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Horoscopes, Astrology And Zodiac Signs

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A 2022 poll by YouGov found that 27% of Americans and 37% of adults under 30 believe in astrology. In fact, 31% of those are Catholics and 22% are Protestants. However, this belief has only increased as social media and celebrities have increased its popularity. Many newspapers include daily horoscopes that advise on how to act or what to expect each day. To understand why this growing belief is concerning, we need to see how astrology is different from science.

Astrology vs Astronomy

Astrology often gets confused with astronomy, but the two are very different. Astronomy is a science focused on studying stars, planets, and space; it helps us understand God’s creation. Astrology, however, is not scientific. It’s a belief system that attempts to predict personal events or personality traits by interpreting celestial movements. 

Astrology revolves around the “zodiac,” a term from the Greek word “zodiakos,” meaning “circle of animals,” derived from “zoon,” which means animal. This term refers to constellations associated with animals along the zodiac’s path. This “zodiac belt” represented the course through which the sun, moon, and planets appear to move over the year, which would then have an influence on a person’s personality or destiny.

While this belief is growing in cultural popularity and may seem innocent on the surface, we as believers should be on the lookout. To understand why, it’s essential to see the origins of this belief system.

What Does the Bible Say About Astrology?

The Bible clearly warns against astrology. In Isaiah 47:13-14, God rebukes Babylon and its astrologers, telling them that their reliance on the stars will not protect them from judgment. We also see in Deuteronomy 18:10-12 that divination is seen as a detestable act to God. And similarly, we see in 2 Chronicles 33:1-6 that the worship of heavenly bodies is associated with evil.

Unlike astrology, which tries to use the stars for control or prediction of a person’s future or destiny, astronomy, as a science, simply studies the stars and appreciates them as the creation that God made.

Reasons Why People Use Astrology: 

  • Curiosity: Curiosity is a natural human trait; however, turning to the stars instead of to God for these answers places our trust in creation, not the Creator.
  • Fun: Astrology is often seen as an innocent act, but if the “prediction” is not from God, it becomes a deceptive tool that can draw people into occult practices.
  • Fascination with the occult: It offers a form of spirituality that doesn’t challenge us with concepts like sin, repentance, or God’s judgment. However, any belief that lacks this is hollow and false.
  • Avoidance of personal responsibility: As Dr. Bob Larson points out, astrology promotes a belief that fate is controlled by the stars rather than by God’s will and our choices. Christianity, in contrast, teaches that our lives are influenced by God’s sovereignty and our actions. Astrology can become a way to avoid accountability, leading many people to not take responsibility for their choices.
  • Power and control: Many turn to astrology to feel a sense of control over their lives. However, while having self-control is positive, true guidance and empowerment come from God, not the stars. Any power that claims to offer control while originating outside of God, will only lead us away from God’s purpose.

3 Reasons Why Horoscopes are Wrong

1. They divert trust from God.

Relying on astrology places trust in creation rather than in the Creator. This act goes against the first commandment which tells us to worship and trust in Him alone. By doing this we are diverting our trust from God.

2. They allow for loss of personal responsibility.

Horoscopes make people believe that their destiny is set out for them in the stars and therefore, they don’t have much say. However, this is not what the Bible teaches. The Bible states that there is a sovereign God, but we also have a role to play in the way our life turns out.

3. Fascination with the occult

Taking part in this can open individuals up to demonic influence because it is an act that is in contradiction to the Bible and can be a distraction from believing and placing your trust in God.

Final Thoughts

If you have dabbled with astrology and horoscopes, I would encourage you to close those doors to the enemy through repentance. Choose to refocus on the Lord through prayer, Scripture, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in regards to questions about your future and your destiny.

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*** By Vladimir Savchuk / Photo by Mikhail Nilov at Pexels

Nothing New Under the Sun: Jezebel and the New Age Movements

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“See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.” ~ Colossians 2:8

Wicked women are presented as they truly are in the Bible—without any attempt to sanitize their lives or actions. One such infamous figure is Jezebel, the wife of King Ahab of Israel. She was not a believer in the one true God, and her reign over northern Israel marked the introduction and spread of a false religion—worship of Baal. This religion quickly took hold because Jezebel became a role model for many women of her time. Her religion was rooted in the worship of Baal, or Satan, who is behind all false religions.

To please the queen was politically savvy, so she filled Israel with 850 priests practicing her religion, leading the people further astray. Jezebel’s impact was profound and deeply harmful, as she turned the nation away from the true God.

The Parallels Between Baal Worship and the New Age Movement

“The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” ~ 2 Corinthians 4:4

Do you want to know what Jezebel’s religion was like? We are witnessing the rise of a similar, swift, and powerful religion sweeping the planet today—the New Age / Golden Age Movement. This belief system, like the false worship of Baal, denies the existence of a personal God who loves His people. Instead, it promotes an impersonal, universal energy force. In the New Age Movement, God can be referred to in many ways— she or he, mother or father, god or goddess, the Earth, the sun, the stars, or even nature itself can be worshipped as God. New Age teachers claim to receive guidance from so-called “spirit guides,” “ascended masters,” “masters of wisdom” “angels,” and “higher beings,” all of whom make up the hierarchy of this movement. They state that some of their guides are angels.

However, Jezebel’s priests, when confronted by the prophet Elijah, were exposed for their reliance on demonic forces – fallen angels, whilst practicing their false religion. Elijah challenged all 850 of them to prove the power of their gods, demonstrating that their supposed deities were powerless before the one true God. When they failed, the false nature of their religion was revealed, along with their demon guides posing as angels.

The New Age Movement bears striking similarities to Jezebel’s worship of Baal. For example, the New Age movement claims that Jesus Christ was merely a reincarnated messenger—not the Son of God. They assert that Christ was sent by the demon hierarchy of angels to provide “spiritually advanced revelations” to their group. In fact, they teach that Jesus is just one of many “Christs,” alongside figures like Buddha, Mohammed, and Confucius. This system accepts anyone who rejects Jesus Christ as the Son of God—whether they are Shintoists, Satanists, Buddhists, secular humanists, witches, or anyone else who doesn’t acknowledge the truth or accept the Christ, and that He is a personal God. They teach that man is not sinful, nor evil, and that Jesus’s sacrifice on the Cross has no meaning, according to them it was meaningless.

Moreover, the New Age Movement denies the existence of sin, judgment, and the need for salvation. Instead, it teaches that humanity has evolved over thousands of years and that there is no need for a savior. This philosophy is the basis of all false religions; rooted in ancient lies, echoing the deceptions of Satan, who hides the reality of judgment, hell, and sin, and all of his followers do the same, because they have been blinded to the truth. It’s no surprise that Jezebel’s actions—her cheating, lying, and murder—were reflections of her allegiance to Satan, the father of lies. Her conscience was so seared with unbelief in the one true God that she had no fear of judgment, she never expected to meet a righteous and holy God one day, who will judge her for things done in the flesh, her thoughts, her deeds and her motives.

Modern Echoes: The Age of Aquarius

Today, the New Age Movement is spreading rapidly, with some even calling it the “Age of Aquarius.” Many people are drawn to its teachings, including secular humanists, witches, Satanists, and celebrities. One prominent TV and movie star has become a spokesperson for the movement, claiming to receive instructions from an ancient being, that tells her things and guides her. This celebrity, like Jezebel, serves as a role model for many, leading others into deception.

The New Age Movement teaches that being “born again” is simply a personal transformation or healing of the self. It says that you must “let go” and allow your “inner guide” or “higher self” to direct your life, without any belief or need for the Holy Spirit and Him indwelling you. They speak of something called “kundalini,” a Hindu term meaning “serpent power,” which has clear connections to Satan. This mimics spiritual experiences, but it is a counterfeit of true Christian transformational quality of the Holy Spirit.

Satan, as always, has counterfeited the things of Jesus Christ and Christianity. The New Age Movement, much like the false prophets in Jezebel’s time, speaks of a “Christ-like” figure who will come to establish a utopian Kingdom of peace on Earth, that he will reign over the new age, bringing about a one world religion and consolidating all nations into one government. This is eerily similar to the Antichrist, who will deceive many and promise a one-world government and a counterfeit peace—something the Bible warns will happen before the true return of Jesus Christ.

Distinguishing Truth from Deception

In a nutshell, here is what the New Age Movement teaches:

• God is impersonal; He is not loving, He can be a he or she, but not the sovereign, holy, and righteous God of the Bible.

• Jesus is not the Son of God, not the Christ and someone greater than Jesus will come, not realising there will be an anti-Christ connected to Satan, who will try to imitate the Christ, as we have been forewarned in scriptures.

• There is no need for being born again, as they reject the Holy Spirit and encourage people to follow their demon guides.

• And about the 2nd coming of Jesus Christ that the anti-Christ will rule in Earth and Heaven is the Kingdom of God during the Age of Aquarius and that it is not a real place, but merely an Earthly utopia.

• There is no sin, judgment, evil or hell.

As believers in Christ, we know these claims are false. We have the truth from the Bible, which tells us that God is our loving Father, He is not a she or a goddess, but the supreme being. Jesus is His only begotten Son, the express image of the invisible God, and salvation comes through Him alone. The Holy Spirit, sent by the Father and the Son, dwells within us, guiding and empowering us to live according to God’s will. Heaven is a real, physical place where God the Father and God the Son reign in glory, and hell is a real and horrible place for those who reject the truth of the gospel. Through the Holy Spirit, we are assured of our salvation and strengthened in our faith as we await eternal life with God. He tells us that angels are messengers of God and named in scripture and He tells us to be born again, by the spirit of God by receiving Jesus as our personal Saviour.

A Call to Stand Firm in the Truth

Throughout history, God has warned His people about false religions. From Jezebel’s priests to the builders of the Tower of Babel, we have seen it through the ages. These instances of idolatry and rebellion against God serve as lessons for us today. Even in Noah’s time, when wickedness was rampant, God had to destroy the world with a flood. This, too, is a forewarning for us today. Jesus Himself tells us in Matthew 24 that when we see the same kinds of lawlessness and rebellion happening again, it is a sign that His return is near.

In Matthew 24:29-30, Jesus speaks of the signs preceding His second coming: “Immediately after the distress of those days, the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light; the stars will fall from the sky, and the heavenly bodies will be shaken. Then will appear the sign of the Son of Man in heaven.”

We know that in the end times, false prophets will rise up to deceive even the elect (Matthew 24:24). Deception has led to destruction throughout the ages, and it will culminate in the final days before Jesus’ return. This New Age Movement, like its predecessors, may fade into the background only to be replaced by another. Yet, there is the real possibility that this movement could lead to the rise of the Antichrist, who will deceive many with promises of peace and a one-world government. Scripture warns us that the Antichrist will set up his rule on Earth, even establishing himself in Jerusalem and claiming to be the Christ (2 Thessalonians 2:3-4). However, we who know the Bible recognize this for the lie that it is.

Jesus warned: “If anyone tells you, ‘There he is, out in the wilderness,’ do not go out; or, ‘Here he is, in the inner rooms,’ do not believe it” (Matthew 24:26). His true return will not be secret or localized. We are told in 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17 that He will descend from heaven with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. The dead in Christ will rise first, and those who are still alive will be caught up to meet Him in the air. This event, known as the rapture, will take place in an instant, in the twinkling of an eye (1 Corinthians 15:52).

Jesus will gather His elect and take them to be with Him for seven years, during which time the Great Tribulation will unfold on Earth. After this period, He will return with His saints to establish His Kingdom on Earth and reign for a thousand years (Revelation 20:4-6). Unlike the false peace promised by the New Age Movement, this will be the true and lasting reign of the Prince of Peace.

We are warned in Scripture that the Antichrist will bring about a false peace and deceive many. Jesus Himself cautioned us against following these lies. We are also reminded of the lessons of history—Jezebel and her false prophets led Israel into idolatry, and the builders of the Tower of Babel sought to defy God’s sovereignty. These stories serve as warnings for us today. Wide is the gate that leads to destruction, but narrow is the gate that leads to life (Matthew 7:13-14).

As believers, we look forward to the Lord’s return. By God’s grace, we will not be caught up in the ecumenical movement or New Age ideologies that attempt to unify all religions and philosophies into one deceptive system. This “Age of Aquarius” promises enlightenment and unity but leads people to follow the Antichrist instead of Christ. The Bible is clear: there can be no lasting peace on Earth until Jesus Himself returns to set up His Kingdom.

We must stand firm in the truth, remembering Jesus’ words and promises. Let us choose the narrow path that leads to life. Choose wisely—choose Christ!

Conclusion: Lessons from Jezebel and the Bible

God’s sovereignty remains unshaken; He knows the beginning from the end. The warnings drawn from Jezebel’s life and scripture provide us with timeless clarity. As Ecclesiastes 1:9 reminds us, “There is nothing new under the sun.” Satan’s methods of deception have not changed, and false religions like the New Age / Golden Age Movement are modern manifestations of these ancient lies. These deceptions, cloaked in promises of enlightenment, peace, and unity, echo the spiritual rebellion seen in Jezebel’s time, the Tower of Babel, and countless other moments in history.

Even those movements that claim to acknowledge Christ often compromise truth, embracing all religions in the name of an ecumenical ‘unity and peace.’ This push toward a one-world religion is yet another ploy by Satan, setting the stage for the rise of the Antichrist, who will seek to establish his rule over a one-world government. Scripture warns us of this, and as believers, we are called to be vigilant.

Our anchor is the Word of God. We must remain grounded, discerning, and uncompromising in our faith. The false promises of movements like the New Age and the allure of unity at the expense of truth must be rejected. Instead, we fix our eyes on Christ, awaiting His glorious return when He will establish His eternal Kingdom—a Kingdom of true peace and righteousness.

Let us hold fast to God’s promises, stand firm in His truth, and keep our hearts prepared for the day when the Prince of Peace will reign forever.

The free gift of salvation

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“Nothing New Under the Sun” is adapted from Eleanor Page’s talk on ‘Jezebel’ in the ‘Women in the Bible’ series, broadcasted on BBN Radio / Photo by RDNE Stock at Pexels.

Understanding Familiar Spirits: Demons Imitating Loved Ones

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In the Bible, familiar spirits are deceptive entities, often believed to be demons, that imitate deceased loved ones. These spirits don’t just appear randomly—they are closely connected to families and individuals, having observed them for years. They know personal details and can mimic the voices, personalities, and behaviors of family members or loved ones, making them incredibly convincing. Their primary goal is to deceive, mislead, and pull people away from the truth of God.

The Bible and Familiar Spirits

The Bible warns against interacting with familiar spirits. In Leviticus 19:31, God tells His people, “Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am the LORD your God.” This warning is clear: communicating with the dead or trying to summon spirits is forbidden because it opens the door to demonic influence.

One of the most notable biblical stories that shows the danger of familiar spirits involves King Saul. In 1 Samuel 28, Saul, desperate for guidance after God stopped speaking to him, visits the Witch of Endor. He asks her to summon the spirit of the prophet Samuel. However, instead of Samuel, a deceptive spirit appears, giving Saul false counsel. This interaction leads to Saul’s eventual downfall, proving how dangerous it is to consult spirits, even if they appear to be loved ones or revered figures.

How Demons Imitate

Demons have been around for a long time. They observe families and individuals over many years, which allows them to learn details about people’s lives. By using this knowledge, demons can impersonate deceased family members with alarming accuracy. They may appear as a deceased parent, sibling, or friend, speaking in ways that feel familiar, even down to their tone of voice and mannerisms. These imitations can be so convincing that it’s easy to believe the spirit is truly the loved one.

However, the Bible warns that these spirits are not the souls of the dead but rather demonic forces trying to deceive. In 2 Corinthians 11:14, it says, “And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.” This means that Satan and his demons can disguise themselves as something good, something comforting, to mislead people.

The Role of Satan: A Deceiver and Murderer

Satan’s primary aim is to deceive. Jesus Himself described Satan in John 8:44 as “a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him.” Satan uses lies, manipulation, and deception to lead people away from God. He doesn’t come with obvious evil; instead, he often appears as an “angel of light”—something good, something trustworthy. This makes him incredibly dangerous, as people are more likely to follow his lies if they seem like truth.

Familiar spirits, then, are just one of Satan’s many tools. They disguise themselves as familiar, comforting figures to gain a person’s trust, making them more likely to follow their false messages. They may claim to bring messages from beyond the grave or offer advice, but in reality, their only goal is to lead people astray.

The Bible’s Truth About Life After Death

The Bible clearly teaches that after death, a person’s fate is determined. Hebrews 9:27 states, “It is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment.” There is no biblical support for the idea that the dead can return to communicate with the living (Ecclesiastes 9:5-6, Job 7:9-10, Isaiah 8:19). Instead, Scripture indicates that the souls of the deceased are either in God’s presence (Philippians 1:23, 2 Corinthians 5:8, Luke 23:43) or in a place of waiting, anticipating final judgment (Luke 16:22-23, 2 Peter 2:9, Revelation 20:12-15).

Any spirit that appears to be a deceased person is not truly their soul but rather a deceptive manifestation meant to mislead. Matthew 22:32 affirms this distinction, where Jesus says, “I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. God is not the God of the dead, but of the living.” This passage emphasizes the separation between the living and the dead, reinforcing that once someone has passed away, they do not return to interact with the living.

How Familiar Spirits Manifest

Familiar spirits are not limited to appearing in human form; they manifest in many ways to create an emotional bond with the grieving person. These spirits have studied their target families for years, allowing them to replicate sounds, smells, appearances, and behaviors that make their deception seem more genuine.

1. Scents:

One of the most common ways familiar spirits manifest is through the use of scent. People who have lost a loved one might suddenly experience a familiar smell—such as a favorite perfume, cigarette smoke, or a unique scent that reminds them of the deceased. These smells can be incredibly powerful, evoking vivid memories and feelings of closeness. For instance, someone who recently lost a mother might suddenly smell her perfume or cooking odors from her favorite dish. While the scent seems comforting, it is important to recognize that this is a demonic attempt to manipulate emotions and reinforce the illusion that the deceased is still present.

2. Ghostly Appearances:

Familiar spirits are also known to appear as ghostly figures. People often report seeing shadows or apparitions of loved ones shortly after their passing. These ghostly figures might appear in dreams or even in the waking world, seeming to stand in the corner of a room or walk through a house. For those in deep mourning, these experiences can feel very real, and the person may believe their loved one is reaching out from the beyond. But these “ghosts” are actually demons using the appearance of the deceased to deceive and distract the grieving person from the truth.

3. Dreams and Visions:

Dreams are another common way for familiar spirits to interact with the living. A person grieving a loss may have vivid dreams in which the deceased loved one appears, offering advice, comfort, or even warnings. These dreams can seem incredibly realistic, and the emotional bond between the dreamer and the deceased can make them feel even more genuine. In these dreams, the loved one may speak words of reassurance or say something familiar, like “I’m okay now” or “Don’t worry, I’m watching over you.” These spirits often use dreams to sow confusion, making the person believe their loved one is still trying to communicate, when in fact, it is a demonic deception meant to mislead.

How to Protect Yourself from Deception

The Bible calls believers to resist the deceptive tactics of familiar spirits and to seek God’s protection. During times of grief, it is tempting to look for comfort anywhere, but turning to familiar spirits for solace is spiritually dangerous. Instead, God encourages us to find comfort in Him alone.

Ephesians 6:11 tells believers, “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” The armor of God includes prayer, reading Scripture, and relying on the strength of the Holy Spirit to resist demonic influence. These spiritual practices help believers stay grounded in the truth, which protects them from the lies of familiar spirits.

Psalm 34:18 offers a promise for those grieving: “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” God’s healing is the true comfort that grieving hearts need, not the false solace offered by familiar spirits.

It is also important to avoid any practice of necromancy, seeking contact with the dead, or consulting mediums. These practices open doors for demonic influence and bring spiritual danger. Instead, seek God’s Word and prayer to find peace and healing during grief.

Conclusion

Familiar spirits are one of the many ways Satan tries to deceive and lead people astray. These demons can imitate family members or loved ones who have passed away, using their knowledge of your life to appear genuine. However, the Bible teaches that once someone dies, they are either with God or awaiting judgment. Any spirit that pretends to be a loved one is a lie meant to deceive you. To protect yourself, it’s important to stay grounded in God’s truth and avoid seeking out spirits, trusting instead in His Word and guidance.

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Guidance for Women Facing Abuse in the Home: Finding Hope and Healing – Part 5

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Dear sister, if you find yourself facing abuse in your home—whether physical, emotional or verbal —know that you are not alone. The path you are walking may feel overwhelming and isolating, with your heart burdened by shame, fear, or a sense of failure. These emotions can feel especially heavy when your desire to honor God and uphold the sanctity of marriage seems to conflict with your need for safety and peace. You may feel as though seeking help is a betrayal of your faith or your marriage vows. But let me assure you of this powerful truth: You are deeply loved by God, and your safety matters deeply to Him.

Abuse is never part of God’s plan for your life. You were created to be cherished, respected, and loved. No woman should ever feel trapped in a situation where she or her children are in harm’s way. The weight of shame that you may feel is not from God—shame is a tool the enemy uses to isolate, manipulate, and keep you from seeking the help and healing that are available to you. Today, I want to remind you of God’s unfailing love, His justice, and His desire for you to find peace, safety, and healing.

This article is for those of you who have a support system and those who feel isolated or without help. Whether you have trusted family, friends, or church leaders, or if you feel completely alone, there is always hope and help available to you. You are not alone in this journey, and God has promised to guide and protect you.

1. God’s Heart for You: Safety and Justice

God is deeply concerned about those who are suffering, especially those who are oppressed and vulnerable. Psalm 82:3-4 says, “Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and oppressed.” He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and His heart breaks with yours as you face abuse.

Marriage is meant to reflect God’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:25-29), and love is selfless, kind, and protective. Abuse distorts this beautiful design. God desires restoration, healing, and wholeness for you—not suffering or harm. You do not have to stay in a place of danger to prove your faithfulness or commitment to marriage. God calls us to protect the life He has entrusted to us, which includes ensuring our physical and emotional well-being.

If you or your children are in immediate danger, your first priority is to seek safety. Leaving the situation temporarily or permanently is not a sign of failure, but an act of love and self-care. God’s heart for you is to be safe, healthy, and protected.

2. Physical Safety: God Cares About Your Protection

If you are facing abuse, remember that God values your safety. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, and it’s our responsibility to protect them. If you are in physical danger, taking steps to get to safety is not just a necessity, it is a reflection of your worth in God’s eyes.

Start by creating a safety plan:

• Emergency Bag: Pack essential items such as identification, cash, important documents, medications, and a change of clothes.

• Safe Places: Identify safe places like a trusted friend’s house, a shelter, or even a public space where you can go if necessary.

• Emergency Contacts: Memorize a domestic abuse hotline or the phone numbers of people you trust who can help.

These steps are not about abandoning your marriage—they are about protecting your life, which is precious to God. You deserve to be safe, to be loved, and to live in peace.

3. Shame Has No Place in Christ

The shame that abuse leaves behind can feel all-consuming. It may whisper lies like, “You must have done something wrong,” or “You are a failure as a wife and mother.” But these lies are not from God. You are not to blame for the abuse you are experiencing. Shame keeps you isolated and paralyzed, but God’s truth breaks those chains.

Romans 8:1 reminds us that, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” You are not defined by what has happened to you, but by God’s great love for you. The Bible assures us that God sees your pain and invites you to find rest in Him. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” His love is unconditional, and He will never abandon you.

4. Biblical Perspectives on Abuse and Separation

For many Christian women, the thought of leaving feels impossible, especially when they are committed to honoring their marriage vows. But it’s important to understand that the Bible does not require you to remain in a dangerous or abusive situation. In fact, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 speaks of separation as an option when peace and safety are at risk. Separation for safety’s sake is not a failure; it is an act of wisdom and care for yourself and your family.

Separation is not a repudiation of your marriage—it is an opportunity for safety, healing, and, if possible, reconciliation. However, it is important to remember that genuine repentance and transformation must come from the abuser for true healing to occur.

God desires for marriages to be healed, but that healing cannot happen without accountability, safety, and change on the part of the abuser.

5. Reaching Out for Help

• If You Have Support: If you have trusted friends, family, or church leaders, reach out to them. Your church may have counseling services or women’s ministries that can offer guidance and help. Connecting with a Christian counselor who understands the complexities of abuse can also provide a safe space to heal.

• If You Have Been Isolated: If your abuser has intentionally isolated you from your support system, it may feel impossible to reach out. But please know that help is available.

• Hotlines and Shelters: Domestic abuse hotlines provide confidential support, legal advice, and information about safe shelters.

• In the U.S.: National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788)

• In the U.K.: Refuge Helpline (0808 2000 247)

• Technology: If it’s unsafe to make calls, some hotlines offer chat or email support. Be sure to use an incognito browser or a trusted device if necessary.

It might feel daunting, but take one step at a time. God will provide the right resources and people to help you navigate this difficult time.

6. Caring for Your Children

If you have children, their safety and emotional well-being are a top priority. Abuse can deeply affect children, even if they are not the direct targets. Proverbs 31:8-9 calls us to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves. Protecting your children is both a biblical and a practical responsibility.

Here are some ways to care for them in this challenging time:

• Provide Stability: Create an environment that feels safe and secure for them, even if it’s temporary.

• Reassure Them: Speak to them about God’s love and remind them that the abuse is not their fault.

• Seek Support: Reach out to professionals who can help address the emotional needs of your children.

God has entrusted your children to your care, and He will equip you with the strength and wisdom to protect and guide them through this difficult time.

7. Legal Protection and Support

Abuse is never acceptable, and it’s important to know that there are legal protections available to you. Romans 13:1-4 reminds us that governing authorities are servants of God, tasked with upholding justice. Reporting abuse and seeking legal protection is not only acceptable—it is necessary to ensure your safety and that of your children.

• Restraining Orders: A restraining order can legally prevent the abuser from coming near you or contacting you.

• Reporting Abuse: Report abuse to authorities so that they can investigate and take appropriate action.

Seeking legal protection does not mean you are abandoning your marriage—it is a step toward justice, safety, and the protection that God desires for you.

8. Trusting God Through the Pain

When you feel alone or uncertain, know that God is with you. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and will guide you as you seek His wisdom (James 1:5). He understands your pain and promises to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Pray for clarity and strength. Trust that God sees your suffering and will bring justice in His time. He will never leave you or forsake you.

9. Hope for the Future

Healing takes time, and the road ahead may seem uncertain, but with God, there is always hope. Isaiah 61:3 reminds us that God can bring beauty from ashes. No matter where you are in your journey, God’s love for you remains unwavering. Whether your path leads to reconciliation or long-term separation, God is with you, and He will work all things together for your good.

A Final Word

Sister, please hear this: You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are a beloved daughter of the King, created in His image and worthy of love, respect, and protection. Seeking help is not a betrayal of your faith—it is a step toward safety, healing, and honoring the God who loves you.

Take even the smallest step today—whether it’s reaching out to a trusted friend, contacting a hotline, or praying for strength. God is with you every step of the way, surrounding you with His grace, justice, and love. You are seen. You are cherished. And there is hope.

You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are not alone. You are deeply loved by the King of Kings. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is an act of courage and faith. By doing so, you are stepping into the truth that God desires you to be safe, whole, and restored.

Please note: More support networks and their contact details can be found in this article: Single Mothers Beware: Not Every Man is a Father

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How to Protect Your Heart from Emotional Manipulation in Relationships – Part 3

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” ~ Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

This is part 3 of a 5-part series on guarding your heart in relationships. As women, we are nurturing by nature and referred to in the Bible as the “weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7). This isn’t a reflection of value but a design that calls us to be helpers to men, wired to bring support and care into relationships. Men instinctively know this about us, and while this dynamic can bring balance and beauty, it also leaves room for misuse when not approached with God’s wisdom and guidance.

Navigating relationships as a woman is both rewarding and challenging. The desire for meaningful connection is God-given, but it is essential to protect your heart from those who might exploit your trust and affection. This article will help you recognize emotional manipulation, safeguard your heart, and keep your relationships aligned with God’s design.

Understanding the Issue

In Christian communities, marriage is often emphasized as the goal of relationships. Traditionally, men are seen as leaders in pursuing this commitment. However, some misuse this dynamic, taking advantage of women’s nurturing nature to gain emotional support, companionship or even material benefits without the intention of genuine commitment, dodging the responsibility and accountability God places on the man.

This behavior distorts the biblical model of relationships, which calls for love, mutual respect, and service. Scripture, especially passages like 1 Corinthians 13 and Ephesians 5:25, reminds us that relationships should reflect Christ-like love. When someone enjoys the benefits of a relationship—such as emotional support or marital privileges—without accountability, it can leave women feeling devalued and disrespected.

How Women Can Protect Themselves

Guarding your heart requires awareness, boundaries, and trust in God’s plan for your life. Below are practical steps to help you stay vigilant and protect yourself from emotional manipulation.

1. Recognize Red Flags Early On

Understanding warning signs can save you from heartache.

Signs to Watch For:

• He avoids discussing long-term plans or commitment.

• He benefits emotionally, practically, or financially but does not reciprocate.

• He dodges conversations about defining the relationship or its future.

What to Do:

• Trust patterns, not promises. Actions speak louder than words.

• If he consistently avoids clarity, prayerfully consider whether the relationship is aligned with God’s will.

2. Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential for protecting your emotional and spiritual well-being.

Practical Steps:

• Define your boundaries early and communicate them clearly.

• Avoid giving “marital privileges” without a commitment, such as deep emotional investment, financial support, or physical intimacy.

• Stand firm when someone pressures you to compromise your values.

3. Avoid Rushing into Emotional Investment

Deep emotional connections should develop gradually, based on proven sincerity.

Suggestion:

• Take time to assess his character and intentions.

• Observe his response to your boundaries. Respect is a crucial indicator of genuine love.

• Trust God’s timing and allow relationships to grow organically.

4. Seek Accountability and Godly Counsel

Sometimes emotions can cloud judgment. Trusted counsel can help you see clearly.

Why It’s Important:

• Trusted friends, mentors, or spiritual leaders provide objective insights.

• A godly community helps you stay grounded in biblical principles.

5. Embrace Your Value and Worth in Christ

Your identity is rooted in Christ, not in a relationship or another person’s validation.

Reminders:

• Reflect on Psalm 139:14: “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

• When you know your worth in God’s eyes, you won’t settle for less than His best for you.

What to Look for in a Healthy Relationship

A godly relationship should reflect the principles of love, respect, and mutual commitment. Seek these qualities in a potential partner:

• Respect: He honors your boundaries and values your emotions.

• Clear Intentions: He communicates openly and aligns his actions with his words.

• Sacrificial Love: He demonstrates Christ-like love through selflessness and support.

• Accountability: He welcomes godly counsel and community oversight.

Taking Control of the Situation

If you notice red flags or feel uncertain about someone’s intentions, take proactive steps to protect your heart:

1. Clarify Your Own Needs: Align your relationship expectations with God’s principles.

2. Evaluate Actions Over Words: Look for consistency between what he says and does.

3. Have a Direct Conversation: Express your concerns openly and see how he responds.

4. Be Willing to Walk Away: If he doesn’t respect your boundaries or intentions, trust God’s plan and let go.

Conclusion

Relationships are designed to reflect God’s love—honest, sacrificial, and committed. Emotional manipulation undermines this purpose and can leave women feeling used and devalued. By staying vigilant, setting boundaries, and seeking godly counsel, you can protect your heart and honor both God and yourself in your relationships.

It’s essential to remember that you cannot change a person—only God can transform hearts. Men are not “build-a-bear” projects, and it’s not your responsibility to fix or mold someone into who you hope they could be. Trying to do so often leads to frustration and heartache.

The fear of being alone or not finding someone can make it tempting to settle for less than God’s best. But settling out of fear compromises your values and leads to unfulfilling relationships. Trust God’s timing, knowing that He has good plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11).

Never forget: your worth is found in Christ, not in a man’s approval. True love reflects God’s design, where respect, integrity, and godliness thrive. Stay rooted in His Word, embrace your identity in Him, and let Him guide you toward relationships that bring joy, growth, and lasting love.