Category: discernment

15 Warning Signs Your Partner May Be Abusive

Published on by Editor

Before you get emotionally invested or committed to someone, it is important to take off any rose tinted glasses and pay close attention to how they actually behave, not how you hope they will be. When people show you who they are early on, it is usually best to believe them the first time rather than explain it away or minimise it.

Many people do not intentionally ignore red flags, but they become so focused on the potential of the relationship that they overlook behaviour that is already showing them the truth. You should not be so desperate for connection or afraid of being alone that you place yourself in a situation where your safety, wellbeing, or peace of mind could be at risk later on. What may start as small uncomfortable moments can, over time, develop into patterns that are far more serious.

Sometimes these warning signs are obvious in hindsight, like neon flashing signals that were there all along, but at the time they are dismissed because of hope, attachment, or lack of experience with what healthy behaviour actually looks like.

Not everyone grows up being taught what a healthy relationship looks like, so it is understandable that some people may misread control, jealousy, or disrespect as normal or even as care. That is why awareness matters, so you can recognise early patterns for what they are, rather than learning the hard way once you are already deeply invested.

Abuse rarely starts with something obvious. It does not begin with extreme behavior or clear harm. Instead, it often begins quietly, through subtle tests, small boundary violations, and moments that are easy to dismiss. Before someone becomes openly abusive, they may first try to determine whether you are someone who will tolerate control. That might sound harsh, but understanding this pattern can help you protect yourself.

Abuse is not always constant. It often comes in cycles. There can be calm periods, apologies, affection, and promises to change, followed again by the same harmful behavior. This cycle is one of the main reasons people stay, because the good moments feel like proof things are improving.

THE TESTING PHASE, HOW IT OFTEN BEGINS

Early on, a potentially abusive person may test your boundaries in ways that seem small or even harmless. You might say you do not want a hug, and they push anyway, saying “come on, where is my hug.” You might express discomfort, and they dismiss it. They may pick small arguments, excuse someone else treating you badly, or show early jealousy and possessiveness. Individually, these moments feel minor, but together they form a pattern. What is happening beneath the surface is simple, they are learning what you will tolerate.

WHAT THEY HEAR VS WHAT YOU MEAN

In healthy relationships, communication is how boundaries are set. You express how you feel, the other person listens, and things are adjusted. You might say, “I do not like that, please do not treat me like that.” You explain yourself, you try to have a conversation, and you may even cry or plead to be understood. To you, that is communication. To someone who is abusive, it can be interpreted differently. They may not hear a boundary, they hear toleration.

As long as you stay, what they often register is not your words, but your continued presence. Even ultimatums lose meaning if they are not followed by action. If you say you will leave but stay, the message they receive is that the behavior is acceptable. This is why many people feel confused, they communicated clearly, but nothing changed.

WHY PEOPLE STAY

People often ask why someone stays after seeing these signs. The answer is not simple. Abuse is not only about fear, it is also about attachment. There is often a strong emotional bond, sometimes called a trauma bond, where the same person who causes harm is also the source of comfort. That creates confusion.

There is also hope, hope that the early version of the person will return, hope that better communication, patience, or love will fix things. Fear can also play a role, including financial dependence, isolation, and lack of support, all of which can make leaving harder. Leaving is rarely one decision, it is often a process.

Over time, another shift can happen. People begin doubting themselves instead of the behaviour. They may think, “Maybe I am overreacting,” or “Maybe it is my fault.” This is not random, it often develops gradually when someone’s reality is repeatedly dismissed or minimised.

THE DOOR YOU’RE BEING OFFERED

Early red flags are often framed as something to work through, but it can be more useful to see them as a door, not a problem to fix, but a path to choose. Instead of asking what if they change, ask what if they never change. If they are jealous now, what does that become later, if they dismiss your feelings now, what does that turn into, if they get angry over small things, what happens when life gets harder.

You are being shown something early, and although it may feel small, it is a preview. The question is not how to fix it, the question is whether you want to walk through that door.

TRUSTING YOUR GUT

If something feels off, pay attention to that. You do not need proof, and you do not need validation from others. If you feel uneasy, anxious, or small around someone who is supposed to care about you, that feeling matters. Your instincts often recognize patterns before your mind fully accepts them.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO WAIT FOR IT TO GET WORSE

A common trap is waiting for something undeniable before leaving, but you do not need a dramatic reason. You are allowed to walk away because something feels wrong. You are allowed to leave over something that seems small. You are allowed to choose respect, kindness, and emotional safety. A healthy partner does not need to be taught basic respect, that should already be there.

Leaving does not always feel clear in the moment. Many people only fully understand what happened after distance is created. If you are unsure, that uncertainty itself is something to take seriously, because healthy relationships do not usually create confusion about your own safety or worth.

15 WARNING SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS OR MAY BECOME ABUSIVE

1. Love bombing
Overwhelming affection early on, fast emotional intensity, pressure to move quickly, declaring love early, or pushing a soulmate narrative before a real foundation exists. They come on very strong, very fast. Everything feels perfect immediately, and they push for commitment early.
What this can often look like is being overwhelmed with attention very quickly, feeling emotionally swept up before trust is built, or feeling pressured to match their intensity early on. Saying they love you unusually quickly, pushing to move in together early, or talking about marriage before a real foundation has formed.

The intensity can create a strong emotional attachment early, so when harmful behaviour begins later, it is easier to excuse because you are holding onto how they were at the start.

2. Abuse is progressive
It starts small and escalates over time, often beginning with subtle criticism, jokes at your expense, or small put downs. This can include comments disguised as jokes that feel uncomfortable but are brushed off, even though they carry real criticism underneath. At first it feels minor, but over time it becomes more consistent.
What this can often look like is behaviour slowly shifting from “just joking” comments to more regular criticism or disrespect that becomes harder to ignore.

3. Abnormal jealousy
Accusing you of flirting or cheating without cause, or reacting strongly to normal interactions. They create suspicion where there is none.
What this can often look like is them questioning innocent friendships, becoming upset over normal conversations, or needing reassurance repeatedly for no clear reason. It can also include early possessiveness, such as getting upset about you hugging a friend.

4. Controlling behavior
Trying to dictate what you wear, where you go, who you see, or demanding access to your phone or location. Control often starts small and gradually expands.
What this can often look like is small “suggestions” turning into expectations, or them monitoring your choices more and more over time.

5. Disrespect toward others
Using degrading, dismissive, or misogynistic language, especially toward ex partners or vulnerable people. They often rewrite past relationships to blame others entirely. Pay attention to how they respond to stories of harm, such as abuse or assault. If they ask what someone did to “deserve it,” that is a serious red flag.
What this can often look like is constant negative talk about ex partners, saying things like “all my exes are crazy,” or blaming everyone else while taking no responsibility.

6. Public put downs
Belittling or embarrassing you in front of others, sometimes disguised as jokes. It is often framed as humor but feels humiliating. Do they tell people things about you, that you asked them to keep private. What this can often look like is jokes that target your insecurities or comments made in front of others that make you feel small.

7. Lack of support
Minimizing your achievements or failing to acknowledge your success. Your wins are ignored, dismissed, or redirected back to them.
What this can often look like is them not celebrating your good news, or shifting attention back to themselves when you share something positive.

8. Boundary violations
Ignoring your “no,” guilt tripping you, or pressuring you into things you are uncomfortable with. This can include emotional, physical, or personal boundaries.
What this can often look like is repeated pushing after you have already said no, or making you feel guilty for having limits.

9. Quick to anger
Starting arguments easily and blaming you for their reactions. This can sound like “you make me act like this” or “you drive me crazy,” where responsibility for their behaviour is shifted onto you. Conflict often feels unpredictable or one sided. What this can often look like is sudden escalation over small issues, followed by you being blamed for their reaction.

10. Intimidation
Breaking things, punching the wall, blocking exits, reckless driving during arguments, or using fear to control situations. Even without physical violence, it creates fear. They may hit objects around you before they ever hit you.
What this can often look like is aggressive behaviour that makes you feel unsafe even if they do not physically touch you.

11. Isolation tactics
Discouraging or preventing contact with friends and family. They create distance between you and your support system.
What this can often look like is them making you feel guilty for seeing others or slowly reducing your contact with people you care about.

12. Financial control
Creating dependency by limiting access to money or pressuring you to stop working. Control over finances becomes control over freedom.
What this can often look like is restricting your independence, questioning your spending, or influencing your financial decisions.

13. Walking on eggshells
Constant anxiety about their mood or reactions. You begin adjusting your behavior to avoid conflict.
What this can often look like is carefully monitoring what you say or do just to avoid upsetting them.

14. Gaslighting
Distorting or denying events in a way that makes you doubt your own memory and perception, causing reality to feel uncertain. It can look like being told things never happened or that you’re overreacting, even when you clearly remember events differently.

15. History of violence
Past abusive behavior, restraining orders, or repeated patterns of harm. Often accompanied by blame toward previous partners.
What this can often look like is a repeated pattern of failed relationships with similar accusations or unresolved harmful behaviour.

What Healthy Looks Like

A healthy relationship does not leave you confused. You feel safe expressing yourself. Boundaries are respected the first time. Conflict does not create fear or control. You feel supported, not managed, heard, not dismissed, calm, not constantly on edge.

What to Do If This Is You

If you recognize these patterns, you do not have to deal with them alone. Talk to someone you trust. If it is safe, begin noticing patterns and documenting behavior. If you are considering leaving, make a plan that protects your safety. You do not have to earn respect, you are already entitled to it.

Sometimes the first step is simply telling one trusted person what is happening, so you are not holding it alone in your head.

Final Thoughts

The early stages of a relationship should feel safe, mutual, and steady. If someone likes you, it should be clear. If someone wants to be with you, they should treat you well from the beginning. You do not need to stay to see who someone might become, you can decide based on who they already are. And if something does not feel right, that feeling is worth listening to.

SUPPORT RESOURCES

If this relates to your situation, support is available:

United States 🇺🇸

National Domestic Violence Hotline
Call or text 1 800 799 7233, or use online chat
https://www.thehotline.org/

Love is Respect
Call 1 866 331 9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522
https://www.loveisrespect.org/

United Kingdom 🇬🇧

National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Call 0808 2000 247, available 24 hours
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Women’s Aid
Online support and local services
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Men’s Advice Line
Call 0808 801 0327
https://mensadviceline.org.uk/

—————-

*** Photo by Timur Webber at Pexels

By Their Fruit: Discerning Character Without Playing God

Published on by Editor

“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”

“You can judge the character of a man by the friends he keeps.”

Sayings like these echo a deep biblical principle. In the Bible, Jesus teaches in the Gospel of Matthew 7:16, “By their fruit you shall know them.” Yet in that same sermon He also warns, “Judge not, that you be not judged.” Many people quote the second line to shut down all evaluation of behavior, forgetting that Christ Himself instructs us to discern fruit.

The tension is not a contradiction. It is a distinction.

Only God sees the heart. As Scripture declares, “Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Discernment evaluates fruit—observable patterns of life. Judgment, in the condemning sense, assumes motives and pronounces final verdicts on a soul. One is wisdom; the other is presumption. One protects; the other punishes.

To discern is not to condemn. It is to recognize what is growing from the root of a life. And fruit always reveals the tree.

This is why many believers say we are called to be “fruit inspectors.” That phrase does not appear verbatim in Scripture, but the principle does. Jesus did not instruct His followers to ignore what they see. He warned them about false prophets and immediately gave them a method of protection: examine the fruit. A fruit inspector does not claim to know the genetic structure of the tree. He simply examines what it consistently produces. In the same way, Christians are not called to declare who is saved or condemned—that authority belongs to God—but we are called to discern patterns, guard against deception, and walk wisely.

Being a fruit inspector means observing without assuming omniscience. It means recognizing behavior without pretending to read hearts. It means applying the same standard to ourselves as we do to others. Discernment is not suspicion; it is spiritual responsibility.

Below are 10 ways we can rightly discern the character of a man or woman—not by claiming to know their heart, but by observing their consistent fruit.

1. By how they treat those who can do nothing for them.

Courtesy toward superiors proves little. Most people are polite to those who can affect their lives. The real test is how someone treats people with less power: a waiter, a child, an elderly neighbor, or a stranger who offers them nothing in return, especially someone they think is beneath them because of their class, job, or where they come from. In those moments you see a person’s true character, because kindness that expects nothing back cannot be faked for long.

2. By the company they keep.

Scripture reminds us that bad company corrupts good character. While we must avoid condemning someone for isolated associations, long-term companionship often reflects shared values. The orchard surrounding a tree often hints at the kind of fruit it will bear.

3. By their response to correction.

Do they grow defensive, hostile, and dismissive? Or do they pause and consider the possibility of growth? Pride resists pruning; humility welcomes it. The teachable spirit produces healthy fruit.

4. By their consistency in private and public.

Integrity means being whole. While none of us are flawless, a pattern of duplicity—one persona in public and another in private—signals instability beneath the surface. True righteousness does not require constant witnesses.

5. By how they handle authority and power.

Influence magnifies what is already rooted inside. Some grow more patient and responsible; others become controlling or self-serving. Power does not create character—it exposes it.

6. By their habitual speech.

Jesus taught that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Occasional failure is human, but consistent patterns of gossip, cruelty, dishonesty, or manipulation reveal deeper roots. Likewise, steady truthfulness and encouragement reveal inward health.

7. By their faithfulness in small matters.

Grand gestures are impressive, but everyday reliability reveals depth. A person who cuts corners in minor responsibilities often does the same in larger ones. Character grows quietly in ordinary soil.

8. By their reaction to others’ success.

Envy is a subtle but telling fruit. When others prosper, does this person rejoice sincerely, or subtly criticize and compete? A secure heart celebrates; an insecure one resents.

9. By their endurance in trials.

Pressure reveals structure. In hardship, some grow bitter and blame others. Others grow deeper, patient, and refined. Trials expose what anchors the soul.

10. By the long-term pattern of their life.

One mistake does not define a life, nor does one noble act guarantee integrity. Discernment studies trajectory. Over time, what continues to grow—peace or chaos, honesty or deception, humility or pride? Fruit is measured in seasons, not moments.

The crucial difference must remain clear. Judging says, “I know your heart.” Discernment says, “I see your fruit.” Judging condemns the person; discernment evaluates the pattern. Judging closes the door to redemption; discernment leaves room for repentance and growth.

When someone says, “Don’t judge,” they are right in one sense—we must never assume God’s throne or pronounce eternal verdicts. But refusing to discern altogether is not humility; it is negligence. Christ warned us precisely because deception exists. To ignore fruit is to ignore His instruction.

Character is not revealed in declarations but in demonstrations. Words may persuade for a season, but fruit persuades over time. God alone searches hearts. We simply examine what grows from them.

And in doing so, we are not playing God—we are walking in the wisdom He already commanded.

——————-

**Photo by Filip Szyller at Pexels

The Hijacking of Jesus’ “Let Them” Concept: How Self-Help Distorts the Truth

Published on by Editor

Yes, the concept of “let them” from Jesus’ teachings has been hijacked by modern self-help, “woke” culture, and personal development circles. These movements have taken this powerful principle of Jesus and distorted it to fit an individualistic, self-empowered narrative. But when we examine the way Jesus actually used the idea of “let them,” we see that it was not about emotional independence or detachment from others. Instead, it was about surrendering to God’s greater purpose, even in the face of rejection, offense, and misunderstanding.

Jesus’ teachings on “let them” reflect a deep, God-centered wisdom, whereas self-help culture often twists this principle into a means for self-glorification, and does not lead you to Godliness or salvation. This distortion is a prime example of how Satan comes as an “angel of light,” appearing to offer wisdom and empowerment, he comes in such an attractive package, but ultimately leading people astray from God’s truth. The deception tastes like honey but becomes bitter like gall because it is poisonous to the soul.

Jesus’ Original Meaning of “Let Them”

Jesus’ words and actions in the Gospels demonstrate a profound understanding of the concept of “let them.” Time and time again, He responds to rejection, criticism, and offense not by seeking approval or altering His message, but by trusting in God’s plan and purpose. His “let them” was about allowing people to reject Him without losing sight of His divine mission.

1. Matthew 15:14 – Let the Pharisees Be Offended

In Matthew 15:14, Jesus responds to the disciples’ concern about the Pharisees being offended by His teachings:

“Let them be; they are blind guides. If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

Here, Jesus demonstrates His willingness to let others be offended by His message, knowing that His mission was not about pleasing the Pharisees or any other group. The Pharisees’ rejection didn’t change the truth He was sharing. His “let them” was about not catering to their expectations and remaining faithful to God’s plan.

2. John 6:60-66 – Let Them Walk Away

In John 6:60-66, after Jesus teaches about being the Bread of Life, many of His disciples are offended and walk away:

“When many of His disciples heard it, they said, ‘This is a hard saying; who can listen to it?’…After this, many of His disciples turned back and no longer walked with Him.”

Instead of chasing after them or softening His message, Jesus turns to the remaining disciples and asks, “Do you want to go away as well?” (John 6:67).

Jesus wasn’t concerned with losing followers—He was focused on fulfilling His divine purpose. His message wasn’t about personal comfort or building a following; it was about truth. “Let them” in this instance meant that He would allow people to walk away if they could not accept the truth He was speaking.

3. Luke 9:59-62 – Let the Dead Bury Their Own Dead

In Luke 9:59-62, Jesus tells a man who wishes to bury his father before following Him:

“Leave the dead to bury their own dead. But as for you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.”

Here, Jesus isn’t dismissing the importance of family but is emphasizing the urgency of His mission. He demonstrates that when it comes to following God’s will, there will be times when others’ expectations—whether cultural, familial, or social—must be set aside in order to stay aligned with God’s higher purpose.

4. Matthew 10:34-39 – Let the Division Happen

In Matthew 10:34-39, Jesus speaks about the cost of discipleship:

“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother…”

In these verses, Jesus acknowledges that following Him may lead to division, and some will be offended. He encourages His followers to embrace the division, as standing firm in God’s truth is more important than seeking peace at all costs. His “let them” here is about accepting that not everyone will agree with God’s message, and that’s okay. His mission was not to please people, but to fulfill God’s plan.

How Self-Help Hijacks the “Let Them” Concept

In modern self-help culture, the “let them” idea has been hijacked and reinterpreted as a call to detach from toxic people, focus on emotional independence, and prioritize self-validation over others’ opinions. While setting healthy boundaries is important, the self-help version of “let them” distorts Jesus’ message by placing the individual at the center, promoting self-reliance and the pursuit of personal happiness, rather than surrendering to God’s divine will.

The self-help movement tells us to stop seeking external validation and to embrace our “authentic” selves. It encourages us to let go of those who do not support our personal growth or who criticize us. While these ideas might seem appealing, they miss the deeper purpose of Jesus’ “let them” concept. Jesus’ “let them” wasn’t about detaching from people or avoiding rejection for the sake of personal peace. It was about standing firm in God’s truth, even when people walk away or reject us, and trusting that God’s plan is greater than any personal comfort or approval.

Satan, as an “angel of light,” often uses these deceptive versions of truth to lead people away from God’s will. The modern self-help interpretation promotes emotional independence and self-empowerment—key ingredients for self-idolatry—rather than surrendering to God’s higher purpose.

The Core of the Deception

The self-help version of “let them” shifts the focus from God’s will to self-empowerment. It’s a subtle shift that places the individual in the center of the universe, allowing them to act based on their own desires, free from accountability to God or others. This is dangerous territory, as it leads people to idolize their own autonomy, rather than living in obedience to God’s plan.

Jesus’ “let them” was not about asserting control or avoiding discomfort for personal gain—it was about surrendering to God’s divine plan, even in the face of rejection and offense. The true “let them” is about letting go of the need for control and trusting that God’s plan is better than our own desires for approval or comfort.

The True Christian Perspective

The true Christian understanding of “let them” is about embracing God’s truth, even when it causes offense, rejection, or misunderstanding. It’s about trusting that God’s plan is greater than any human approval or personal comfort. Jesus did not allow people to walk away because He wanted to hurt them, but because He knew that rejecting God’s truth would lead to spiritual blindness, and He was willing to endure the consequences of speaking that truth.

In contrast, modern self-help distorts this by teaching that we should just walk away from people and situations that don’t serve our personal growth or happiness. While it’s important to set boundaries and protect our peace, the “let them” Jesus demonstrated goes beyond self-preservation—it’s about aligning with God’s mission, regardless of how others respond. Jesus didn’t focus on emotional independence but on aligning Himself with the will of the Father, even when it meant facing rejection or ridicule.

Conclusion: The Deception of the Self-Help “Let Them” Concept

The modern self-help interpretation of the “let them” concept is a twisted version of Jesus’ original teaching. It presents a false, self-centered version of freedom that leads individuals to idolize their own desires and emotions. Just as Satan masquerades as an angel of light, the self-help industry appears to offer truth and wisdom, but it ultimately leads people away from God’s true purpose and away from Him.

In contrast, Jesus’ “let them” was not about self-empowerment or emotional independence—it was about surrendering to God’s will, no matter the cost. True peace and fulfillment come from trusting in God’s divine plan, not in asserting control over others or seeking validation from the world. The “let them” concept, as taught by Jesus, is about standing firm in God’s truth and purpose, even when it leads to rejection, offense, or misunderstanding.

——————

*** Photo by David Rama at Pexels

The Search For Meaning: How Modern Idolatry Reflects Our God Shaped Longing

Published on by Editor

From the bustling streets of Tokyo to the quiet corners of a rural village, one thing remains constant: the human tendency to idolize something. This phenomenon is not new; throughout history, people have worshiped various deities, objects, and ideals. However, the essence of modern idolatry reflects a deeper spiritual longing—a God-shaped hole in our hearts meant exclusively for Him. This inherent desire for connection with the divine often leads individuals to fill that void with worldly pursuits, resulting in a cycle of dissatisfaction and spiritual emptiness.

The God-Shaped Hole: A Divine Design

The concept of a God-shaped hole in the human heart can be traced back to the idea that God created us with a longing for relationship with Him. In Ecclesiastes 3:11, it is written, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart.” This verse suggests that God intentionally designed us with an innate desire for eternity, a yearning for something beyond ourselves.

When we do not know God as our Lord and Savior, this longing can manifest in various ways. People often seek to fill this void with things of this world: relationships, success, wealth, or material possessions. Each attempt to fill this gap with transient things ultimately leads to disappointment, as none can satisfy the deep-rooted desire for a relationship with our Creator.

The Allure of Worldly Idols

Modern idolatry often disguises itself in the form of societal values and personal ambitions. Many individuals idolize career success, celebrity culture, and the pursuit of pleasure. Social media platforms can amplify this phenomenon, presenting curated images of seemingly perfect lives, encouraging a culture of comparison and envy.

In the quest for fulfillment, people may unknowingly prioritize these worldly pursuits over their relationship with God. This displacement of affection can lead to feelings of inadequacy and emptiness. As humans chase after fleeting pleasures and possessions, they often find themselves in a cycle of unfulfilled desires, driven by the constant need for more.

The Consequences of Idolatry

When we prioritize idols over God, we risk drifting away from the very source of true fulfillment. The Bible warns against idolatry in various forms. In Exodus 20:3-5, God commands, “You shall have no other gods before Me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image…” This admonition emphasizes that anything we elevate above God is an idol, whether it be wealth, success, or even relationships.

The consequences of such idolatry are profound. It not only leads to spiritual stagnation but also to a profound sense of isolation. Without the foundation of a relationship with God, individuals often feel lost, disconnected, and devoid of purpose.

The Universal Search for Meaning

Across cultures and eras, the quest for meaning and fulfillment is universal. No matter where you go, you will find people idolizing something, reflecting the innate human longing for connection and purpose. From ancient rituals to modern practices, the forms may change, but the underlying desire remains: a yearning for something greater than oneself.

This universal search often leads to the creation of idols—be they material possessions, celebrity figures, or ideologies. However, these pursuits are mere substitutes for the real thing. They offer temporary satisfaction but fail to provide lasting peace and joy.

Finding Fulfillment in Christ

The only true solution to the God-shaped hole in our hearts is a relationship with Jesus Christ. John 10:10 reminds us, “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” When we accept Christ as our Savior, we begin to experience the fulfillment that comes from knowing our Creator.

A relationship with God provides the ultimate source of identity, purpose, and belonging. Through Him, we find the strength to resist the allure of worldly idols, focusing instead on His eternal promises.

Conclusion: A Call to Authentic Worship

In a world filled with distractions and temptations, it is crucial to recognize the dangers of modern idolatry. The God-shaped hole in our hearts can only be filled by the love and grace of our Creator. As believers, we are called to identify and dismantle any idols that may have taken root in our lives, turning our hearts back to God.

Let us strive to seek Him above all else, understanding that true fulfillment is found not in the transient things of this world, but in a vibrant, life-giving relationship with Jesus Christ. In doing so, we can experience the abundant life He promises, a life where our hearts are fully satisfied in Him alone.

——————-

**Photo by Wild Little Things at Pexels

Nothing New Under the Sun: Jezebel and the New Age Movements

Published on by Editor

“See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.” ~ Colossians 2:8

Wicked women are presented as they truly are in the Bible—without any attempt to sanitize their lives or actions. One such infamous figure is Jezebel, the wife of King Ahab of Israel. She was not a believer in the one true God, and her reign over northern Israel marked the introduction and spread of a false religion—worship of Baal. This religion quickly took hold because Jezebel became a role model for many women of her time. Her religion was rooted in the worship of Baal, or Satan, who is behind all false religions.

To please the queen was politically savvy, so she filled Israel with 850 priests practicing her religion, leading the people further astray. Jezebel’s impact was profound and deeply harmful, as she turned the nation away from the true God.

The Parallels Between Baal Worship and the New Age Movement

“The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” ~ 2 Corinthians 4:4

Do you want to know what Jezebel’s religion was like? We are witnessing the rise of a similar, swift, and powerful religion sweeping the planet today—the New Age / Golden Age Movement. This belief system, like the false worship of Baal, denies the existence of a personal God who loves His people. Instead, it promotes an impersonal, universal energy force. In the New Age Movement, God can be referred to in many ways— she or he, mother or father, god or goddess, the Earth, the sun, the stars, or even nature itself can be worshipped as God. New Age teachers claim to receive guidance from so-called “spirit guides,” “ascended masters,” “masters of wisdom” “angels,” and “higher beings,” all of whom make up the hierarchy of this movement. They state that some of their guides are angels.

However, Jezebel’s priests, when confronted by the prophet Elijah, were exposed for their reliance on demonic forces – fallen angels, whilst practicing their false religion. Elijah challenged all 850 of them to prove the power of their gods, demonstrating that their supposed deities were powerless before the one true God. When they failed, the false nature of their religion was revealed, along with their demon guides posing as angels.

The New Age Movement bears striking similarities to Jezebel’s worship of Baal. For example, the New Age movement claims that Jesus Christ was merely a reincarnated messenger—not the Son of God. They assert that Christ was sent by the demon hierarchy of angels to provide “spiritually advanced revelations” to their group. In fact, they teach that Jesus is just one of many “Christs,” alongside figures like Buddha, Mohammed, and Confucius. This system accepts anyone who rejects Jesus Christ as the Son of God—whether they are Shintoists, Satanists, Buddhists, secular humanists, witches, or anyone else who doesn’t acknowledge the truth or accept the Christ, and that He is a personal God. They teach that man is not sinful, nor evil, and that Jesus’s sacrifice on the Cross has no meaning, according to them it was meaningless.

Moreover, the New Age Movement denies the existence of sin, judgment, and the need for salvation. Instead, it teaches that humanity has evolved over thousands of years and that there is no need for a savior. This philosophy is the basis of all false religions; rooted in ancient lies, echoing the deceptions of Satan, who hides the reality of judgment, hell, and sin, and all of his followers do the same, because they have been blinded to the truth. It’s no surprise that Jezebel’s actions—her cheating, lying, and murder—were reflections of her allegiance to Satan, the father of lies. Her conscience was so seared with unbelief in the one true God that she had no fear of judgment, she never expected to meet a righteous and holy God one day, who will judge her for things done in the flesh, her thoughts, her deeds and her motives.

Modern Echoes: The Age of Aquarius

Today, the New Age Movement is spreading rapidly, with some even calling it the “Age of Aquarius.” Many people are drawn to its teachings, including secular humanists, witches, Satanists, and celebrities. One prominent TV and movie star has become a spokesperson for the movement, claiming to receive instructions from an ancient being, that tells her things and guides her. This celebrity, like Jezebel, serves as a role model for many, leading others into deception.

The New Age Movement teaches that being “born again” is simply a personal transformation or healing of the self. It says that you must “let go” and allow your “inner guide” or “higher self” to direct your life, without any belief or need for the Holy Spirit and Him indwelling you. They speak of something called “kundalini,” a Hindu term meaning “serpent power,” which has clear connections to Satan. This mimics spiritual experiences, but it is a counterfeit of true Christian transformational quality of the Holy Spirit.

Satan, as always, has counterfeited the things of Jesus Christ and Christianity. The New Age Movement, much like the false prophets in Jezebel’s time, speaks of a “Christ-like” figure who will come to establish a utopian Kingdom of peace on Earth, that he will reign over the new age, bringing about a one world religion and consolidating all nations into one government. This is eerily similar to the Antichrist, who will deceive many and promise a one-world government and a counterfeit peace—something the Bible warns will happen before the true return of Jesus Christ.

Distinguishing Truth from Deception

In a nutshell, here is what the New Age Movement teaches:

• God is impersonal; He is not loving, He can be a he or she, but not the sovereign, holy, and righteous God of the Bible.

• Jesus is not the Son of God, not the Christ and someone greater than Jesus will come, not realising there will be an anti-Christ connected to Satan, who will try to imitate the Christ, as we have been forewarned in scriptures.

• There is no need for being born again, as they reject the Holy Spirit and encourage people to follow their demon guides.

• And about the 2nd coming of Jesus Christ that the anti-Christ will rule in Earth and Heaven is the Kingdom of God during the Age of Aquarius and that it is not a real place, but merely an Earthly utopia.

• There is no sin, judgment, evil or hell.

As believers in Christ, we know these claims are false. We have the truth from the Bible, which tells us that God is our loving Father, He is not a she or a goddess, but the supreme being. Jesus is His only begotten Son, the express image of the invisible God, and salvation comes through Him alone. The Holy Spirit, sent by the Father and the Son, dwells within us, guiding and empowering us to live according to God’s will. Heaven is a real, physical place where God the Father and God the Son reign in glory, and hell is a real and horrible place for those who reject the truth of the gospel. Through the Holy Spirit, we are assured of our salvation and strengthened in our faith as we await eternal life with God. He tells us that angels are messengers of God and named in scripture and He tells us to be born again, by the spirit of God by receiving Jesus as our personal Saviour.

A Call to Stand Firm in the Truth

Throughout history, God has warned His people about false religions. From Jezebel’s priests to the builders of the Tower of Babel, we have seen it through the ages. These instances of idolatry and rebellion against God serve as lessons for us today. Even in Noah’s time, when wickedness was rampant, God had to destroy the world with a flood. This, too, is a forewarning for us today. Jesus Himself tells us in Matthew 24 that when we see the same kinds of lawlessness and rebellion happening again, it is a sign that His return is near.

In Matthew 24:29-30, Jesus speaks of the signs preceding His second coming: “Immediately after the distress of those days, the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light; the stars will fall from the sky, and the heavenly bodies will be shaken. Then will appear the sign of the Son of Man in heaven.”

We know that in the end times, false prophets will rise up to deceive even the elect (Matthew 24:24). Deception has led to destruction throughout the ages, and it will culminate in the final days before Jesus’ return. This New Age Movement, like its predecessors, may fade into the background only to be replaced by another. Yet, there is the real possibility that this movement could lead to the rise of the Antichrist, who will deceive many with promises of peace and a one-world government. Scripture warns us that the Antichrist will set up his rule on Earth, even establishing himself in Jerusalem and claiming to be the Christ (2 Thessalonians 2:3-4). However, we who know the Bible recognize this for the lie that it is.

Jesus warned: “If anyone tells you, ‘There he is, out in the wilderness,’ do not go out; or, ‘Here he is, in the inner rooms,’ do not believe it” (Matthew 24:26). His true return will not be secret or localized. We are told in 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17 that He will descend from heaven with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. The dead in Christ will rise first, and those who are still alive will be caught up to meet Him in the air. This event, known as the rapture, will take place in an instant, in the twinkling of an eye (1 Corinthians 15:52).

Jesus will gather His elect and take them to be with Him for seven years, during which time the Great Tribulation will unfold on Earth. After this period, He will return with His saints to establish His Kingdom on Earth and reign for a thousand years (Revelation 20:4-6). Unlike the false peace promised by the New Age Movement, this will be the true and lasting reign of the Prince of Peace.

We are warned in Scripture that the Antichrist will bring about a false peace and deceive many. Jesus Himself cautioned us against following these lies. We are also reminded of the lessons of history—Jezebel and her false prophets led Israel into idolatry, and the builders of the Tower of Babel sought to defy God’s sovereignty. These stories serve as warnings for us today. Wide is the gate that leads to destruction, but narrow is the gate that leads to life (Matthew 7:13-14).

As believers, we look forward to the Lord’s return. By God’s grace, we will not be caught up in the ecumenical movement or New Age ideologies that attempt to unify all religions and philosophies into one deceptive system. This “Age of Aquarius” promises enlightenment and unity but leads people to follow the Antichrist instead of Christ. The Bible is clear: there can be no lasting peace on Earth until Jesus Himself returns to set up His Kingdom.

We must stand firm in the truth, remembering Jesus’ words and promises. Let us choose the narrow path that leads to life. Choose wisely—choose Christ!

Conclusion: Lessons from Jezebel and the Bible

God’s sovereignty remains unshaken; He knows the beginning from the end. The warnings drawn from Jezebel’s life and scripture provide us with timeless clarity. As Ecclesiastes 1:9 reminds us, “There is nothing new under the sun.” Satan’s methods of deception have not changed, and false religions like the New Age / Golden Age Movement are modern manifestations of these ancient lies. These deceptions, cloaked in promises of enlightenment, peace, and unity, echo the spiritual rebellion seen in Jezebel’s time, the Tower of Babel, and countless other moments in history.

Even those movements that claim to acknowledge Christ often compromise truth, embracing all religions in the name of an ecumenical ‘unity and peace.’ This push toward a one-world religion is yet another ploy by Satan, setting the stage for the rise of the Antichrist, who will seek to establish his rule over a one-world government. Scripture warns us of this, and as believers, we are called to be vigilant.

Our anchor is the Word of God. We must remain grounded, discerning, and uncompromising in our faith. The false promises of movements like the New Age and the allure of unity at the expense of truth must be rejected. Instead, we fix our eyes on Christ, awaiting His glorious return when He will establish His eternal Kingdom—a Kingdom of true peace and righteousness.

Let us hold fast to God’s promises, stand firm in His truth, and keep our hearts prepared for the day when the Prince of Peace will reign forever.

The free gift of salvation

————-

“Nothing New Under the Sun” is adapted from Eleanor Page’s talk on ‘Jezebel’ in the ‘Women in the Bible’ series, broadcasted on BBN Radio / Photo by RDNE Stock at Pexels.