Understanding Familiar Spirits: Demons Imitating Loved Ones

In the Bible, familiar spirits are deceptive entities, often believed to be demons, that imitate deceased loved ones. These spirits don’t just appear randomly—they are closely connected to families and individuals, having observed them for years. They know personal details and can mimic the voices, personalities, and behaviors of family members or loved ones, making them incredibly convincing. Their primary goal is to deceive, mislead, and pull people away from the truth of God.

The Bible and Familiar Spirits

The Bible warns against interacting with familiar spirits. In Leviticus 19:31, God tells His people, “Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am the LORD your God.” This warning is clear: communicating with the dead or trying to summon spirits is forbidden because it opens the door to demonic influence.

One of the most notable biblical stories that shows the danger of familiar spirits involves King Saul. In 1 Samuel 28, Saul, desperate for guidance after God stopped speaking to him, visits the Witch of Endor. He asks her to summon the spirit of the prophet Samuel. However, instead of Samuel, a deceptive spirit appears, giving Saul false counsel. This interaction leads to Saul’s eventual downfall, proving how dangerous it is to consult spirits, even if they appear to be loved ones or revered figures.

How Demons Imitate

Demons have been around for a long time. They observe families and individuals over many years, which allows them to learn details about people’s lives. By using this knowledge, demons can impersonate deceased family members with alarming accuracy. They may appear as a deceased parent, sibling, or friend, speaking in ways that feel familiar, even down to their tone of voice and mannerisms. These imitations can be so convincing that it’s easy to believe the spirit is truly the loved one.

However, the Bible warns that these spirits are not the souls of the dead but rather demonic forces trying to deceive. In 2 Corinthians 11:14, it says, “And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.” This means that Satan and his demons can disguise themselves as something good, something comforting, to mislead people.

The Role of Satan: A Deceiver and Murderer

Satan’s primary aim is to deceive. Jesus Himself described Satan in John 8:44 as “a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him.” Satan uses lies, manipulation, and deception to lead people away from God. He doesn’t come with obvious evil; instead, he often appears as an “angel of light”—something good, something trustworthy. This makes him incredibly dangerous, as people are more likely to follow his lies if they seem like truth.

Familiar spirits, then, are just one of Satan’s many tools. They disguise themselves as familiar, comforting figures to gain a person’s trust, making them more likely to follow their false messages. They may claim to bring messages from beyond the grave or offer advice, but in reality, their only goal is to lead people astray.

The Bible’s Truth About Life After Death

The Bible clearly teaches that after death, a person’s fate is determined. Hebrews 9:27 states, “It is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment.” There is no biblical support for the idea that the dead can return to communicate with the living (Ecclesiastes 9:5-6, Job 7:9-10, Isaiah 8:19). Instead, Scripture indicates that the souls of the deceased are either in God’s presence (Philippians 1:23, 2 Corinthians 5:8, Luke 23:43) or in a place of waiting, anticipating final judgment (Luke 16:22-23, 2 Peter 2:9, Revelation 20:12-15).

Any spirit that appears to be a deceased person is not truly their soul but rather a deceptive manifestation meant to mislead. Matthew 22:32 affirms this distinction, where Jesus says, “I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. God is not the God of the dead, but of the living.” This passage emphasizes the separation between the living and the dead, reinforcing that once someone has passed away, they do not return to interact with the living.

How Familiar Spirits Manifest

Familiar spirits are not limited to appearing in human form; they manifest in many ways to create an emotional bond with the grieving person. These spirits have studied their target families for years, allowing them to replicate sounds, smells, appearances, and behaviors that make their deception seem more genuine.

1. Scents:

One of the most common ways familiar spirits manifest is through the use of scent. People who have lost a loved one might suddenly experience a familiar smell—such as a favorite perfume, cigarette smoke, or a unique scent that reminds them of the deceased. These smells can be incredibly powerful, evoking vivid memories and feelings of closeness. For instance, someone who recently lost a mother might suddenly smell her perfume or cooking odors from her favorite dish. While the scent seems comforting, it is important to recognize that this is a demonic attempt to manipulate emotions and reinforce the illusion that the deceased is still present.

2. Ghostly Appearances:

Familiar spirits are also known to appear as ghostly figures. People often report seeing shadows or apparitions of loved ones shortly after their passing. These ghostly figures might appear in dreams or even in the waking world, seeming to stand in the corner of a room or walk through a house. For those in deep mourning, these experiences can feel very real, and the person may believe their loved one is reaching out from the beyond. But these “ghosts” are actually demons using the appearance of the deceased to deceive and distract the grieving person from the truth.

3. Dreams and Visions:

Dreams are another common way for familiar spirits to interact with the living. A person grieving a loss may have vivid dreams in which the deceased loved one appears, offering advice, comfort, or even warnings. These dreams can seem incredibly realistic, and the emotional bond between the dreamer and the deceased can make them feel even more genuine. In these dreams, the loved one may speak words of reassurance or say something familiar, like “I’m okay now” or “Don’t worry, I’m watching over you.” These spirits often use dreams to sow confusion, making the person believe their loved one is still trying to communicate, when in fact, it is a demonic deception meant to mislead.

How to Protect Yourself from Deception

The Bible calls believers to resist the deceptive tactics of familiar spirits and to seek God’s protection. During times of grief, it is tempting to look for comfort anywhere, but turning to familiar spirits for solace is spiritually dangerous. Instead, God encourages us to find comfort in Him alone.

Ephesians 6:11 tells believers, “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” The armor of God includes prayer, reading Scripture, and relying on the strength of the Holy Spirit to resist demonic influence. These spiritual practices help believers stay grounded in the truth, which protects them from the lies of familiar spirits.

Psalm 34:18 offers a promise for those grieving: “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” God’s healing is the true comfort that grieving hearts need, not the false solace offered by familiar spirits.

It is also important to avoid any practice of necromancy, seeking contact with the dead, or consulting mediums. These practices open doors for demonic influence and bring spiritual danger. Instead, seek God’s Word and prayer to find peace and healing during grief.

Conclusion

Familiar spirits are one of the many ways Satan tries to deceive and lead people astray. These demons can imitate family members or loved ones who have passed away, using their knowledge of your life to appear genuine. However, the Bible teaches that once someone dies, they are either with God or awaiting judgment. Any spirit that pretends to be a loved one is a lie meant to deceive you. To protect yourself, it’s important to stay grounded in God’s truth and avoid seeking out spirits, trusting instead in His Word and guidance.

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Breaking Free from the Orphan Spirit, Self-Pity, and Victim Mentality

The spirit of self-pity is a powerful and deceptive force that keeps people trapped in cycles of discouragement, victimhood, and isolation. It is a subdivision of the orphan spirit, which operates through feelings of rejection, abandonment, and a lack of true identity in Christ. While the orphan spirit causes people to feel fatherless—struggling with belonging and love—the spirit of self-pity keeps them focused on their pain, disappointments, and perceived injustices rather than on God’s truth and healing.

The world is filled with people who, despite their successes or outward confidence, struggle with a deep-rooted sense of rejection, abandonment, and victimhood. This unseen yet powerful force is often referred to as the orphan spirit—a mindset that convinces people they are alone, unwanted, and must fight for everything on their own.

Closely tied to this is the spirit of self-pity and victim mentality, which leads individuals to dwell on past hurts, blame others for their struggles, and believe that life is unfairly stacked against them. But there is good news: God never intended for us to live as orphans, slaves to our past, or prisoners of self-pity. Through Christ, we are offered sonship, freedom, and identity as beloved children of God. This article explores the orphan spirit, its effects, and how we can fully embrace our God-given identity through the renewal of our minds.

Understanding the Spirit of Self-Pity and Victim Mentality

Characteristics of the Spirit of Self-Pity

1. Victim Mentality – A person under this influence constantly feels like life is unfair, that others are against them, and that they are always on the receiving end of mistreatment.

2. Emotional Paralysis – Instead of seeking healing or moving forward, self-pity keeps people stuck in their wounds, reliving past hurts instead of embracing growth.

3. Attention-Seeking Behavior – Those struggling with self-pity may often seek affirmation from others, hoping to receive sympathy rather than seeking true healing from God.

4. Resentment and Bitterness – When self-pity goes unchecked, it can turn into deep resentment toward God and others, leading to an inability to forgive.

5. Isolation and Loneliness – It convinces people that no one understands them or cares, reinforcing the orphan spirit’s lie that they are alone.

How It Ties into the Orphan Spirit

The orphan spirit makes people feel unloved, unwanted, and abandoned, leading them to seek identity and worth outside of God. The spirit of self-pity then feeds off this orphan mindset, reinforcing the idea that “no one cares” or “God has forgotten me.” This combination prevents people from embracing their identity as sons and daughters of God, keeping them in bondage to their emotions, past experiences, and negative perceptions of life.

Understanding the Orphan Spirit

The orphan spirit is not just about being physically fatherless; it is a spiritual condition that makes people feel abandoned, rejected, and unworthy. Those who struggle with this spirit often:

• Feel like they must earn love and approval

• Live in constant fear of rejection

• Have difficulty trusting others, including God

• Struggle with deep-seated insecurities

• Operate in self-reliance rather than surrender to God

This mindset is dangerous because it keeps people from fully embracing the love and security that God offers. Instead of seeing themselves as sons and daughters of God, they see themselves as outsiders looking in—never truly belonging.

Romans 8:15 (NIV) – “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry out, ‘Abba, Father.’”

God calls us His children, not orphans. To live in an orphan spirit is to deny the full inheritance and identity He has given us.

How Family Wounds Contribute to the Orphan Spirit

The Connection Between the Orphan Spirit, Self-Pity, and a Victim Mentality

Many people struggle with the orphan spirit, self-pity, and a victim mentality because of deep wounds from past relationships—especially with parents, family, or authority figures. When we experience rejection, neglect, or abandonment, it can shape how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and even how we view God.

These wounds can make us feel like:

We are unloved or not good enough.

We must strive for approval and prove our worth.

No one truly understands or cares about us.

We are alone, with no one to protect or provide for us.

If these wounds are not healed, they can open the door for the orphan spirit, leading to self-pity and a victim mentality.

1. How Family Wounds Create the Orphan Spirit

Many struggles with identity and self-worth begin in childhood, often due to broken relationships with fathers, mothers, or caregivers.

Father Wounds

The father’s role is to provide love, protection, guidance, and affirmation. If a father was absent, neglectful, abusive, or emotionally distant, it can lead to:

Feeling unwanted or rejected—leading to an orphan spirit.

Struggling to trust authority—thinking that leadership will always fail or abandon you.

Seeking approval through performance—believing love must be earned.

Fear of rejection—assuming others will eventually leave or betray you.

How This Affects Your Relationship with God:

• You may struggle to see God as a loving, trustworthy Father.

• You might think you have to earn God’s love instead of receiving it freely.

• You may feel that God is distant, silent, or uninterested in your struggles.

Mother Wounds

A mother provides nurturing, comfort, and emotional security. If a mother was overly critical, absent, or emotionally unavailable, it can cause:

Insecurity and low self-worth—feeling like you’re never “good enough.”

Fear of abandonment—leading to clinginess or extreme independence.

Seeking validation from unhealthy relationships—trying to fill the emotional void.

Self-pity and emotional instability—constantly feeling rejected or unloved.

How This Affects Your Relationships:

• You may struggle with emotional intimacy, either fearing closeness or becoming overly dependent.

• You may seek constant validation from others, feeling empty without external approval.

• You might have difficulty receiving love, believing you are unworthy of it.

Family and Generational Patterns

Beyond parents, family culture can reinforce the orphan spirit. If you grew up in an environment of:

Dysfunction, brokenness, or divorce—you may feel unsafe and abandoned.

Comparison or favoritism—you may feel unseen or unworthy.

Emotional or physical abuse—you may struggle with fear, anger, or self-hatred.

How This Affects Your Mindset:

• You may develop a victim mentality, feeling like life is unfair and always against you.

• You may live in self-pity, believing you will never be loved, helped, or valued.

• You may expect rejection and failure, making it hard to trust or take risks.

How the Orphan Spirit Leads to Self-Pity and a Victim Mentality

When people experience deep wounds, they often feel powerless and abandoned, which can lead to self-pity and a victim mindset.

Signs of Self-Pity & Victim Mentality:

Blaming Others – Feeling like your life is unfair because of what others have done to you.

Feeling Powerless – Believing that you can’t change your life or move forward.

Constantly Seeking Sympathy – Wanting people to feel sorry for you instead of seeking healing.

Resisting Accountability – Rejecting correction because it feels like further rejection.

Fearing Rejection – Assuming that people will abandon or betray you.

Living in the Past – Focusing on past hurts instead of God’s healing and future plans.

Self-pity keeps you trapped because it shifts focus from healing to hopelessness. It makes people believe:

• “No one understands me.”

• “Nothing ever goes right for me.”

• “I’ll always be broken, rejected, or abandoned.”

But these are lies from the enemy! God has called you to freedom, healing, and victory.

Self-Assessment: Do You Have an Orphan Spirit or a Spirit of Sonship?

Orphan Spirit vs. Sonship Questionnaire

This questionnaire is designed to help identify whether someone is operating from an orphan spirit or living in the sonship that God has given through Christ. Answer each question honestly.

Part 1: Identity & Relationship with God

1. Do you struggle to believe that God truly loves and accepts you?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

2. Do you feel like you have to earn God’s love through performance, good works, or striving?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

3. When you sin or make a mistake, do you feel like you must hide from God or that He is angry with you?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

4. Do you see yourself as God’s beloved child, or do you feel more like a servant/slave in His kingdom?

• □ I feel more like a servant (Orphan)

• □ I know I’m His beloved child (Sonship)

Part 2: Relationship with Others

5. Do you often compare yourself to others, feeling either inferior or superior?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

6. Do you struggle with jealousy or competition, feeling the need to prove yourself?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

7. Do you have trouble trusting others, fearing that they will reject or abandon you?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

8. Do you struggle with receiving love, encouragement, or correction from spiritual leaders or mentors?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

Part 3: Emotional and Mental State

9. Do you often feel lonely, unwanted, or like you don’t belong?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

10. Do you battle self-pity, feeling like no one understands or cares about you?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

11. Do you live with a constant fear of failure, rejection, or abandonment?

• □ Yes (Orphan)

• □ No (Sonship)

12. Do you feel secure in your identity in Christ, knowing you are loved regardless of circumstances?

• □ No (Orphan)

• □ Yes (Sonship)

Part 4: Spiritual Growth & Freedom

13. When you pray, do you feel like a child talking to their loving Father, or do you feel distant from God?

• □ Distant/Disconnected (Orphan)

• □ Close/Intimate (Sonship)

14. Do you struggle with condemnation and guilt, or do you walk in the confidence of God’s grace?

• □ I struggle with guilt (Orphan)

• □ I walk in grace (Sonship)

15. Do you serve God out of love and joy, or out of duty and obligation?

• □ Duty/Obligation (Orphan)

• □ Love/Joy (Sonship)

How to Evaluate Your Answers

• If you answered mostly “Orphan”, it’s likely that the orphan spirit is influencing your thoughts, emotions, and actions. But the good news is that God is calling you into freedom, identity, and sonship!

• If you answered mostly “Sonship”, you are walking in your identity as a child of God, but continue to grow in His love and confidence.

Would you like help in moving from an orphan mindset to fully embracing your sonship in Christ?

Reborn and Led by The Spirit

As born-again Christians, we are spiritually reborn and called to live by the Spirit, not by the mindset of the world. Galatians 3:26-29 states:

“For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”

This passage reminds us that in Christ, we are a new creation, no longer bound by worldly divisions, labels, or old identities. The orphan spirit—including self-pity—is tied to the old way of thinking, where people define themselves by past wounds, social status, or human identity rather than their identity in Christ.

Renewing the Mind and Overcoming the Orphan Spirit

Romans 12:2 emphasizes this transformation:

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

This renewal happens through:

1. Obeying the Holy Spirit – The Spirit leads us into truth, teaching us to reject self-pity, fear, and an orphan mindset. (John 16:13)

2. Thinking Differently from the World – The world teaches us to dwell on pain, offense, and injustice, but we are called to focus on God’s truth, love, and purpose. (Colossians 3:2)

3. Walking in Sonship – Instead of acting like spiritual orphans—seeking validation, striving, or feeling abandoned—we rest in the reality that we are God’s children, fully loved and accepted. (Romans 8:15-17)

Living as Spirit-Led, Reborn Christians

If we truly follow the leading of the Holy Spirit, we won’t allow self-pity, victimhood, or worldly thinking to dominate our lives. Instead, we will:

Walk in boldness and confidence in our identity as children of God.

Refuse to dwell on past hurts because we know we are healed and redeemed.

See ourselves as God sees us—not by worldly status, race, or background, but as part of God’s kingdom.

Live in gratitude and faith, knowing that we are heirs of the promise.

How to Practically Walk in Sonship and Reject the Orphan Spirit

Living as a renewed, Spirit-led believer means intentionally rejecting old thought patterns and embracing our identity in Christ daily. Here’s how you can walk this out practically:

Renew Your Mind Daily with God’s Word

• Meditate on Scripture – Read and declare verses about your identity in Christ, such as:

• Romans 8:15-17 – “You have received the Spirit of adoption, by whom we cry, ‘Abba, Father!’”

• Ephesians 1:4-5 – “He predestined us for adoption to Himself as sons through Jesus Christ.”

• Replace Lies with Truth – Whenever thoughts of self-pity, rejection, or fear come, speak God’s truth over yourself.

Breaking Free from the Spirit of Self-Pity

1. Recognise It as a Spiritual Battle

Self-pity is not just an emotional issue; it is a spiritual stronghold that must be confronted with truth. The enemy uses self-pity to keep people inward-focused and defeated, but God calls us to walk in faith, freedom, and victory (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).

2. Repent and Renounce It

Acknowledge self-pity as a sinful mindset that contradicts God’s promises. Repent for believing the lies of the enemy, renounce self-pity in prayer, and ask for God’s forgiveness.

3. Embrace Your Identity in Christ

The antidote to the orphan spirit is sonship. God has not left us as orphans—He calls us His beloved children:

“For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, ‘Abba, Father.’” (Romans 8:15)

Meditate on scriptures that affirm God’s love and your position as His child (Galatians 4:7, John 1:12).

4. Shift Focus to Gratitude

Self-pity thrives on what is lacking, but gratitude shifts the focus to God’s blessings and faithfulness.

“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Start keeping a gratitude journal—write down daily testimonies of God’s goodness.

5. Engage in Spiritual Warfare

Pray against the stronghold of self-pity and declare God’s truth over your life. Use scriptures like:

• Isaiah 41:10 – “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.”

• 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”

• Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

6. Seek Godly Community

Isolation fuels self-pity, but healing happens in community. Surround yourself with believers who will encourage you, speak life into you, and hold you accountable.

Walking in Freedom and Sonship

The spirit of self-pity is a deceptive tool of the enemy, keeping people trapped in pain and powerlessness. But God calls His children to live in freedom, faith, and fullness.

By rejecting self-pity and embracing God’s love and truth, we can break free from the orphan spirit and walk in our true identity as beloved sons and daughters of God.

Declare This Today:

“I am not an orphan! I am a child of God, loved, accepted, and chosen. I reject self-pity, and I walk in the fullness of God’s promises for my life!”

God has not forgotten you. He has not abandoned you. You are His child—chosen, loved, and set apart for His glory.

It’s time to rise above self-pity, cast off the orphan spirit, and step into the abundant life Christ has for you.

Recognize the Lies & Replace Them with Truth

The enemy uses wounds from the past to make us believe we are alone, rejected, or unworthy. But God’s Word says:

Lie: “I am alone.” → Truth: “God will never leave me nor forsake me.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)

Lie: “I have to earn love.” → Truth: “I am accepted in the Beloved.” (Ephesians 1:6)

Lie: “I will always be rejected.” → Truth: “Nothing can separate me from God’s love.” (Romans 8:38-39)

Lie: “My past defines me.” → Truth: “Anyone in Christ is a new creation.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

These truths from God’s Word help break the power of the orphan spirit and victim mentality. Whenever you hear the lies of the enemy, counter them with God’s truth. Remember, you are loved, accepted, and chosen by God.

Forgive & Let Go of the Past

One of the biggest ways the orphan spirit and self-pity hold people captive is through unforgiveness. To fully walk in freedom, you must release any bitterness, resentment, or pain from your past.

Forgive parents or family members who hurt you.

Forgive yourself for any wrong choices you’ve made.

Forgive God if you have felt like He abandoned you.

Prayer for Forgiveness:

“Father, I forgive those who have hurt me. I release them from any debt they owe me. I choose to walk in freedom, not in bitterness. Heal my heart and fill me with Your love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

Conclusion: Embracing Your True Identity in Christ

Healing from the orphan spirit, self-pity, and victim mentality requires recognizing the lies that have held you captive and replacing them with God’s truth. These deceptive forces keep individuals trapped in cycles of rejection, discouragement, and powerlessness. However, through Christ, we are no longer orphans—we are beloved sons and daughters of God, fully accepted and deeply loved. This journey involves forgiving those who have hurt you, forgiving yourself, and allowing God to heal the wounds of your past. As you embrace your true identity, you will experience the freedom, love, and peace that only He can offer, walking in the fullness of His promises and living in the victory He has already secured for you.

Final Declaration:

I reject the orphan spirit, self-pity, and victim mentality. I embrace my identity as a beloved child of God. I walk in freedom, victory, and the fullness of His promises for my life!”Now is the time to rise up, shake off the chains of the past, and step boldly into your God-given destiny. You are no longer an orphan. You are a beloved child of God, free and victorious in Christ, walk in the power of that truth!

One Human Race: The Biblical, Scientific, and Historical Truth About Human Diversity

For centuries, societies have divided humanity into different “races” based on skin color, facial features, and other physical traits. However, both science and the Bible confirm that there is only one human race, and that racial divisions are artificial constructs created by societies, not biological realities.

The concept of race, as it is understood today, is a relatively modern idea. Ancient cultures primarily identified people by nation, language, or tribe, not by skin color or physical characteristics. The division of humanity into racial categories arose in later centuries, particularly during the Age of Exploration, the Transatlantic Slave Trade, and European colonialism, as a way to justify social hierarchies and inequalities. These divisions were not based on biblical teaching or scientific reality but were constructed to classify, separate, and control people groups for economic and political gain.

In this article, we will explore the biblical, scientific, and historical evidence that supports the truth: all humans are part of the same family, with differences being only ethnic and cultural—not racial.

1. The Biblical Perspective: One Blood, One Race

A. All Humans Descend from Adam and Eve

The Bible teaches that all people, regardless of their ethnic background, originate from one man and one woman—Adam and Eve. This means that all humans are part of a single, unified family, and there is no scriptural foundation for racial divisions.

Genesis 1:26-27 (God Creates Humanity in His Image)

“Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.’ So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”

This passage is foundational for understanding human unity. Every human being bears God’s image, meaning that no ethnic group is superior or inferior. When we are told that humans are created in the image of God, it establishes that all people have inherent dignity and worth, regardless of skin color or other physical traits. This truth was radical in ancient times, as many societies at that time viewed their own people as superior to others based on ethnicity or physical characteristics. But the Bible’s declaration that all humans reflect God’s image shatters such ideas of superiority or inferiority.

Genesis 3:20 (Eve, the Mother of All Living)

“And Adam called his wife’s name Eve, because she was the mother of all living.”

This verse reinforces the concept of one human family. All of humanity, regardless of ethnic background or physical differences, can trace its origins to Adam and Eve. There is no basis in the Bible for seeing different ethnic groups as separate “races” with inherent differences. Rather, they are branches of one family tree.

B. The Table of Nations and the Spread of Ethnic Groups

After Noah’s flood, humanity repopulated through Noah’s three sons: Shem, Ham, and Japheth (Genesis 10). These descendants spread across the earth, and it is often said that the groups of people who came from these sons are the ancestors of modern nations. Some traditions suggest:

  • Shem’s descendants became the Middle Eastern and Semitic peoples (Jews, Arabs, Assyrians).
  • Ham’s descendants spread to parts of Africa and the Middle East.
  • Japheth’s descendants migrated to Europe and parts of Asia.

But it’s important to note that the Bible never says that these sons became different races—only that they populated different regions and developed unique cultures and languages. The differences we see today are the result of geographic migration, adaptation to climates, and cultural development—not separate racial origins. As people moved to different parts of the world, they adapted to their environments, which led to variations like skin color, hair texture, and other physical traits. These are ethnic distinctions—not separate races.

C. Acts 17:26 – One Blood, All Nations

Acts 17:26

“And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth, and has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings.”

In this passage, Paul is addressing the Athenians and emphasizing that God created one common ancestor for all human beings, and from that one blood came all the nations of the earth. The term “one blood” is incredibly significant—all humans share the same basic genetic makeup, regardless of their geographic location or ethnic group. There is no biblical support for the notion of multiple races. Instead, humanity is unified by a common origin and ancestry.

D. The Curse of Ham: A Misused Doctrine

One of the most harmful misinterpretations of the Bible concerning race involves the curse of Ham. Some have claimed that the curse placed on Ham’s son, Canaan, means that the descendants of Ham, particularly African people, are cursed with dark skin. This interpretation is wrong and has been used to justify slavery and racism, but the Bible does not say this.

Genesis 9:25-27

“Then he said: ‘Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants He shall be to his brethren.’ And he said: ‘Blessed be the Lord, the God of Shem, and may Canaan be his servant. May God enlarge Japheth, and may he dwell in the tents of Shem; and may Canaan be his servant.’”

  • The curse was on Canaan, not on all of Ham’s descendants.
  • There is no mention of skin color or race in this passage. The curse refers to the subjugation of the Canaanite people (not a specific “race”) and was fulfilled in historical events, such as the Israelites conquering the Canaanite lands.
  • Misinterpreting this curse as relating to race has caused much harm throughout history, especially in justifying slavery and apartheid. The Bible never links skin color with sin or curse, and using it to justify racism is both biblically and historically inaccurate.

2. The Scientific Perspective: Genetics Proves One Human Race

A. The Human Genome Project: 99.9% Identical DNA

One of the most profound scientific studies, the Human Genome Project, concluded that all humans share 99.9% of their DNA. The differences we observe—skin color, facial features, and other genetic variations—are part of that small 0.1%. These minor differences do not justify separating humans into different “races.”

Dr. J. Craig Venter (Human Genome Project Scientist)

“Race has no genetic or scientific basis.”

This statement reflects the findings of the project. Genetic research shows that race is a social construct with no basis in our biology. Human genetic variation exists, but it does not divide neatly into the categories that traditional concepts of race have proposed.

Why Do People Look Different?

The physical differences we see today, such as skin color, are the result of adaptation to environmental factors over time, not the result of fundamentally different races.

  • People in hot, sunny climates (such as in Africa and parts of Southeast Asia) developed darker skin to protect themselves from the harmful effects of UV radiation.
  • People in colder, less sunny regions (like Europe and northern Asia) developed lighter skin to better absorb sunlight for Vitamin D synthesis.

These adaptations occurred over many generations and in response to environmental pressures, not because different “races” were created. The differences are ethnic and environmental rather than racial.

B. Anthropology: No Biological Race Categories

Scientists agree that humans are all one species, Homo sapiens, with variations in traits that result from both genetic adaptation and cultural evolution. Modern anthropology no longer classifies humans into “races” but instead focuses on ethnic and cultural diversity, acknowledging that the idea of race is a social construct, not a biological reality.

Dr. John H. Relethford (Biological Anthropologist)

“The idea of race is a cultural, not a biological, reality.”

This means that while there are ethnic groups with distinct cultural, linguistic, and physical traits, these groups do not correspond to separate biological races. Humans share a common ancestry, and what we identify as different “races” are merely groups of people with different ethnic backgrounds and adaptations.


3. The Historical Perspective: The Invention of Race

A. Ancient Civilizations Saw Ethnic Differences, Not Races

In ancient times, people identified themselves by nation, tribe, and language, not by physical characteristics like skin color. For instance, the Hebrews (in the Bible) referred to their neighbors by their nationality (Egyptians, Canaanites, etc.), and these distinctions were based on cultural identity, not race. The concept of “race” did not exist in the ancient world in the way we think of it today.

B. The Creation of Racial Categories

1, The Age of Exploration (1400s–1700s): As European explorers began to travel and make contact with different parts of the world, they started classifying people based on observable physical differences, such as skin color, hair texture, and facial features. This process led to the creation of the idea of “races”—distinct categories of people based on these differences. The colonization of Africa, the Americas, and parts of Asia further solidified these classifications as European colonizers often justified their domination over indigenous peoples through the supposed inferiority of non-European “races.”

2.The Scientific Racism Movement (1700s–1800s): During the 18th and 19th centuries, scientists like Carl Linnaeus and Georges-Louis Leclerc, Comte de Buffon began to attempt categorizing humans into different “races.” Linnaeus, for example, divided humans into four races based on geographic location and physical traits: Europeans (white), Asians (yellow), Africans (black), and Native Americans (red). This artificial classification system laid the groundwork for later racist ideologies, including the belief in the inherent superiority of white Europeans and the inferiority of other races.

3. The 20th Century and the Rise of Modern Genetics: As science advanced, especially in the fields of genetics and anthropology, it became increasingly clear that the concept of race had no biological basis. By the mid-20th century, the Human Genome Project revealed that all humans are overwhelmingly similar in their genetic makeup, debunking the notion of separate biological races. Modern anthropologists and geneticists now emphasize cultural, linguistic, and ethnic differences rather than racial distinctions.

4. The Abolition of Racial Classifications in Scientific Communities: By the late 20th century, many geneticists, biologists, and anthropologists rejected the concept of race as a scientific term, recognizing it as a social construct that perpetuates harmful stereotypes, inequality, and division among people.


4. Common Objections & Misconceptions: Addressing the Challenges to the Unity of Humanity

While the idea of one human race is increasingly recognized, misconceptions and objections persist. Here, we address some common arguments against the unity of humanity and explain why they are not biblically or scientifically accurate.

A. “The Bible talks about different races, so race must exist.”

One of the most common misconceptions is the belief that the Bible talks about separate races. As we have explored, the Bible uses terms like “nations,” “tribes,” “peoples,” and “languages” to describe the diversity of humanity, but never divides people into races. In fact, the New Testament makes it clear that God’s ultimate plan is to unite all people, regardless of ethnicity. In Revelation 7:9, we see a vision of the eternal kingdom where people from every tribe, tongue, and nation are worshiping together before the throne of God. This speaks to the unity of humanity, not its division into races.

Revelation 7:9

“After these things I looked, and behold, a great multitude which no one could number, of all nations, tribes, peoples, and tongues, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, with palm branches in their hands.”

This verse supports the idea that people from all ethnicities and backgrounds will be united in Christ, worshiping together as one people, transcending any earthly divisions. The biblical message is one of unity and reconciliation.

B. “If we’re all one race, why do people look different?”

This is a valid question, and the answer lies in genetics and environmental adaptation. As humans migrated from the Garden of Eden to different parts of the world, they faced varying climates, diets, and environmental factors. Over time, these factors led to differences in skin color, hair texture, body shape, and other physical traits as a result of natural selection. However, these differences do not constitute separate races—they are ethnic distinctions within the same human species.

For example, melanin is the pigment responsible for skin color. Populations that lived in areas with high UV radiation, like near the equator, developed darker skin to protect themselves from sun damage. Conversely, populations in areas with low UV radiation, like northern Europe, developed lighter skin to better absorb sunlight and produce vitamin D. These are adaptations to environment, not evidence of separate human races.

C. “But the curse of Canaan proves that some people are inferior.”

As already discussed, the curse of Ham has been misinterpreted for centuries. The curse was not on Ham or his descendants as a whole, but specifically on Canaan, the son of Ham. Furthermore, there is no mention of skin color or race in this passage. This curse was fulfilled in the conquest of the Canaanite people by the Israelites in the Old Testament and has no theological connection to modern racial distinctions.

Genesis 9:25-27

“Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants He shall be to his brethren. And he said: ‘Blessed be the Lord, the God of Shem, and may Canaan be his servant. May God enlarge Japheth, and may he dwell in the tents of Shem; and may Canaan be his servant.'”

The Bible never associates the curse with any particular physical characteristic, and certainly not with skin color. Using this curse to justify racial prejudice or inferiority is a profound misinterpretation of Scripture.


5. Conclusion: The Unity of Humanity in God’s Eyes

The concept of race as we know it today is a relatively recent invention and has no basis in Scripture or biology. Both the Bible and modern science affirm that all humans are part of the same species, created in the image of God, with only cultural, ethnic, and environmental differences. From a biblical perspective, God created one humanity, and He desires the reconciliation of all people, regardless of their background or ethnicity. Racial distinctions—whether based on skin color, facial features, or other superficial traits—are artificial and should not be used to divide humanity.

In God’s kingdom, there is no room for racial superiority or inferiority, as all nations, tribes, and tongues will stand before Him in worship, united as one people. Our differences, rather than separating us, should be celebrated as part of God’s beautiful, diverse creation. It is our shared humanity, created by God, that binds us together and makes us one race: the human race.


6. Further Reading & References

Here are some resources for further study on the unity of humanity, the concept of race, and the biblical and scientific perspectives on human diversity:

Books:

  1. “One Blood: Parting Words to the Church on Race, Culture, and the Church” by Ken Ham
  2. “Is God a Racist?: The Bible and the Problem of Race” by William P. Brown
  3. “The Human Story: Our Evolution from Prehistoric Ancestors to Today” by Peter J. Ucko and Robert L. C. S. Smith

Articles:

  1. “The Myth of Race” by Dr. C. R. Wright – A detailed scientific exploration of race and ethnicity.
  2. “Race and the Bible” by Dr. Tony Evans – A biblical perspective on human unity.

Websites:

  1. Answers in Genesis (answersingenesis.org) – Offers in-depth articles and resources on race and the Bible.
  2. The Genetic Literacy Project (geneticliteracyproject.org) – Covers the science of genetics and debunks racial myths.

Bible Passages to Study:

  • Genesis 1:26-27 – Humans are made in God’s image.
  • Genesis 9:25-27 – The curse of Canaan and its misinterpretation.
  • Acts 17:26 – We are all from one blood.
  • Revelation 7:9 – Every tribe, tongue, and nation worshiping together.

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Bait and Switch: The Overlooked Reality of Attraction and Intimacy in Marriage

Marriage is a lifelong covenant designed by God, built on faith, love, and commitment. However, while the spiritual and emotional aspects of marriage are rightly emphasised in Christian circles, one crucial element is often overlooked or dismissed—physical attraction. Many Christian men express frustration over what can only be described as a “bait and switch” scenario. Before marriage, a woman may take great care in her appearance, staying in shape, dressing well, and presenting herself in an attractive manner. Yet, once she secures a husband, she may stop making an effort, assuming that because they are now married for life, her husband must love her regardless of how she changes.

This is not about natural aging, pregnancy, health conditions, or the inevitable shifts that come with life. It is about an intentional mindset that once married, a woman no longer needs to put in the same effort she once did. If a husband expresses dissatisfaction, he is often labelled as shallow or unloving, with the expectation that he should “just get over it.” However, this ignores a fundamental truth—men are visual creatures, designed by God to respond to attraction. While a godly man does not base his love solely on looks, attraction remains an important component of a healthy marriage, and to disregard it entirely is unfair and unrealistic.

Physical Attraction Matters in Marriage

The Bible acknowledges the role of attraction in marriage. In Genesis 24:67, when Isaac took Rebekah as his wife, it is explicitly stated that “he loved her.” This love was not purely spiritual or emotional—it included a natural, God-given attraction. The Song of Solomon further emphasises the importance of desire and admiration between husband and wife, celebrating the physical and emotional bond between them.

Unfortunately, some Christian women assume that once they are married, their husband’s love should be unconditional to the point where attraction no longer matters. While love should be steadfast, attraction is something that requires nurturing. Just as a woman desires emotional security and affection, a man desires a wife who continues to care for herself—not for the world, but for him.

The Husband’s Perspective

Imagine if a husband, once emotionally available and romantic before marriage, suddenly stopped expressing love, ceased taking his wife on dates, and no longer made an effort to make her feel special. Would she not feel hurt? Would she not feel shortchanged? The same principle applies when a woman who once prioritised self-care completely disregards it after marriage.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and both spouses should strive to remain attractive to one another—not to chase worldly beauty standards but to maintain the qualities that first drew them together. If a husband gains weight, stops grooming himself, or no longer puts effort into his appearance, his wife may also feel less attracted to him. While this issue often affects women more prominently, it is important to acknowledge that men, too, have a responsibility to maintain themselves for their wives. However, the key difference is that women are generally more emotionally driven, while men are more visually oriented. A wife may not care as much if her husband puts on a few extra pounds, but if he becomes emotionally distant, that is far more damaging to her attraction toward him.

Proverbs 31 and Biblical Womanhood

Many argue that a woman’s character is more important than her looks, and this is absolutely true. Proverbs 31 presents the ideal godly woman, praising her wisdom, diligence, and virtue. However, this passage also acknowledges that she takes care of herself physically. Proverbs 31:17 states, “She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms,” indicating that she maintains her health and energy. Proverbs 31:22 describes her dressing well: “She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.” This shows that a godly woman does not neglect her appearance but rather presents herself with dignity and care.

Some point to 1 Timothy 2:9-10, where Paul advises women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, rather than focusing on elaborate hairstyles and expensive clothing. However, this does not mean that appearance is unimportant—it simply warns against vanity and superficiality. Paul’s message is that beauty should not be only external but should be accompanied by godliness and good deeds.

The reality is that character is golden. A woman who is loving, kind, and nurturing, like Sarah was to Abraham, is truly valuable. 1 Peter 3:3-6 speaks of the “unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,” which is of great worth in God’s sight. Sarah was not only known for her inner beauty but was also physically attractive (Genesis 12:11, Genesis 20:2). She remained a faithful and honourable wife, demonstrating that both character and appearance play a role in a healthy marriage.

Attraction Is in the Eye of the Beholder

It is important to note that attraction is subjective. What one person finds beautiful, another may not. A woman does not need to conform to worldly beauty standards, nor does she need to look the same at 45 as she did at 21. What truly matters is that a husband and wife remain attracted to one another and make an effort to maintain that attraction throughout their marriage.

Attraction is not just about weight, fashion, or hairstyles—it is also about attitude, energy, and self-respect. A woman who carries herself with confidence, grace, and femininity will always be attractive to her husband, even as she ages. Similarly, a husband who remains strong, responsible, and loving will continue to be desirable to his wife.

Defrauding in Marriage: The Biblical Perspective

Paul addresses an important issue in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, where he warns against defrauding one’s spouse in marriage:

“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

While this passage primarily speaks about physical intimacy, the principle of defrauding can be extended to other aspects of marriage. When a spouse withholds something that is rightfully due to their partner—whether it be love, attention, affection, or even effort in maintaining attraction—it can lead to frustration, resentment, and temptation.

Withholding Sex as a Form of Control: The Silent Struggle in Marriage

One of the most overlooked yet significant issues in marriage is the use of sex as a tool for control and manipulation. While both men and women have emotional and physical needs, the way they experience intimacy often differs. For many men, sex is not just a physical act but a deeply emotional connection—it is how they feel desired, valued, and close to their spouse. However, when sex is withheld, whether intentionally or passively, it can lead to deep feelings of rejection, frustration, and even resentment.

The Weaponization of Intimacy

In some marriages, sex becomes a bargaining chip—something that is granted only when certain conditions are met. A wife might withhold intimacy to express dissatisfaction, punish her husband, or exert control over the relationship. This can create a toxic cycle where physical intimacy, which is meant to be a source of unity, turns into a power struggle.

Similarly, some men withhold emotional connection or affection, knowing that their wives crave love and emotional security. While this is not always done consciously, it is just as damaging. Both forms of manipulation—whether through withholding sex or emotional intimacy—erode trust and create distance in the marriage.

The Biblical Perspective on Sexual Intimacy

Scripture is clear about the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. In 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, Paul writes:

“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan will not be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

This passage makes it clear that sex is not merely a privilege in marriage but a mutual responsibility. It is a gift from God designed to foster closeness, unity, and even protection from temptation. When one spouse consistently withholds intimacy without a valid reason, it can lead to emotional disconnection and, in some cases, drive the other toward temptation.

Understanding the Needs of a Spouse

Many women fail to realize how deeply rejection in the bedroom affects a man’s self-esteem and overall well-being. For men, sex is often tied to their sense of masculinity and desirability. When a wife repeatedly shows disinterest or dismisses her husband’s need for intimacy, he may begin to feel unwanted or unloved.

On the other hand, when men neglect their wife’s emotional needs—failing to provide affection, security, or appreciation—it can lead to disinterest in physical intimacy from their wives. A woman who feels emotionally abandoned may struggle to desire her husband, not because she is withholding sex intentionally, but because she does not feel connected to him in the way she needs.

The key to a fulfilling marriage is recognizing that both spouses have needs that must be met. A man needs to feel desired just as much as a woman needs to feel cherished. When both partners make a conscious effort to nurture each other’s emotional and physical well-being, intimacy becomes a natural and joyful expression of love rather than a battleground for power.

Moving Toward Healing

If a couple finds themselves in a sexless or intimacy-starved marriage, the first step is honest communication. Resentment and frustration build when needs are not expressed or understood. A husband and wife must have open discussions about their desires, struggles, and expectations, seeking to understand each other rather than blame.

Additionally, prayer and biblical guidance can help restore intimacy in a marriage. When Christ is at the centre, love becomes selfless rather than transactional. True intimacy is not about control, but about giving freely, serving one another, and strengthening the marital bond in a way that reflects God’s love.

By addressing these issues with humility and a commitment to mutual satisfaction, couples can break free from the destructive cycle of withholding and resentment—replacing it with a marriage that is fulfilling, passionate, and deeply connected in the way God intended.

The Biggest Breakdown of Marriage for a Man: Feeling Undesired and Unwanted

For many men, the single most devastating issue in marriage is feeling undesired and unwanted—a reality that often stems from a lack of physical intimacy. While women generally prioritize emotional connection in relationships, men often experience love and closeness primarily through sexual intimacy. When this aspect of marriage deteriorates, it can create a deep emotional wound that many men struggle to express.

The Emotional Impact of a Sexless Marriage

Contrary to the common stereotype that men only desire sex for physical pleasure, most men view intimacy as a core part of feeling valued, respected, and loved. When a wife consistently rejects her husband’s advances or shows little interest in being intimate, he doesn’t just experience frustration—he internalizes it as rejection.

A man in a sexless marriage may begin to feel:

Unattractive – He wonders if his wife no longer finds him desirable.

Unloved – He questions whether she still cares for him beyond practical aspects of life.

Disconnected – He feels distant from his wife, as though they are merely roommates rather than partners.

Resentful – He grows bitter, feeling like he was “baited and switched” into a relationship where his needs no longer matter.

Vulnerable to Temptation – While infidelity is never justified, a neglected man is more susceptible to outside temptation, whether through pornography, emotional affairs, or physical unfaithfulness.

Men often suffer in silence because society dismisses their need for intimacy as trivial or purely physical. They are told to “just get over it” or that their wives are “too busy, too tired, or just not interested.” But no man wants to beg for intimacy in his own marriage—especially when he feels that his wife simply “can’t be bothered” anymore.

The Power of a Wife’s Desire

Many women don’t realize the power their desire holds over their husband’s confidence and well-being. A wife who actively engages in intimacy—who initiates, who expresses desire, who makes an effort—has the ability to uplift and empower her husband in ways that go far beyond the bedroom.

The opposite is also true. When a wife continuously rejects or avoids intimacy, it creates a painful emotional divide that is incredibly difficult to repair. A man who feels undesired in his own home will eventually stop trying, withdrawing emotionally and even physically from the marriage.

The Biblical Warning Against Withholding Intimacy

Scripture directly warns against this issue. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 makes it clear that both husbands and wives have a responsibility to meet each other’s needs. This passage emphasizes that intimacy in marriage is not a privilege—it is a fundamental part of the covenant. While there may be times when a spouse is not in the mood or faces legitimate struggles (health issues, stress, emotional wounds), outright refusal or disinterest over a prolonged period can be deeply damaging.

A Two-Way Street: Emotional and Physical Connection

It’s important to note that men also have a role to play. If a husband neglects his wife’s emotional needs, fails to make her feel cherished, or treats sex as an entitlement rather than an act of love, she may naturally withdraw. Just as men desire physical intimacy, women desire emotional security and connection.

A healthy marriage requires both spouses to actively nurture the relationship. When a husband makes an effort to love, cherish, and emotionally connect with his wife, and when a wife makes an effort to engage in and enjoy intimacy, both partners feel valued and fulfilled.

Restoring Intimacy and Desire in Marriage

If a marriage is struggling in this area, honest and open communication is the first step. A husband should be able to express how deeply this affects him without fear of being dismissed, and a wife should feel safe enough to share any emotional or physical barriers she may be experiencing.

Prioritize the marriage – Make time for intimacy, date nights, and emotional reconnection.

Break the cycle of rejection – Small acts of physical touch, flirtation, and closeness can rebuild attraction.

Seek biblical guidance – Prayer, counseling, and scriptural wisdom can help couples realign their priorities.

Ultimately, marriage thrives on mutual desire, effort, and connection. When both husband and wife are committed to meeting each other’s needs—physically and emotionally—the relationship remains strong, fulfilling, and in alignment with God’s design.

A Godly Marriage Is Built on Love, Respect, and Effort

Marriage is not about perfection, but it is about effort. A wife does not need to strive for an impossible beauty ideal, just as a husband does not need to be a flawless provider or emotional rock at all times. However, both should continue to make an effort—physically, emotionally, and spiritually—because effort is a sign of love.

A godly marriage is one where both partners strive to be the best versions of themselves—not just for their own well-being, but as an act of love toward each other. When a wife remains attractive to her husband and a husband remains emotionally engaged with his wife, the marriage remains strong, fulfilling, and in alignment with God’s design.

Conclusion: Christ as the Foundation

Marriage is not just about attraction, emotions, or even companionship. It is ultimately a covenant before God, and He must remain at the centre of the relationship. A husband and wife must individually and collectively nurture their relationship with Christ, who is the head of their union and the glue that holds them together. Without Christ, even the strongest attraction and deepest love will be tested by life’s trials.

A truly successful marriage is one where both spouses strive to reflect Christ’s love—through service, selflessness, and commitment. By maintaining their relationship with Jesus, both husband and wife will have the strength, wisdom, and love needed to continually invest in their marriage. When Christ is at the centre, love deepens, respect flourishes, and attraction is naturally sustained—not just for a season, but for a lifetime.

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God Remains the Same Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow

“…This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Whoever will listen let them listen, and whoever will refuse let them refuse; for they are a rebellious people.” ~ Ezekiel 3:27

In today’s rapidly changing world—where technology, culture, and views on right and wrong are in constant flux—many wonder why they should follow a God who revealed Himself thousands of years ago. They believe that because times have changed, God should change too. However, the Bible clearly tells us that God never changes: “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8). While everything around us may pass away, God’s Word remains eternal. As Isaiah 40:8 states, “The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.” No matter how much the world shifts, God’s truth remains unchanged.

God’s Wisdom is Greater Than Ours

Many today trust in science, human reasoning, and their own opinions, believing themselves wiser than God. Yet, the Bible teaches that God’s ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). The very minds people use to argue against God are gifts from Him. Rather than thanking Him, many reject Him and attempt to convince others to do the same, believing they know better than the Creator. True wisdom begins with respecting the Lord (Proverbs 9:10).

God’s Word is Still Relevant

Despite claims that the Bible is outdated, human nature remains unchanged. The same issues we face today—greed, lust, selfishness, violence, and pride—are the problems we see in Scripture. People are still searching for love, peace, and purpose, just as they always have. The Bible offers timeless wisdom for every generation. The world may change, but people’s need for God remains constant.

Why Do People Reject God?

People often reject God, not because of a lack of evidence, but because they want to live according to their own desires. They are aware that their actions are sinful, but instead of seeking change, they refuse to turn to God. As John 3:20 says, “Everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.” Lust and sexual immorality are some of the most powerful forces that drive people away from God. Sin causes spiritual blindness, leading individuals to choose darkness over the light of God.

The Rejection of Jesus and Mocking His Name

An important aspect of rejecting God today is the casual use of Jesus’ name as a swear word. Many people use His name in vain, as though doing so diminishes His power or significance. However, Jesus is the One who gave us salvation—He is the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). To mock His name is not merely an attempt to trivialise Him, but an effort to justify sinful lifestyles. People who use Jesus’ name in this way aim to defy His authority and reject the truth of His gospel, which calls them to turn away from sin and embrace righteousness. Instead of respecting Him, they try to diminish who He is in their minds, hoping to justify their behaviours. This is not just disrespect—it’s a rejection of the only One who offers forgiveness and eternal life.

Leading Others into Sin

Not only do some reject God, but they also try to lead others into sin. They mock God, mislead others, and present His truth as irrelevant. Jesus warned against such hypocrisy in Matthew 23:13: “You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to.” People who mislead others know their actions are wrong but try to justify their rebellion by convincing others that living according to God’s Word is foolish. This deception leads others away from the truth and towards destruction.

Why Doesn’t God Punish Those Who Mock Him?

Some question why God doesn’t punish those who mock Him. The answer is simple: God is patient. As 2 Peter 3:9 explains, “The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise… Instead, He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” God is offering everyone time to repent. His patience reflects His mercy, but one day, judgment will come, and everyone will have to answer for their actions. As Philippians 2:10-11 reminds us, “Every knee will bow, and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.”

Pray for Those Who Are Blinded

The rejection of God, especially by those who actively try to turn others away, stems from spiritual blindness. As 2 Corinthians 4:4 states, “The god of this world has blinded the minds of unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ.” Rather than harbouring anger, we must pray for those who are lost. Their blindness is not entirely their fault, as they are under the enemy’s influence. Just as Jesus prayed for His persecutors (Luke 23:34), we too must pray for God to open their eyes to the truth.

Stand Strong in Your Faith

In a world that rejects God’s truth, we must remain firm in our faith. Though the world may call us outdated or foolish, God’s Word never changes. As Hebrews 4:12 tells us, the Bible is alive and powerful. Regardless of the world’s changes, God’s love, power, and truth remain the same. As Christians, we are called to be salt and light in a world that needs the gospel. Even when others reject God, we must stand firm in His truth and pray for those who are lost, asking God to open their hearts to the message of salvation. For Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

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