully. However, a strong wind arose, sweeping the boat away, and the boy was heartbroken by the loss of his cherished creation.
Sometime later, while walking through town, the boy was astonished to see his boat in the window of a shop. Though some gems were missing and it was battered, his signature confirmed it was his boat. He rushed inside and told the shop owner, “That little boat is mine; I made it.” The owner replied, “I’m sorry, but I bought it from someone else. If you want it back, you’ll have to pay for it.” Determined, the boy worked tirelessly for weeks, saving every penny. Finally, he returned to the shop, slammed the money on the counter, and bought his boat back. Holding it aloft, he exclaimed, “Little boat, you are twice mine. I made you—and I bought you back!”
The Deeper Meaning
You might wonder how this story relates to us. In many ways, we are like that little boat. Each of us is uniquely created by God, reflecting His image and cherished deeply by Him. However, life’s storms and the lure of the world have swept us away from our Creator, leaving us battered and lost. The challenges of life and the wrong things we do separate us from God. The temptations of the world and our own pride hurt us, and the enemy, Satan—the fallen angel, who hates mankind—tries to keep us down.
The boy in the story represents Jesus, who came to save us. Despite our broken state, affected by sin and life’s hardships, Jesus recognized us as His own. Just as the boy worked hard to buy back his boat, Jesus paid the ultimate price for our redemption. He bought us back with His precious blood, shed on the cross. He did this to restore our relationship with God the Father, as God is holy and cannot abide in sin. We are twice His—created by Him and bought back with His blood.
Understanding Our Condition
All of us have done wrong and fallen short of God’s standards. Sin is not just about major wrongdoings but also includes knowing what is right and failing to do it. It encompasses acts like lying, stealing, unforgiveness, hatred, jealousy, anger, sexual immorality, idolatry, addictions, pornography, drugs, and wanting to live separately from God. These wrongdoings separate us from a holy and righteous God.
God judges the heart, including our thoughts, words, deeds, and motives. While people can pretend to have a holy exterior and act pious, God sees through our facades and knows our true nature. It’s not about religion, where you have to do things to be accepted by God. It’s about a relationship with God who is near and accessible. Our good works cannot save us; they are like filthy rags in comparison to God’s purity, you cannot buy salvation. The Bible states that the wages of sin is death—eternal separation from God in hell, a fate none of us would wish upon anyone.
The Sacrifice of Jesus
Jesus Christ paid the price for our sins on the cross so we can be restored to God, our heavenly Father. There needed to be a sacrifice, and God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, Jesus, who was sinless, to take our place. It’s like a mother giving away her newborn baby or you giving away your only child to pay someone else’s debt, someone who couldn’t care less about you or love you back. God was willing to do that for you and me.
Jesus Christ was crucified, with nails driven through His hands and feet and a crown of thorns pressed onto His head. He was whipped until His skin was torn off, becoming unrecognizable. As He hung on that cross, He did it for your sins. He took our sins upon Himself, including the very sins that have destroyed our lives. He was destroyed for those sins on that cross. He bled and died for our sins, which were buried with Him in the grave. Three days later, Jesus Christ was raised from the dead. Jesus is alive!
The Call to Salvation
This message is for everyone. Regardless of your wealth, status, sexual orientation or religious background, Jesus invites you to turn from sin and accept His gift of salvation. No amount of money, social standing, or religious observance can save you. It’s not about comparing yourself to others; the only comparison that matters is with God, and we all fall short, we all have sinned. God doesn’t want our religion; He wants a relationship with us. We are created with a God-shaped vacuum that nothing else can fill. He said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life.”
Now is the time to respond. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Romans 10:9 says, “If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” This declaration and belief bring salvation. John 3:36 warns, “Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life, for God’s wrath remains on them.”
A Prayer of Salvation
If you feel the call in your heart, don’t wait. Embrace this good news today and pray:
“Dear God, thank you for loving me. I confess that I have sinned against you. I believe that Jesus, Your Son, died on the cross to pay for my sins. I believe that Jesus was raised from the dead. I ask that you forgive all my sins. I confess that Jesus is my Lord and Savior. Thank you for Your gift of eternal life! I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.”
Remember, it’s not the prayer that saves you; it’s the heartfelt belief and confession, turning away from sin, and choosing to trust in Jesus for a righteous life. Now is the time for salvation. Turn from darkness to light, from sin to salvation, and follow Jesus.
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I nodded, tears streaming down my five-year-old face, thorns and brambles cutting into my backside.
“You gotta do this, then, or you can’t ever be married.” The voice—which came from a teenage boy, accompanied by the snicker from his kid brother—would haunt me for 18 years until I got married.
It still haunts me.
The statistics about sexual crime both alarm and numb. According to the Department of Justice, by age 18, one in four women and one in six men have been sexually abused.
I thought if I hid my pain I could magically improve sexually. But not addressing the truth was disastrous my sexual relationship with my husband.
What happens to the titanic number of sexually abused men and women when they marry and enter regular sexual experiences with their mates? One study published in Contemporary Family Therapy estimates that 56 percent of women who were sexually abused as children feel discomfort during sex and 36 percent seek some sort of sexual therapy.
Although I told my husband, Patrick, about the abuse while we were dating, after we were married, I pretended immunity from my past trauma. But keeping up the charade wasn’t so easy since sex reminded me of the abuse. I didn’t tell Patrick, though, because I felt guilty, as though I were a poor wife.
I hoped somehow I could work out everything through sheer willpower. So throughout our early married life, I tolerated sex, never letting Patrick know how much I was hurting. I’m not sure if I even knew the extent of my pain, at least enough to verbalize it.
When our eldest daughter turned five, however, I began to relive the molestation I’d experienced at her age. I felt the horror afresh. I saw those brothers steal my innocence on muddied nature trails, in secluded playgrounds, and in their bedroom.
I puzzled over the photos my divorced father took of nude women and his insistence that I bathe him while he sat naked in his claw-footed tub. I ached over my mother’s lack of protection. I felt abandoned.
Although I grieved, I still didn’t realize how much those experiences were poisoning my sexual relationship with Patrick. It wasn’t until we went through some marital difficulties and I spent two years in counseling that I finally realized the problem.
Now 12 years into our marriage, Patrick and I see clearly how the past affected our relationship—especially sexually.
Fear of being used. I felt used easily. If Patrick didn’t talk enough with me during the day but then initiated sex, I’d remember that frightened five-year-old who was simply a rag doll to be played with. If he touched me in a way that triggered the abuser’s touch, I’d grit my teeth and silently recoil.
I’d think, Men want only to use me. I’m just a plaything. My resentment grew toward Patrick, yet I remained quiet, and he grew frustrated that I wouldn’t tell him the problem.
A distorted view of sex. It was difficult for me to see sex as beautiful and what God intended. I felt if I enjoyed sex, I was somehow legitimizing my abusers, that they were right in molesting me. But if I didn’t enjoy it, I wasn’t a good Christian wife.
My view of sex was that it was solely for a man’s gratification. I longed (and still long) for the passionate Song of Solomon-kind of abandon.
Guilt over failure to perform sexually. I’ve often lamented to God, “Why did you give me a man who loves physical touch? Are you setting me up for failure?” I’ve felt overwhelming guilt over not having enough sex. The Christian marriage books I read and the sexual intimacy seminars I attended further thrust me into shame’s cesspool; it’s my duty after all—I’m depriving my husband. Couple that advice with a deep-seated ambivalence toward sex and I was a sexually defeated wife.
Part of my denying Patrick sex stemmed from wanting to avoid the deeper problem. When I “gave in,” I uncovered prickly emotions I couldn’t understand. It was easier if I avoided intimacy as much as I could so I wouldn’t rip open a festering wound I couldn’t handle.
Isolation and emotional disengagement. Of all the issues Patrick and I have confronted, this carries with it the deepest, most insidious pain.
Patrick once told me about a vision he had in which I was pacing on a high diving board while he and the children beckoned me from a swimming pool far below.
They shouted, “Dive in! The water’s great!”
I peered over the edge of the board.
I saw their laughter-infused antics, but I turned away and walked down the ladder. Instead, I settled for putting my toe in the water while the rest of my family splashed and laughed.
I longed to be the spontaneous one who dives into the lives of my family, but I’d disconnected somehow, which prevented me from letting my husband into the recesses of my heart.
Lack of affection and passion. I found myself unable to be affectionate with my immediate family. While I knew I was supposed to demonstrate my love in tangible, physical ways, that seldom came naturally. When my son cried, I had to tell myself to hug him. When my husband came home from work, I had to make myself kiss him.
Coping Strategies
I wish I could say I’m free and the wound of sexual abuse is completely healed. I still have tender spots. But as Patrick and I have explored these areas, we’ve learned some important coping strategies.
Be willing to be healed. I liken emotional healing to a tunnel that links a barren land with a pristine forest. We’ll never drink from the forest’s mountain spring if we don’t go through the tunnel. But most of us feel too afraid to step inside for fear of the dark; and the barren land—bleak as it is—has a staid familiarity about it. The truth? It’s dark in the tunnel. The hurt is intensified, especially when we can’t see the other side.
When I became a Christian at 15, I clung to the apostle Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 5:17: “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” I decided I’d been healed of all emotional wounds when I became a Christian and viewed others who struggled as lacking faith. But my emotional world fell apart in college and I became a struggler. I cried a lot. God sent many friends who simply listened and prayed for me.
I thought those prayers in college and my grief were all I needed to be whole. After things began to fall apart in our marriage, I realized how much more healing I needed and sought help from a Christian counselor.
Talk about your sexual relationship. As difficult as it might be, Patrick and I had to speak frankly about our sexual relationship.
Through God’s strength, I was finally able to tell Patrick, “When you complain about our sexual frequency, I want to give up and never try,” or “When you say or do that, I feel used, that I’m only an object.”
In that same God-strength, Patrick was able to say, “When you don’t place sex and affection as a priority, I don’t feel loved,” or “When you don’t kiss me, I feel distant from you.”
We also had to resolve not to hide our anger or our pain. Patrick buried his anger over my lack of response and then quit communicating altogether. I erroneously thought if I hid my pain over my past I could magically improve sexually. But we realized not addressing the truth was disastrous for our sexual relationship.
Heal together. I used to think I was the only one working on issues from my past. When I struggled, I’d turn to my “normal” husband who had a seemingly idyllic upbringing and say, “You’re perfect and I’m yucky.”
Patrick seldom explored his own childhood issues. Consequently, I felt alone in my grief.
In his book The Wounded Heart, Dr. Dan Allender suggests that one way a marriage can offer healing is if the non-abused spouse will look at where he or she has been harmed from childhood. I felt a sense of comfort when I read: “We all have wounds; some are stab wounds, others pinpricks. The category isn’t the degree of bleeding but ‘have you ever bled?'”
The camaraderie returned in our marriage when I saw Patrick begin to explore his family of origin issues. When he saw me becoming free from my past issues, it spurred him to look at his upbringing. He began to look at his quick temper, how he saw that modeled as a child, what it did to him to be on the receiving end of it, and how it still affects him. The process for him has been slow. He’s quick to dismiss pain from his past, but he’s beginning to see how that dismissal has helped him wall himself off from others, including me.
Now instead of feeling like a solitary pilgrim, I have Patrick’s hand to grab as we share our past injuries and our future.
I still hear the haunting words of my abusers, and Patrick and I still struggle in our marriage. Last night we spent an hour discussing our sexual relationship and our mutual frustration over my reticence to kiss and his reluctance to share his hurts. Even so, I’m learning to take an emancipated leap off the high dive into our marriage.
Patrick’s Story
When Mary first told me about her past sexual abuse, I felt sad for her, particularly since it happened as a young child.
While I wasn’t worried about the abuse influencing our sexual lives at first, later into our marriage I realized it was affecting us. I became angry because we’d be paying for years for what those people had done to her. It wasn’t fair. I feel part of our marital intimacy is missing—that it’s been ripped from us.
When Mary would withdraw from me sexually, I often found myself caught between feeling that things would never get better, that Mary would never be healed from her past, and empathy for her, wanting to give her as much space as she needed.
I became confused about what I was supposed to do to help her through this traumatic experience. The most frustrating to me was that I couldn’t fix our situation. I couldn’t fix her past. I was helpless.
It hurt me because I knew there was a part of her she was holding back from me. Because of the abuse, there was nothing I could do that would make her feel comfortable enough to allow me into the vulnerable parts of her life.
She felt dead where intimacy was concerned—which affected my self-esteem. For me, kissing and showing affection are important signs to make me feel loved, cherished, and accepted. I’d feel rejected when I’d lean in for a kiss or a hug and she’d turn away. I’d tell myself over and over, Mary does love me, but can’t express affection the way I want to receive it.
I know I said and did things that cemented some of her fears. I put pressure on her to change. I placed “performance” expectations on her that were probably unfair. Still, though, I was angry. When I became angry, I just stopped talking. I put up an emotional wall toward her that served two purposes: it would “teach her a lesson,” and it would protect me from feeling rejected.
When these issues surfaced, I had to readjust my expectations until she was better able to handle our sexual relationship.
Along the way to her healing, I continually worried about whether what I was doing would bring back a painful memory for her. I didn’t want her to connect what I did or said to the pain she’d experienced. There are times I still worry about that.
But I’ve tried to provide an environment where Mary feels safe to share the memories, the pain, and her current struggles. Sometimes this means just listening. Sometimes it means crying with her, praying for her, or encouraging her. Sometimes it means asking for forgiveness when I cross a line that’s hurt her. Sometimes it means I challenge her to overcome her fears.
We both understand that if we want to grow together, we must be willing to challenge—and be challenged by—our actions and thinking. We both want to move past being victims to becoming survivors.
The most important thing is not to think, “Get over it already!” I know now that while her past continues to heal and our sexual relationship grows stronger, there may always be leftover scars. So during the times when I’m tempted to think, Let’s move past this, I recommit myself to being consistent in my love for her.
No matter the discussion, argument, or difficulty, I realize she needs to know she can trust me with her emotions and that if I’m hurt, frustrated, or angry, I won’t leave or run from her.
Mary and I deal with the issues as they arise, no matter how frustrating or difficult they may be.
My prayer is that one day we’ll be able to look at each other and know this abuse no longer taints our relationship. I’m hopeful because I’ve seen Mary grow so much in this area, and she continues to walk this difficult road with me.
I believe that every person goes through a transitional season in life where joy, tears, pain, and even heartbreak can take place. This is especially true when relationships are broken, lost, or at times introduced.
If you find yourself wondering why some people have been removed from your life, these are a few of the most common reasons.
Why They May Have Left
1. Your Season Has Changed
The Bible says that when Moses died and manna stopped, it was time for Joshua to step into the Promised Land (Joshua 1:2). In other words, sometimes a person leaving is God’s way of notifying us that we are stepping into a new season.
2. They (Place or People) Have Become Toxic
In Exodus 1:11, we see that Egypt was a place of provision for Israel at one time, but soon it became a place of pain and as a result, they needed to leave. Similarly, there are times when God will remove people out of your life because the connection you have with them is no longer helpful, or the place you are in is causing more harm than good.
3. You Are Being Pruned for More Fruit
John 15:2 says that we are pruned in order to bear more fruit. Sometimes relationships must be stripped away from us in order for us to be more effective in the area where God is leading us into.
4. They Block Your Vision
A great example of this is found in Genesis 13:14, when Lot separates from Abraham. The word “Lot” actually means veil, and I find it interesting that after the separation, Abraham is able to receive God’s direction clearly. Often, the same can happen with us after we lose certain relationships.
5. They Have Become an Idol
Another reason for the loss of a relationship could be that you came to rely on them more than you relied on God, turning them into an idol in your heart. We see in Judges 7:2 that God didn’t use Gideon until people left.
Some people are like crutches we lean on them more than we do God.
When they leave, it’s time to advance, not retreat.
6. God Has Another Plan For Them
Another example is found in Exodus 4:18. Here we see that Moses left his father-in-law’s house because Moses had an assignment to fulfill that required him to leave the house of Jethro (Exodus 4:18).
Sometimes it is no other reason than God leading them in a different direction and we must be at peace with that.
7. God Wants to Bring Someone Else
Lastly, we see in Scripture that the disciples had become familiar and comfortable with Jesus. They loved being able to talk, walk, and eat with Him. However, in John 16:7 He tells them that it is necessary for Him to leave in order for the Holy Spirit to come.
In the same way, at times it is to our advantage that some people be removed so God can introduce others that are meant to take us further in our walk with Him.
Sometimes people are in our lives for a season, while others for a reason.
I hope these reasons brought some clarity to any questions that you may have been struggling with. May God usher you into your new season with grace and blessing.